Feelings indifferent towards boyfriend after period ever since coming off birth control

Guest over a year ago

Yes I'm excited for Greece it will be nice to get away a little bit before starting college. I just think this whole situation is odd for me because I've always been so in love with him and to feel like I don't want anything to do with him anymore hurts A LOT! I am a lot better when I'm with him though so I guess that's good. In the begging of may when I stopped I thought I was back to normal until I got my text period I started to think like this. Granted, I thought that I feel out of love with him right when the birth control started to kick in and that is the reason I got off of it! ( it made me so emotional and then other days I would feel emotionless). I got my 2nd period July 1st and thought the symptoms would be the same where I would fall into that week long depression again and then feel better but instead of falling into that week long depression I've been slightly depressed but the feelings haven't gone away therefore I've had this thought in my head for almost 3 weeks. I just keep thinking in my head that if I really didn't love him anymore I would have broken up with him when I started feeling like this during birth control. Yet, the feelings are so real and I haven't had any moments of clarity in a while. I've also been sitting home and doing nothing for about a week because I have no motivation for anything so that could be another reasons it's constantly on my mind and consumes a large majority of my day.

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Guest over a year ago

if I didn't reach out to see if this was normal I'm not sure I would be with my boyfriend anymore. Obviously going to Greece I have fears that I'm not going to miss him and that I may find another guy attractive and those all scare me which is causing more anxiety. I've read that many women feel a lot better with the relationship anxiety after 6 months and look at it as a way to fall in love all over again.

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Guest over a year ago

How are you both feeling at this point with your boyfriends? Just read this thread and having similar anxieties.

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Guest over a year ago

I've been having a few great days. I'm still not back to how I used to be because I'm sure I'll have the bad days again sooner or later but it feels good to get away from the negative thoughts for a little and enjoy my time with him. How do you feel???

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Guest over a year ago

I feel that way. I can't even have fun with him ever really though, because it's always in the back of my mind. And when I do feel good for a bit, I realize the thoughts about him and how I feel, and almost feel guilty that I feel okay with him for that time, lol. I know it is the anxiety though because when I don't worry about everything (which is very uncommon, I am constantly worrying these days), I do feel my feelings for him again. I have been feeling really depressed from all this constant anxiety. :(

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Guest over a year ago

Yeah it's really depressing especially when you think about how happy you used to be. How long have you been off birth control and dealing with this?

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Guest over a year ago

Well I initially STOPPED birth control because of all this. Birth control made me severely depressed and anxious. I stopped it about 10 days ago so I'm sure it's leveling out still. I also haven't had a period in like 4 months either. You?

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Guest over a year ago

I started to feel this way on birth control and that is the reason I stopped as well. It's been almost 3 months since coming off. I have good and bad days but I know I'm not back to normal yet.

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Guest over a year ago

Good, I'm glad you stopped. I really think I can never take it again. Imagine completely changing hormonal chemistry with a synthetic pill. I'm not condoning it, it works WONDERS for many women and I'm so thankful it is readily available to women, but for me, its awful. Maybe that is just my experience with that type of pill, I don't know. I just don't think I'll ever try to find out if another one would suit me better. Do you have any pre-exisitng conditions before every going on the pill? I suffered with anxiety my whole life but pretty mild and it did NOT affect my my life at all really. My anxiety has been horrific for the past 4 months from all this...How are you today, btw?

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Guest over a year ago

I don't think I Will ever go on the pill again either. Im scared that I just don't react well when synthetic hormones. I have good days but the thoughts are always in the back of my head.

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Guest over a year ago

That's how I feel. How long were you on the pill, and which one was it, if you don't mind my asking?

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Guest over a year ago

I was on the pill for 2 months. It was called junel. You have weird feelings for your boyfriend?

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Guest over a year ago

Yea I do, that I NEVER had before. I have been with him almost 4 years too. I'm going through kind of an identity crisis though, like I don't even know who I am right now after changing my mind about my career and stuff :(

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Guest over a year ago

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and have never questioned anything until this pill. I thought stopping it would make it better but I've yet to feel like myself yet. I just feel so like blah about everything if that makes sense. I know I still love him but I just don't feel how I used to. I almost feel like I don't know him anymore or know like myself it's very odd. So maybe we feel similar in that aspect.

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Guest over a year ago

The whole process is just exhausting! It's terrible to feel like this about someone who you loved for the longest time with no problems. Also, it's hard to believe that it's the birth control that is making us feel this way. The only good things is that many people go through the same things and it's normal. It's just a little discouraging because it lasts for a while and you feel like the thoughts and unhappiness are temporary and won't go away.

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