How Did U Get Pregnant??

you should do what you thing is right as far as the baby goes. i am 21 years old with a 16 month old. i stay home and raise her while her dad, my boyfriend, goes to work. we have our own apt and are doing great. keep in mind, my boyfriend is only 19. it is possible to care for a baby and give it a good life even at age 14. do not let ANYONE talk you into doing something you might regret later.

BUT you should VERY MUCH tell your parents. as hard as it may seem and as scared as you might be, its best if someone knows so they can take you to the dr. your mother would be the best choice. she will probably not like the idea of her 14 yr old being preg...but she's also a woman and mother and she was preg once and probably scared just like you. there will be inital shock, they will get angry, and probably say things to you that will be hurtful, but afterwards they will settle down and realie you have a child growing inside of you and will sit down with you to help YOU decide what to do.

without the proper medical care many dangerous and sometimes fatal circumstances can occur

remember, it is nobody elses decision on what to do with YOUR baby. YOU decide if your ready or not and try not to make your decision based on how afraid you are. Sit down, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and think about everything. What do you think is best for you and the baby. abortion is not the only option. you put yourself in a grownup situation and now you are forced to make a grownup decision.

i wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide.

hey Dove i'm 15 and i just had my bday june 4th so don't freak what i did is i went to my uncle's house and they sinced something was wrong so i told them and one of them took me home and talked to my mom for me i'm today 10 weeks pregnant so don't worry just find someone that will listen to you and that your mom will listen to and tell them... and yes i did hide behind someone because i have had scares in the past and i wasn't sure what she would do...if you are more able to talk to your father talk to him first and let him drop the bomb on your mom or the other way around...oh and here is a website for mothers-to-be and mothers....



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hey ...
i dont mean to sound judgemental to anyone or anything.. but the lifestyle i was raised in i believe that you are never to young or to old to have a baby... it just mainly depends on if you can support the child and how bad you want the baby...or if your parents are willing to help...
im 17 and i have been trying to get pregant since i was 15.. my husband and i have been pregant twice but lost the baby both times.. we are still trying to conceive...
one thing i will say though is "dont have a baby if you dont want it"... that sounds like i am telling you what to do but im not..
i love children myself and i would say keep it... but yes your parents do need to know and you do need to tell them. if you cant do that then you do need to get help from someone else close to you...i myself dont believe in abortions.. that is murder to a child..but i guess everyones different... and you got to do what you have to do!

Since you were 15! And you're married? Bloody Hell. I don't mean to sound horrible, I'm just shocked. I'm very sorry that you've lost both of your pregnancies... I do hope you good luck in the future.



I saw a story on tv once about a group of people where the females were married really young, or at the age that they can conceive, to older males who were selected by someone in their family- like an arrainged marriage. I don't mean offence at all, I'm just a very curious person!



To the 14yo, the best bet is just to tell your mum & dad. Or an adult you trust. You don't need to go through this alone. I lost my virginity at 14 and while I agree that it's too young, sometimes things just happen and that's what makes life life. I hope all turns out well for you. ^_^

i'm only 13 and think i'm pregnant

i need help i am 13 and i think i'm pregnant i use to joke around like that to my mom and she said she would be really really mad at me if i was pregnant so what do i do i need advice to

First off to all those people who are trying to tell her what to do its not your choice so please shut up. It is entirely up to her. Dont you think she feels bad enough already? this is a help forum lets try to be supportive and just let her know her options. it is her decision what to do from there. Secondly those of you who are casting judgement where do you get off? You dont even know her or what happened so keep your mindless hate spam to yourself. In my opinion at that age i would recommend an abortion due to the fact that your body might not yet be able to birth a child. and also because you have a long life ahead of you to think of. It is entirely up to you but make sure you think about what you do intently because it will affect you for the rest of your life.

Isn't it convienient that in so many of these pro-choice posts, we are told to "keep opinions to ourselves" "Don't try telling these girls what to do-it's thnot your choice." However you all end your posts with your very clear OPINIONS that you believe the girls to be too young to have a baby and think they should abort.



Do any of you young ladies know what takes place during an abortion? 75% of abortions are suction abortion, in which a suction tube literally tears apart the body of the developing baby.

D&C- A sharp spoonlike knife is used to cut and scrape the baby from the uterus. A nurse will often try to reassemble the parts of the body to make sure the womb is empty.

Those are only a couple of the common forms of early abortion.



