I am 17 years old. I have masturbated since i was about 12. I masturbate everyday. But it is just no fun anymore. But I cant seem to be able to stop. And ever since I started masturbating I have this smell that comes from my penis. So how can I stop masturbating and get raid the smell?
Masturbation will not harm you, but frequent orgasms can deplete your energy.
A smell could be anything from poor hygene, to left over semen, to unwashed lubricant, to natural secretions.
Try bathing more often, and try soap and water frequently around the genitals.
Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
A smell could be anything from poor hygene, to left over semen, to unwashed lubricant, to natural secretions.
Try bathing more often, and try soap and water frequently around the genitals.
Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
Stopping masturbating should be only your choice and you should follow it if that is what you want.
That is OK decision because I know that my good friend was masturbating more than 20 times per week and he was so weak, stressed and he was not focused on anything. He confessed me that this might be an issue.
He stopped masturbating and he told me that he was feeling much better, he was full of energy. So, if you are not feeling OK about this, you should quit.
Smell that is coming from down there is nothing but bad hygiene.
I find this useful.
I used my own actual example of stop biting my fingers as a similar way to stop masturbating.
I've stopped biting fingers for 1 month.
"If I wanna call my ex-girlfriend, I have to stop biting my fingers for at least 24 hours. Once I bite my fingers, I have to recount the 24 hours from the moment I last bite my fingers."
The idea is: I like/miss/fancy/wish/dream to be with her and calling her. If I bite my fingers, I have to wait for 24 hours. Therefore, when I look at my fingers, I think of her. The thought of calling her tonight makes me stop biting my finger. The reward is: I get to call her everyday. The punishment if I bite my finger would be: I can't call her within that 24 hours.
The main idea/point/strategy is: Set the "things"/dream/target/objective/something that you really fancy of doing/like/wish/love/addicts as a form of reward if you stop doing something you think is bad (in this case, masturbation). Punish yourself by not allowing yourself to achieve that dream/target.
Any comment/idea/opinion/sharing, *****
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I used my own actual example of stop biting my fingers as a similar way to stop masturbating.
I've stopped biting fingers for 1 month.
"If I wanna call my ex-girlfriend, I have to stop biting my fingers for at least 24 hours. Once I bite my fingers, I have to recount the 24 hours from the moment I last bite my fingers."
The idea is: I like/miss/fancy/wish/dream to be with her and calling her. If I bite my fingers, I have to wait for 24 hours. Therefore, when I look at my fingers, I think of her. The thought of calling her tonight makes me stop biting my finger. The reward is: I get to call her everyday. The punishment if I bite my finger would be: I can't call her within that 24 hours.
The main idea/point/strategy is: Set the "things"/dream/target/objective/something that you really fancy of doing/like/wish/love/addicts as a form of reward if you stop doing something you think is bad (in this case, masturbation). Punish yourself by not allowing yourself to achieve that dream/target.
Any comment/idea/opinion/sharing, *****
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What you are describing is classic operant conditioning.
This is a system of punishment and reward that is used to modify behavior.
It's been used for hundreds of years, and with success.
You don't even need to have anything so complex as the scheme that you have in place, but it would work.
This is a system of punishment and reward that is used to modify behavior.
It's been used for hundreds of years, and with success.
You don't even need to have anything so complex as the scheme that you have in place, but it would work.
I am 16 yrs old and also have a smell coming from the penis. My OCD constantly keeps me masturbating and its slowly destroying me. As a smaller child i made a promise to god to never do it again. Every time i do it something bad happens. Is this coincidence, or is it my OCD?
Masturbation is a part of every persons life. While too much can be unhealthy, too little can also be unhealthy. Masturbation can cause fatigue and some people say it can cause mild hair loss, if done too much. However, masturbation excreets things through the process which actually inprove your health
A good median would be about 2-3 times a week, this way, you will stay healthy.
Everyone does it guys, so dont be so concerned.
