I have considered that this could be a phsycological problem, or a question of nerves but have somewhat ruled that out. We have spoken at length about my inexperiance and she has done everything to make me relaxed and comfortable. Also, this has not only happened when I have been with a partner. I have had my penis start to go soft before ejactulation during masterbation, but it dident really concern me since I was the only one that was affected : - P. I have also found that I have a bit of a lack of sensation during sex, almost like I was a bit numb down there.
Could anyone offer me any advice? What could be the source of all this? It is really bothering me. I just want to have a normal sex life. She has been wonderful through this, I couldent ask for someone more understanding. I still, however, feel a great sense of shame. I feel like less of a man, it is really starting to affect me emotionally, I am getting more aggressive, irrateable, and mean.
I am just at my wits end here, the frustration is overwhelming. Please, if anyone out there could help me, or offer some suggestions, I would be forever grateful. Thank you.
I know its me and I know its a physical problem.
I tense my legs right before I climax...I actually have to do that in order to climax. When I've tried that while on top, I get crazy cramps in my calves and it hurts so much its instant boner kill. I also tend to use a firm death grip when I masterbate So when we have sex, I cant really feel the awesomeness of a wet vagina, its not as tight as my fist. It feels great when I first go in but after about 5 minutes it feels like im humping air.
SO. i have decided that im going to quit masturbation all together and me and my gf talked and she said she won't get so upset if it doesnt happen. When she gets upset like that, it tares me apart and only adds to the problem, not only is it physical, its also psyhcological since all I think about during sex is whats going to happen if I go soft. I hope soon my penis will get used to vagina. I'm also considering getting one of those Fleshlight toys, the ones that are supposed to be the closest thing to the real deal. If i can start using that and actually come, maybe i can retrain my penis, bring back that sensitivity I had when I first masturbated to skinimax when I was like 15. Ill let you know if this helps. Its going to take alot of willpower though.
Let me know if you've had any breakthroughs too.
Later man, good luck.
thanks
here is a suggestion from a woman whose man was having this problem when we met, but rarely anymore.... have your girlfriend put her fingers on either side of your penis as it goes in and out of her to create more pressure, it could be the sides or even just one finger giving pressure on the back side - seems to do it for him!
Hi, im a woman, my man has the same problem we have tried penis rings and a vibrating penis ring which works but only for so long is there a Solution to this for long term? as i feel i don't want him to have sex with me then keep getting upset and thinking that i'd get fed up with him and leave him. which i have told him i wouldn't and love him, and he's my life. Just wish he would go to see a doctor for his own mind set.
Ok hear is a solution ,stop
masturbating for one month and go for a 1km run every day, and at the end of the month you will not have a problem.
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ok so my problem is im 18 and i just today had sex with my current girlfriend and this was my first time doing it and i got aroused but once we put it in we went at it for a while maybe 3-5 minutes then i went soft but didnt feel as if i came and when she went to adujust i was soft. and the problem for my situation is she put me in her without the condom so im hoping that its possible for me to go soft without ejaculating. hopefully so. i mean i do smoke so i think that could also be part of it. hopefully you guys can help me out
It could be high blood pressure.....it can kill erections. In older guys it common.
I'm 45 and really starting to have this problem big time. Although things work fine enough for me when I'm by myself, I'm in a new relationship and would like things to be more normalized. Although with a cialis or viagara, I don't have the problem of going soft (I still do if I don't take one) For some reason I just take forEEEEEEEver. It's becoming discouraging because even as a young guy I took a long time, but I could still have that happy moment without too much effort.I guess this is just what sex is like over forty. But for you young guys having this problem, I would go to a doctor.I'm just going to throw this out there: I'm not a huge conspiricist with food changes through GMO, or chemicals in food, but I'm really beginning to wonder if this is, since it's affecting young bruhs too, a food chain/household chemical exposure/antibiotics in beef type situation????Does anyone else feel this may be the issue?