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People, I have really big problem and I don't know what to do about this. I didn't tell this to no one because I believe that people will tell me that I am weak (because I am young, I am 19 years old), so I came in here to ask you for help. I suppose that you have experience with this so...

I have really horrible life. My parents are getting divorced, my sister hates me because she keeps telling me that this is my fault and my girlfriend broke up with me. She was my only support and now I am alone. I don't have friends, so basically I am alone in this horrible world. I started to cut myself. Yes, to cut myself everyday. How to stop it?

Hello Ivan. I am very sorry to her this. You must be feeling really bad about this whole situation. I need to tell you that I am very glad because you came in here, we will try to help you because some of us also have no friends in occasional situations. But we found those friends in here. 

I need to know for how long you are doing this?

Have you ever consider to ask help from psychiatrist? That doesn't mean that you are crazy, at all. But if you are having problems with depression, trust me, you won't be able to stop to cut yourself alone...

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Hey there. Thank you for answering me about this. I am glad that I found someone who can understand me, even if I don't know you. Anyway, I started to cut myself three months ago. I started to cut myself even before my gf dumped me. She left me almost one month ago and since that day I started to cut myself very often. I have scars all over my body, but no one didn't notice this, not even my parents. So I like this situation when I can do something that is bad and no one can see me. But that is why I want to stop it, because I started to like it and I know what this is not good. Is doctor my only option?
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I believe that you can't fight this alone, Ivan. That is why I recommended you to visit your doctor. I had a lot of attacks of depression in my life, but I never was in the stage when I wanted to cut myself. I know this can't lead to anything that is good. Actually, it can lead to nowhere. Look, you really have problem with your mind and you need to visit psychiatrist. I am afraid that this is the only solution.

And why you started to cut yourself when you were with this girl? Haven't you told us that she was your support? 

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Look Stressed or Depressed, it is hard for me to tell why. Maybe I was feeling that I am going to lose her or maybe I was afraid that she won't be able to understand me at all. Even if she was my support, she abandoned me as soon as she saw that I cut myself, which means that she was not able to deal with it. I don't know why I believe that this is the way to escape from everything, but I have a feeling that when I cut myself, there is nothing that can hurt me. The fact that I am the only one who can hurt myself it makes me feel much better than ever. I know, it is funny, maybe even a bit freaky, but I am telling you how I feel.

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Hello Ivan,

A lot of people going through some family problems are prone to hurting themselves. A lot of teens commit suicide just because of their relationship problems. Do you know why is that happening, Ivan? Because these people have no one to talk to. They don't have anyone who is going to listen to them, to give them an advice, and to tell them that everything is going to be okay. That is what you need, Ivan. I would suggest that you start seeing a psychologist and that you start talking to him. It will do you real good, trust me.

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Gaia is right, Ivan, if you don't have anyone to talk to, like, someone you completely trust and who is always there for you, then you should definitely try and talk to a psychologist. 

I have one advice when it comes to talking with psychologists. You see, not all of psychologists are good, some of them might even make your condition even worse. The point is to feel better after each visit to your psychologist. If you don't feel better after leaving your psychologist's office, I recommend you to stop seeing him and to look for another psychologist, I am saying this because of my own experience.

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You had a really hard time there, Ivan, I understand what you are going through. You just need someone to love you, someone to listen to you, someone to be there for you no matter what. It is hard going through all of these things all alone, thinking that nobody understands you. I know how it feels, my friend. But don't worry, when you have been as down as now, life can only get better, remember that. Start with a psychologist. Then try to make some friends (just one is enough and it is better than having bunch of them), maybe find another girlfriend.
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You need to stay strong, my friend. You have your whole life ahead of you, you are just 19 years old. It is hard when the problems are starting in your own family, with the people you live with and you care about, you start wondering how are you going to function with the rest of the world when you can't function in your own family. Trust me, all of these things will pass, you will stop thinking about what happened and everything will turn better. You just need to have a little faith and give it some time, it will be alright.

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There are many ways to get rid of depression. People just need to know about them. Hurting yourself is not the solution to your problems. I will only increase your problems nothing more than that. Don't be afraid of what people will talk about you. People will judge for no reason. So there is no point of been fearing from what people will think or say about you. Simple cognitive behavior techniques and exercises can lessen your depression and stimulate more productive thinking. Ways like why do you feel so bad? It's not because of your problems. It's because of your brain chemistry. You feel helpless, but there's a lot you can do. To get rid of any depressive thoughts, simply switch out of thinking them. Distract yourself from the pain of depression with small chores. One can follow the above said points to get rid of their problem of depression. 

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How to solve depression problem? I am having a lot of personal problems, and always thinking to die. But my parents come to my mind, so I'm not trying to commit a suicide.
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