And about the OCD, thats not a major contributor. Were teenagers, our hormones are wild. Thats the cause :-).
A good median would be about 2-3 times a week, this way, you will stay healthy.
Everyone does it guys, so dont be so concerned.
And about the OCD, thats not a major contributor. Were teenagers, our hormones are wild. Thats the cause :-).
Its not ok to masturbate and Not everyone does it. If you truly want to stop God will give you a way out. That is if you want to please him more than please yourself. God helped me stop after 5 years. Change your life, it will be the best thing that ever happened to you.
I'm 26 and has been masturbating since i was a kid (say 15 - 17yrs old). I just want to quit cos it does me no good. It's just a few minutes' pleasure. Besides, i think it's harmful. I always feel that it has an after-effect like rendering a man impotent. Please put me right if I'm wrong cos i wish to have a happy family like anyone else.
Another thing!
I have a friend who is not ready to quit smoking. Are there drugs, fruits or beverages that can help sustain him or neutralize the effects of nicotine? I smoke too, but i want to quit especially cigarette. I smoke hemp too and prefer it to tobacco, because it's natural. Apart from brain hazard, is there any other effect?
Another thing!
I have a friend who is not ready to quit smoking. Are there drugs, fruits or beverages that can help sustain him or neutralize the effects of nicotine? I smoke too, but i want to quit especially cigarette. I smoke hemp too and prefer it to tobacco, because it's natural. Apart from brain hazard, is there any other effect?
I really want to stop masturbating at all. But I can't . I masturbate twice or once a week!!! perhaps it can be embarrising, but when I watch porn videos again I start to masturbate, everytime I say to myself "I will watch just a few minutes porn nothing will happen" but again I start to masturbate, moreover, it seems that I lose and waste my energy!!! I can't cope with this situation!!! can anybody help me????
My case is very similar to the one's i've read here. I'm 18, I started to masturbate when I was 12, ever since it's been a routine. I do it everyday, 1-3 times a day. I don't know why I do it, I'm bored, I see a hot girl get an erection and jackoff, I'm in my bed watching TV and get turned on. If I don't jackoff, I get erections very often, specially if I'm with acceptable looking girls, and If I dance with one of them I get a 2 hour erection. Can't seat down. It's become a necessity.
PS: I'm a virgin, and practically obsessed with sex. It's become a goal in my life.
PS: I'm a virgin, and practically obsessed with sex. It's become a goal in my life.
I have to say this.
MASTURBATION IS COMPLETELY NORMAL.
90% of all males masturbate and 70% of all females masturbate and the rest lie.*
It is completely natural for humans to want to pleasure themselves. There is nothing wrong or shameful about it. Like all good things moderation is key. But who can tell you how much masturbation is too much. That's a question for you to ask yourself. Now if you do it so often that chaffing or blisters occur then you may want to cut back a bit.
While you are young and your hormones are through the roof, you will tend to masturbate quite a bit. But as you get older you'll find that you will do it less and less.
Also keep in mind that the safest sex that you can have is with yourself. You will never have to worry about getting an STD from yourself.
Moreover, I recently read an article that masturbation can actually help to decrease your chances of prostate cancer which you can check out here:
Finally, on the smell issue. Nothing works quite as well as soap and water at getting rid of it. Shower Daily and you wont experience that problem.
MASTURBATION IS COMPLETELY NORMAL.
90% of all males masturbate and 70% of all females masturbate and the rest lie.*
It is completely natural for humans to want to pleasure themselves. There is nothing wrong or shameful about it. Like all good things moderation is key. But who can tell you how much masturbation is too much. That's a question for you to ask yourself. Now if you do it so often that chaffing or blisters occur then you may want to cut back a bit.
While you are young and your hormones are through the roof, you will tend to masturbate quite a bit. But as you get older you'll find that you will do it less and less.
Also keep in mind that the safest sex that you can have is with yourself. You will never have to worry about getting an STD from yourself.