For the lady who said that it wasn't murder because it was only cells....The heartbeat is generally used to determine life, the heartbeat begins between the 18th-25th day. (many women are not even aware they are pg at this time)



To the girls who may read this, at least consider your choices; adoption, open adoption, keeping the baby. Abortion isn't your only option.



Tell a parent or teacher or school nurse if you think you may be pg, you don't need to go through it alone and the sooner it is out the better you will feel.



I'm in no place to pass judgement, I've been there before. Jerk bf+dumb mistakes=now 10yr old son. The bf wanted me to get an abortion, but I wouldn't even consider it and I left him to go and have my baby. After all, he may have been a mistake, but he is MY mistake :) .

i was pregnant when i was 15 and now i have a wonderful 6 year old. there are many options for you. If you choose to keep the child you can get state medical to help you and yes telling your parents will be hard but they love you and will get over it sooner or later. Right after i had my son i got pregnant again and his father forced me to get an abortion because he thought i cheated on him but i didnt. Having an abortion is the only thing in life i regret it haunts me almost everyday and i still cry over that decision. Please just think about all options before you choose and know there are programs and people out there to help you

Hi Stephy21685,



In my opinion, you have words of wisdom, FAR BEYOND your years. I tip my hat to you. Though pregnancy unplanned may seem to feel like someone is "hitting the wall" so to speak, IT IS NOT IMPOSSIBLE. It frustrated me to read the post of someone saying to "shut up" basically. Im glad Im in America where we can give our opinions.



Stephy, I am sorry you are having such a rough time after having an abortion, you know you mentioned programs and people to help you, just a suggestion, there are places you can also look online for Post Abortion Recovery if you wish. I have seen some pretty amazing healing from these things. I was a Post Abortion Recovery Lay Counselor.



To the young lady who is 13, please DO talk to your mom. She may or may not get angry at first, but she is a good person to have with you. She knows you well. Use common sense and do what you feel is best. Anything I can do to help just ask, I know of some resources.



Blessings to you Stephy, in time you will heal and be whole again, it is a process, dont grow frustrated with yourself though, seek out help from a trusted person. Smile, Jesus loves you !!!



Hizgrace

ive thought i was preggers a few times, and i might be atm.. it sucks tbh, and i know how scared you feel.. %-) is really does suck. you have to talk to them, [your parents] about it, OR, go to the doctors about it,

Hi kiki_x,



Just a few words of encouragement to you and other young ladies in this forum.



I am 35 yr. old. I went through the "preggers scares" MANY times when I was younger, but was not pregnant. I know the feeling. Believe me. I thought "Oh, my mom is going to freak out and my dad is going to have a fit.". That is a natural feeling and expectation. HOWEVER, after I was married, my hubby was at sea and my mom was with me in Japan for the birth of my son, we had a little heart to heart talk. She told me "You know, sweetie, we went through some rough times.... I probably would have been feeling angry and confused and mad, but I would have gotten around and cooled off."



TRUST ME..... my mother was PRETTY strict....SUPER LOVING.... but if you are needing to tell your parents, you will find a way. Pray about it. I think that sometimes parents may perhaps feel "How did I fail? Didnt I teach her to wait to have sex? How did this happen?" . You see, believe it or not, now that I am a parent, I can somewhat understand some of the things my parents told me.





For others reading over these posts, just some thoughts that I was thinking about:



Just an observation. I often see SOOO many hateful posts. I also see posts that are one way and "everyone else zip your lips".



In my humble opinion, I believe that NOTHING is impossible without Him. A massive amount of people are handed some SUPER overwhelming circumstances in life, and THEY GROW SOOOO STRONG AND SOOO MUCH better with adversities.



It is NOT about what a person CAN OR CAN NOT handle, I dont believe. There are FAR TOOO MANY resources and people willing to help out others and objectively and lovingly be supportive. I personally knew of a young lady I once counseled whom was pregnant at 14, she had been raped and she said to me "You know, I know this BABY was not concieved the way I would have liked to happen, but this is MY BABY. I know all of the things that the "naysayers" will tell me, and I know the possible adversities that I am up against. I also know that there are some that I cannot imagine. BUT THIS IS MY BABY, and I am going to do the BEST I can with the situation I have been presented."



Of course, I sat there, with my mouth probably wide open enough to fit a mountain in and tears came to my eyes and I just felt the determination and strength from her.



