I have had some what of a sexual intercourse with my very first boyfriend. He was a great guy.. but I did not love him there for i feel that I was pushed into it because I really wasn't ready to have sex with him at all nor did I love him.. We broke up like twice during our 2 year relationship because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as he loved me and it just didn't feel right.. first time we broke up after 7 month of our relationship there was a 7 month brake and then we got back together hopeing things changed but they didn't.. I wanted to brake up with him several times but he always got so emotional and started crying, which me seeing someone else cry i cried to so we didn't brake up.. anyways to make it a lil short we had sex he talked me into it even though I didn't want to have sex.. I planned to stay virgin until I get married... when we had it it hurt really bad and i couldn't handle it.. so we stopped then we tried again and when we did i bled like couple of drops... Today I am dating a guy who's very much someone I am sure I want to spend the rest of my life with.. We just got engaged as well like couple months ago . I have told him I am a virgin because I feel like I am and I feel like what has been taken away from me wasn't by my choice.. I felt raped and unhappy.. If he finds out that I have had a sex before I don't know if hed still want to be with me even though he have had sex a lot with other girls..
I am just hoping that I will bleed when I have sex with him for the first night on our wedding night.. What do u guys think.. please let me know what to do .. I am very scared..
I am just hoping that I will bleed when I have sex with him for the first night on our wedding night.. What do u guys think.. please let me know what to do .. I am very scared..
I am a girl and i understand you. Well, first of all...let me say this. He had sex with many other girls and if he expects you to be the virginal person he thought you were then he is in for a surprise. No guys should be mad or upset just because you are no longer a virgin.
Second of all...He needs to understand that you were in a relationship you did not want to be in and when you had sex for the first time you felt forced but you let it continued because your ex wanted it so bad.
Thrid of all...tell him that, even though, you gave out your virginity to your ex..your knowledge about sex makes you a virgin. If you dont know anything about sex position to how to give ur partner pleasures you are also in for surprise because you don't know anything about sex. No one should judge you base on our past. Everyone has a skeleton in the closet and hard to shake it out.
the last one would be..tell him the truth now and maybe he will understand it. A real man will shrug it off or can be upset but at least he think over it and later on say...oh well you are mine now or going to be. A man will be upset and get aggressive about it and start tripping. But no one is perfect right. We all have flaws. I hope it helps you out a little. =) T.K.
Second of all...He needs to understand that you were in a relationship you did not want to be in and when you had sex for the first time you felt forced but you let it continued because your ex wanted it so bad.
Thrid of all...tell him that, even though, you gave out your virginity to your ex..your knowledge about sex makes you a virgin. If you dont know anything about sex position to how to give ur partner pleasures you are also in for surprise because you don't know anything about sex. No one should judge you base on our past. Everyone has a skeleton in the closet and hard to shake it out.
the last one would be..tell him the truth now and maybe he will understand it. A real man will shrug it off or can be upset but at least he think over it and later on say...oh well you are mine now or going to be. A man will be upset and get aggressive about it and start tripping. But no one is perfect right. We all have flaws. I hope it helps you out a little. =) T.K.
I am currently with this guy that i feel loves me more than i love him. the reason i am replying to this is because i have just gone through an extremely similar situation! from the beginning of the relationship he always tried to explain to me how he loves me so much and wants me to lose my virginity to him so that i would be attached to him and love him and because he wants to stay with me forever. last weekend we were just fooling around and i must have lost my brain for a while because after all the persuading i finally just gave in, not fully knowing that i would even lose my virginity(which is kind of dumb i must admit) what happened was he just basically wanted "just a push" and explained to me that it wouldn't do any harm. I am a young girl who does not know enough about sex. he pushed, but not all the way. then there was another push. and it hurt like hell, so we both stopped. that night i felt different so i checked it out and i realized i was a lot "wider" down there. the next day i "got my period"?? it was early for it though im meant to get it in a weeks time. i've been seeking answers and help from friends but im just really confused and cant go to a doctor about it without parents finding out. so i thought i would seek help here since i red this post and felt like a relate to it completely. i want to stay a virgin for the man i fall in love with. what happened has devastated me and whats worse is that i dont know if im still a virgin or not, and if i will bleed the next time i have sex. Because when it happened no drops of blood came out, but i randomly started my period right after it happened. it would be amazing if someone with more knowledge could help me. Thank you for reading this!
I am currently with this guy that i feel loves me more than i love him. the reason i am replying to this is because i have just gone through an extremely similar situation! from the beginning of the relationship he always tried to explain to me how he loves me so much and wants me to lose my virginity to him so that i would be attached to him and love him and because he wants to stay with me forever. last weekend we were just fooling around and i must have lost my brain for a while because after all the persuading i finally just gave in, not fully knowing that i would even lose my virginity(which is kind of dumb i must admit) what happened was he just basically wanted "just a push" and explained to me that it wouldn't do any harm. I am a young girl who does not know enough about sex. he pushed, but not all the way. then there was another push. and it hurt like hell, so we both stopped. that night i felt different so i checked it out and i realized i was a lot "wider" down there. the next day i "got my period"?? it was early for it though im meant to get it in a weeks time. i've been seeking answers and help from friends but im just really confused and cant go to a doctor about it without parents finding out. so i thought i would seek help here since i read this post and felt like i relate to it a lot. i want to stay a virgin for the man i fall in love with. what happened has devastated me and whats worse is that i dont know if im still a virgin or not, and if i will bleed the next time i have sex. Because when it happened no drops of blood came out, but i randomly started my period right after it happened. it would be amazing if someone with more knowledge could help me. Thank you for reading this!
To Adrianana:
Hm..Yes you did lose your virginity.
And ya..it's not always necessary to bleed after sex. Even when you're having it for the first time.
Hm..Yes you did lose your virginity.
And ya..it's not always necessary to bleed after sex. Even when you're having it for the first time.
shut dha hell up, how yhu qon tell ha wat she lozt......yhu dnt knw,,yhu ain no fukn doctor yhu komee on here 2 help ppl not fukn criticise them...!!!!!!!!!!
i think you should not lie to him just tell him before the wedding night.Best way
how we can know we r virgin??
IM A MALE 54 AND NEVER HAD SEX ONLY MASTERBATE VERY turned on