Hi 'Guest',
I feel really sad when I read posts like yours & my first thought is always 'I hope this person finds strength & happiness'.
You have already said what your solution is- you said that you are seriously not interested in living with such a person. Then you need to leave. By the words in your post, you are concerned for your life & have not mentioned that you are trying to get him to 'change'.
You need to get out & remember that your life is not gone- it will only be beginning once you get out of your abusive marriage.
No one here is going to be able to tell you an exact 'solution'- this is YOUR life, so you need to make your own decissions. If you decide to leave your husband, there are domestic abuse charities that will be able to help you start again in life.
Good luck & please drop back & tell us how you got on.
V
First things first: You do NOT deserve to be treated like that. No matter what other people have told you in your life, you deserve kindness, respect and happiness.
This can be a very difficult situation to leave...My suggestions would be to find the name of the local women's shelter/safe house (every town has one or one nearby). They will have resources o help you decide what you need and want for your life, all while keeping you safe. In addition: get some counselling. It is a hard road to recover you sense of self worth. Quite often it can help to have an outside person point out things and listen.
Speaking from experience: it does NOT get better, it does NOT go away, it really IS that bad and you deserve to be happy!!
Please let the people out there help you. There is no shame in running from a horrible situation...many people do it every day...you can do it too!!!
Survivor
I WAS ALSO IN YOUR SHOES ONE TIME. I WAITED UNTIL HE LEFT TO WORK ONE DAY, I GATHER ALL MINE AND MY TWO KIDS CLOTHES AND LEFT. I LEFT BEHIND MOST OF MY FURNITURE AND THINGS THAT WHERE NOT NECESARY. I ALSO GOT A RESTRAINING ORDER BECAUSE HE TRIED LOOKING FOR ME AND I WAS WORIED FOR MY LIFE. YOU ALSO HAVE TO THINK ABOUT YOUR PARENTS, AND THEIR LIFE. FIND SOME ONE TO HELP YOU A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER, AND FILE A RESTRAINING ORDER ASAP.
BEST OF LUCK.
no body should be made feel like c**p or worthless. Second thing just cuz ur husband is a jerk doesnt mean ur life is over. Keep ur head up high and stand up proud. U still have ur parents and friends that think highly of u im sure. When u get rid of him continue on with ur life go back to school or whatever ur intentions in life. But u r NOBODIES property u are a human being and u have ur rights too. Dont let no ine else tell ya differently. My best wishes to u dear.