I'm almost 13 and I need to know. And I am a male.
its really all about experimentation. as a boy, i started in 6th grade. i was in the shower and discovered that if i rubbed my hands on my penis in what they call 'campfire style' it felt really good. from there, there are unlimited possiblilties; the usual fist up and down, the hump-a-pillow, all sorts. experiment!