Thanks so much! I really hope because it feels like we should not be together. Literally, my anxiety started one day when I asked if I found my boyfriend attractive which turns into I don't love him which turns into fear of losing him which keeps sliding into more and more fears to teh point where you can't feel anything anymore. Right after I asked the "do I find him attractive?" question, a simple question, I felt weird going forward.
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yeah I started with "do I still love him" and then thinking that I lost all feelings for him. Then thinking he not attractive and not manly enough, and then I just thought I would be bored with him and I would think I was going to be bored doing whatever we would be doing. It's really exhausting.
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Exhausting is not the word. From talking from all the girls that go through this, it is amazing that we all have the same feelings. The bored feeling, the manliness, everything.
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I must admit, I do feel better than I did a few months ago. I believe the only thing that has stuck with me is the relationship anxiety and thoughts and I'm not sure why. Makes me question if it's really how I feel or not. Yet, we have such similar situations so I have hope. Also, I think I just learned how to deal with it. Like I said it's apart of me now that I am just dealing with.
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Another problem I do have is, I'll see a guy (he doesn't even have to be attractive) and I'll be like omg he's attractive my boyfriend is not blah blah blah even though my boyfriend is beautiful! It makes no sense to me.
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Me too! It was really bad in months prior. Couldn't even go to gym with my bf. Now I start to think that I am attracted to people I used to work with, work with now, went to high school with. Everybody is a crush now all of the sudden lol. The " I am going to cheat thought" is also still strong. Just annoying.
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It could literally be anything. Anxiety could be triggered by adapting to a new job.
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Yeah I just don't understand why I would feel like this about my boyfriend for so long
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Yeah I understand you completely. Now that I take a step back, I realize that I have always had a hint of social anxiety, but it has never ever impeded my life like this relationship anxiety. Also before this started I used to always like think about if my bf died or got sick and how upset I would be. Or like if we had a family in the future and he just died and I was a widow. It wasn't impeding my daily life, but I just wonder of the fear of losing someone can cause this.
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You wonder if the fear of losing someone could cause the loss of feelings for your significant other ?
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I'm confused on how many people are speaking in this forum lol. You think you feel like this because of having a fear of losing someone?
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Look at the blog and at the archived articles on right hand side...based on what is said, yes
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Oh okay I will check it out. I think this was caused because of birth control for me. I've always been really happy before all of this so I never really thought about anyone special passing away in my life.
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