You know, I have studied some of the "stats" on the actual number of pregnancies that are terminated due to rape, incest and "illness" to the mother and child. Do you know that only 5 % of the ENTIRE ABORTIONS performed YEARLY are for the reason above?



In my humble opinion, I think that as women, we should FIRST and foremost ENCOURAGE women in their strengths. We are alot stronger than people have "pinned" us to be lately.



Facts, ONLY facts about becoming a parent, adoption, abortion SHOULD BE PRESENTED in a forum like this AS MEDICAL FACTS. Not saying to a girl...."Oh, your too young." or "Oh, you have your whole life ahead of you." or "Oh, a girl at that age might not be developed enough to carry the child." or "Oh, your going to live in poverty" as the first comments.



These things should be presented AS WELL AS THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN. Women ARE NOT stupid, and if I may "toot a horn" for women (I love men too), I think that we are pretty doggone resourceful, and that we have an IMMENSE capacity to help one another out with resources.



Present the facts. List your references or websites that can be investigated. BOTH SIDES pro-life and pro-decision (as I call it).... lets list our facts as we have researched them...without "cattiness". How about placing some pictures of what the baby looks like after? How about showing some pictures (real) of each phase of the babies growth in conception and what the baby looks like as each procedure is done in the various stages of growth with regards to the abortion. How about some pictures of the tools that are used, using the term baby instead of "products of conception". Have you ever heard an excited pregnant woman say "Guess what? I'm having products of conception" or "Guess what, I am having a fetus" or "Guess what, I am having a embryo".



I think that the pictures should be shown. They are shown in every other major medical procedure. Right?



The things I mention ARE NOT meant to hurt feelings or anything otherwise, no judgement. But I really think that these are some things that need to be addressed.





Thanks for reading my "rambling",

Blessings,

Hizgrace

hi just reading ur post u can consider having an abortion u have got to think longterm whether ur gonna regret it i had a mate who had abortion at 14 and she regretted it shes 17 now and got a lil girl and shes wishes she neva aborted her other 1

So, I had an abortion when I was 19 years old. I am now 25 and ive never regretted it for one moment. There is nothing wrong with me and I can still have kids.. Technology has advanced rapidly since the early 50s or earlier. When women use to get abortions behind the scene so to speak. I am pro-choice and its really up to the girl whether she wants to have a child or not. Nobody has the right to preach to her about how it'll kill another human being. I had my abortion when my pregnancy development was 2 weeks. Thats VERY early, but I had already scored a positive on the pregnancy test. I was married at the time and it was a joint agreement, that we were to young to have a child.

I hope you tell your parents or a friend at least. There are a lot of youth services out there for young pregnant women, so if you decide to keep the child, Congratulations! If you decide to abort, Congratulations! Eighter way go get checked out by the doctor and he'll tell you how you can go about doing what it is you want to do. Lots of love.

sarah-ex-uk wrote:

kayla wrote:

Carifairy wrote:

I had an abortion at 20 because I felt I was too young to have baby..

AT 14 YOU HAVE NO health insurance on yourself, and no money.. You have to think what is best for the baby, is it best to have a baby with no money and no college? That is up to you to decide.

BUT YOU DO NOT NEED Parental consent for an abortion. If you need anymore info let me know....

BUT it may be a good idea to tell someone you trust. BECAUSE PRENATAL CARE IS EXPENSIVE, AND abortion is 375$

DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTIAN, that is murder,and is hard on your body. if you do not want to or feel you are to young to take care of the kid give it up for adoptian, give it a chance.

Two very opposing strong views.

And both mis-leading. And scary to a 14 year old.

To the initial poster. Talk to someone adult you trust. Friend, teacher, whoever.

Don't do anything you will regret later either way. Families are often more supportive than you expect them to be.

If you choose abortion, it's not murder, it's only cells. If you choose to keep it, love it, look after it, and things WILL work out.

Don't let annon folk with strong views persuade you either way... Talk to someone who knows you, you trust, and make a decission you won't regret.


And for the record, I am pro-choice, either way.

Guess what? You and I are "cells" too.
If scientist call microscopic bacteria from another world "Life". Then what do you call living organisms in Earth?

You have to take responsibility of the choices you make. If you are mature enough for having sex, then you are mature enough to take responsibility for the consequences of your actions.

Talk to your parents. Share your every thought, don't hide anything from them. Talk about all other possibilities, not just the easy way out. That's wrong.