I never have any luck having an orgasm while my husband and I have intercourse. I can have an orgasm if we use a viborator, or if he rubs me or grinds me but i can't seem to have an orgasm while we are having sex. I get increadibly turned on and am completely turned on but I can't have an orgasm, it drives me crazy becuase it makes sex not as exciting for us.
The only way i can have an orgasm is if i use a viborator or my husband masseges me or grinds me, its all completely on the outside, it feels great but i would like to have a normal orgasm while having intercourse.
Another thing with me is, when i know I get close to having an orgasm i literally freeze, i have to not move my body, like as less as possible, and i have to hold my breath, sounds wierd i know, but its like if i move or breath i cant actually have an orgasm.... trust me, i try not to do those things but then i am unable to have an orgasm.
any information would be helpful... i am unsure of what to do to have an orgasm while having intercourse. i have masterbated and tried to finger myself and it feels great but i don't get close to having an orgasm, so i am unsure of what to have my husband do differently...???
The only way i can have an orgasm is if i use a viborator or my husband masseges me or grinds me, its all completely on the outside, it feels great but i would like to have a normal orgasm while having intercourse.
Another thing with me is, when i know I get close to having an orgasm i literally freeze, i have to not move my body, like as less as possible, and i have to hold my breath, sounds wierd i know, but its like if i move or breath i cant actually have an orgasm.... trust me, i try not to do those things but then i am unable to have an orgasm.
any information would be helpful... i am unsure of what to do to have an orgasm while having intercourse. i have masterbated and tried to finger myself and it feels great but i don't get close to having an orgasm, so i am unsure of what to have my husband do differently...???
This is quite common for us ladies. I am 32 and have never had an orgasm during intercourse, where as my friends tell me they do every time and its amazing.
Try sitting on him and moving really slowly, you will be able to feel every movement and can concentrate on what feels good. It's the closest I've ever got to reaching the point....good luck x
Try sitting on him and moving really slowly, you will be able to feel every movement and can concentrate on what feels good. It's the closest I've ever got to reaching the point....good luck x
i think the above post is well written. it does seem to me that woman-on-top positions are the best for women to achieve orgasms during intercourse. unfortunately it is true that not a lot of women orgasm during sex.
did any of you experience pain in the first few months u had sex? Not only do i not have orgasms during sex, but it is actually a bit painful and really uncomfortable. I am still new to sex, but is it supposed to get any better? And even when my bf fingers me or goes down on me i still can't have an orgasm. I used to be able to on my own but i just don't even feel turned on enough to be able to do it on my own now :'(. Im also on the pill and antidepressants, do u think that's the problem?
If you are experiencing pain during sex, you may want to consider using a lubricant because it sounds like that is causing a lot of the discomfort for you. Are you and your boyfriend also using condoms? If so, that is all the more reason to use lubricant as the latex in condoms can cause irritation. Antidepressants can also decrease sex drive. Which one are you taking? It's fully possible that's the reason for the decrease.
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