Moreover, I recently read an article that masturbation can actually help to decrease your chances of prostate cancer which you can check out here:
Finally, on the smell issue. Nothing works quite as well as soap and water at getting rid of it. Shower Daily and you wont experience that problem.
Hello, I'm thirteen years old and I started masturbaiting since august. But I can't stop! Almost every single day, I feel an overwhelming urge to masturbait, no matter how hard I try, whenever I have the urge to do it, i can not stop myself. when I do it, I am assailed by intense feelings of guilt and despair, and I feel a great discomfort in my sexual area. Afterward, I feel overwhelmingly exausted with feelings of extreme depression and thoughts of suicide! I feel filthy, stained, tainted. Please somebody help! This has been going on for months and i can't stop! I want to, and the periods when I can stop feel great, but I otherwise cannnot. Please, somebody,help me. I beg of you!!
THE FOLLOWING IS A PERSONAL OPINION, AND ONE HEAVILY COLORED FROM ANOTHER CULTURE. BE AWARE OF THE BIAS.
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How to Stop Masturbation
Masturbation is defined as the manual stimulation of the male or female genitals, not by sexual intercourse, designed to produce an orgasm. Masturbation is totally forbidden in Shari'ah.
One of the most humiliating problems that the constant male masturbator suffers from when he attempts to have sexual relations is premature ejaculation or the failure to maintain an erection. When a person is masturbating, he tends to reach his orgasm as quickly as possible but in sexual intercourse, he normally has to attempt to control his excitement which can impose a great strain on those who indulge in self abuse over a lengthy period.
Those who achieve insufficient satisfaction from sexual intercourse and return to masturbation or never give it up suffer a great torment. Sex life is empty for them, which leads to many more problems, marital disputes, divorce, etc.
Therefore, people who continuously masturbate lose out all round. The physical pleasure becomes reduced to a natural act like urinating or excreting and at the back of their minds there is an awareness that they are missing out on the real pleasures of life. No adult can honestly claim to masturbate without a guilty feeling of complete uselessness. Masturbation is merely an exhaustive rather than constructive undertaking resulting in nothing but total loss. Once orgasm has been achieved, there is nothing left except a feeling of complete emptiness.
Steps in overcoming masturbation
Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have been, both male and female. And you can also be cured if you determine that it must be so. If you want to give it up, you need will power and determination. Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, 'The Niyyat of a believer is better than the act.'
This determination is the first step. That is where we begin. Firstly, you must decide that you will end this practice and when you make that decision, the problem will be greatly reduced at once. But it must be more than a hope or a wish more than knowing that it is good for you. You must realize that this is a great evil and you have to want to give it up.
It must be actually a decision. If you truly make up your mind that you will be cured, then you will have the strength to resist any tendencies which you may have and any temptations which may come to you. Ask Allah to help you and give you strength and steadfastness to succeed.
After you have made this decision then observe the following specific guidelines.
Guidelines
1. First step is to realize that you are violating Allah's command and you are bringing upon yourself a life long destruction and harm.
2. Never touch the intimate parts of your body unnecessarily.
3. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company. Remember, an idle mind is the devil's (Shaytaan) workshop.
4. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that both of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind.
The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things. It is mentioned in a Hadith that a person is upon the way of his friend. (Bukhari, Tirmizi)
5. When you bath, do so as quick as possible.
6. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing, you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking and the temptation would leave you.
If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, engage in something useful. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you focus your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak.
7. Never look at pornographic material.
8. The attitude of the individual has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control this habit. The person must first realize the evil of this act. Secondly he must understand the reason for this behavior.
After these 2 steps, the individual needs to become sensitive to the situations and conditions which may cause a person to commit this vile act. Hence a person must guard himself from anything, which may trigger a desire for this act. By following these steps, a person gains the ability to gain victory from this act, hence the power to control this filthy practice is developed. Remember you need also a bit of will-power.
