YOU HAVE TO TELL HER either she gets put on medication or you are going to break up with her because you can't handle the stress mentally anymore, and that she is breaking you down. if you care about her you need to tell her this. if she refuses to get help then break up with her. don't let her pull you under with her.
If she want's to spend the rest of her life with you. you need to tell her you can't be with her if she can't get her bipolarism under control and you are not going to live like that no matter how much she loves you or you love her.
You can't allow your fear that she will hurt herself make you change your decision or behaviour. It will ingrain the behaviour more, that emotional blackmail works.
No doubt she will need support, a councillor maybe or the Dr. But you shouldn't feel bad, or responsible. It's a toughie, but as a bipolar, I've been in the same situation as her, I've driven away my partners and regretted it, and learned from it. After an experience like this it's possible to get over issues like this, because you've experienced the worst that you could imagine happening, and survived it. She'll no doubt look back, as i did a few years down the line, with more self awareness, and realise what she did and why, and why you shouldn't have to put up with it.
good luck.
btw i'm bipolar to
I thought if I just Hung in there and went to therapy with her...if I just did this or that....we could "work things out..." but the only thing left to "work-out" is your own sanity for staying....the problem is no longer should I stay or should I go? The problem becomes "why should I stay and why do I put up with it?"
it's really a self-realization....while we cannot control other people...w.e CAN control OUR lives and OUR outcome.....if you are not getting what you want....and deserve....whether you are BiPolar or not...it's just time to seeka good therapist yourself and figure out why you chose this type of relationship, how to avoid it in the future, and how to seek a healthy and fulfilling relationship.....
I am 8 months pregnant and said good bye recently after my bipolar partner left on another 2 day drinking binge..I get blamed for everything and have tried to express my devastation and deterioration of trust and requested he see a psychiatrist and also address his addiction issue. This has been the most frustrating and unhealthy relationship I have experienced..emotional and psychological abuse runs rampant..even while expecting this baby..my friends are aware and do not respect him due to his treatment of me. I do love him and had hoped this child could have a family but I am scared to expose my child (my first) to this any longer. He said he'd seek a therapist.. still waiting counseling fell through...you see the potential which is why I stayed so long but the selfish, irrational and thoughtless behaviour takes its toll on you self worth. It can definitely spiral someone into a depression or anxious state. You question if your that bad of a person, why does he treat me like that..your actions are constantly twisted to justify his behaviour and harshness. It is Christmas eve and I am not certain when he will show to collect his things but he seems fine with the break up and said he did not like me and would not be rushing over to be berated. I am scared but confident I can get through this and be a great single parent.