THE PRECEEDING IS A PERSONAL OPINION, AND ONE HEAVILY COLORED FROM ANOTHER CULTURE. BE AWARE OF THE BIAS.
---Caution added by Moderator---
---Caution added by Moderator---
How to Stop Masturbation
Masturbation is defined as the manual stimulation of the male or female genitals, not by sexual intercourse, designed to produce an orgasm. Masturbation is totally forbidden in Shari'ah.
One of the most humiliating problems that the constant male masturbator suffers from when he attempts to have sexual relations is premature ejaculation or the failure to maintain an erection. When a person is masturbating, he tends to reach his orgasm as quickly as possible but in sexual intercourse, he normally has to attempt to control his excitement which can impose a great strain on those who indulge in self abuse over a lengthy period.
Those who achieve insufficient satisfaction from sexual intercourse and return to masturbation or never give it up suffer a great torment. Sex life is empty for them, which leads to many more problems, marital disputes, divorce, etc.
Therefore, people who continuously masturbate lose out all round. The physical pleasure becomes reduced to a natural act like urinating or excreting and at the back of their minds there is an awareness that they are missing out on the real pleasures of life. No adult can honestly claim to masturbate without a guilty feeling of complete uselessness. Masturbation is merely an exhaustive rather than constructive undertaking resulting in nothing but total loss. Once orgasm has been achieved, there is nothing left except a feeling of complete emptiness.
Steps in overcoming masturbation
Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have been, both male and female. And you can also be cured if you determine that it must be so. If you want to give it up, you need will power and determination. Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, 'The Niyyat of a believer is better than the act.'
This determination is the first step. That is where we begin. Firstly, you must decide that you will end this practice and when you make that decision, the problem will be greatly reduced at once. But it must be more than a hope or a wish more than knowing that it is good for you. You must realize that this is a great evil and you have to want to give it up.
It must be actually a decision. If you truly make up your mind that you will be cured, then you will have the strength to resist any tendencies which you may have and any temptations which may come to you. Ask Allah to help you and give you strength and steadfastness to succeed.
After you have made this decision then observe the following specific guidelines.
Guidelines
1. First step is to realize that you are violating Allah's command and you are bringing upon yourself a life long destruction and harm.
2. Never touch the intimate parts of your body unnecessarily.
3. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company. Remember, an idle mind is the devil's (Shaytaan) workshop.
4. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that both of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind.
The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things. It is mentioned in a Hadith that a person is upon the way of his friend. (Bukhari, Tirmizi)
5. When you bath, do so as quick as possible.
6. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing, you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking and the temptation would leave you.
If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, engage in something useful. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you focus your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak.
7. Never look at pornographic material.
8. The attitude of the individual has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control this habit. The person must first realize the evil of this act. Secondly he must understand the reason for this behavior.
After these 2 steps, the individual needs to become sensitive to the situations and conditions which may cause a person to commit this vile act. Hence a person must guard himself from anything, which may trigger a desire for this act. By following these steps, a person gains the ability to gain victory from this act, hence the power to control this filthy practice is developed. Remember you need also a bit of will-power.
THE PRECEEDING IS A PERSONAL OPINION, AND ONE HEAVILY COLORED FROM ANOTHER CULTURE. BE AWARE OF THE BIAS.
---Caution added by Moderator---
Don't let it bother you, guys. I do it too, about twice a week depending how hormonal I am, and I'm a girl, aged fifteen. Trust me, it's not just guys who have this issue. It's something a lot of people go through, and they mostly keep it to themselves. Masturbation is in no way bad for you if it's done every so often and it's not an obsession. I have a boyfriend, but we're not ready to have sex yet. Masturbation is a much better alternative to having underage sex, and personally I think it's an experience that can help you understand what your body likes, so when the time comes, and you've found that one special person, it will be a wonderful experience because you are aware of your body.
Remember, it's entirely a personal choice. I hope this helped.
Remember, it's entirely a personal choice. I hope this helped.