im 17 and i have low self esteem (dont know if thats important). I consider myself straight. When i fantasize about women, my erection does not happen immediately. So i tried it with men and the erection happened quicker. But i dont love guys like that, i do not feel in anyway attracted to men. I will admit that when i see a good looking guy, ill acknowledge it (in my head that is). I had girlfriends and like it. Never had sex but the relationships were real and i liked it. I had thought about being with another guy, and i guess i can imagine it but after i do, i feel wierd and unsettled.
I love women and want to have a family with kids and everything. And i know that every boy goes through this same sex attraction phase (whatever its called) during puberty. And i repeat i am in no way attracted to men. I guess my mind is playing tricks on me or something. Also, I dont think being gay is a horrible thing (i dont mind gay people), but i dont think thats the lifestyle i want to live (i mean no offense, im sorry if i did.)
so i guess what im asking is, can anyone shed some light as to what i am?
Its normal. Im a15 year old girl and when i watch porn people having sex just doesnt turn me on. Whne i look at woman masurbating though i get utnred on instanly and i get wet and i got materbate. Sometimes i think of being with a girl too. But then i just odnt hitnk it would work. That normal in any teen probably. Turst me. :)
I your mind you are telling yourself that you have to have a wife and kids, but honestly you dont. If you want to have kids then its perfectly fine. But if your getting an erection faster with a man than you are with a women then that proves that men are more your type. Your in the closet and arent ready to come out... You are the only one that knows what you like and what your confortable with. Me myself im bisexual and prefer a girl over a man, but im not really good with the ladies so i tried it with a man and loved it... I know personally that one day I am going to start a family weather its with a girl or I adopt. Im a 19 year old boy and im having fun with my sexuality. Im exploring it in a manner that makes me comfortable :] I was in the same situation you were in. I had trouble getting it up b4 i was going to do it with a girl. They looked at me and laughed which made my self esteem go WAY DOWN. Now guys understand guys well because there guys!!! Just give yourself time and you will find your answer :]
Just because you are turned on by something doesn't mean that you are gay. I don't know your situation in depth, but I know that I'd rather watch a woman orgasm that a man because I can relate. I know what it feels like and it gets me excited because i want that to happen to me. It's not because I am attracted to women. In the end however it really doesn't matter. You should just go with how you feel. When I see a super beautiful woman I definitley take notice, but I do the same thing when I see a man. That doesn't mean I just like women, and it doesn't neccesarily mean that I am bi. It just means I notice when someone is attractive. Either way it's a lifestyle choice you'll have to decide for yourself. But I hope this helped, and don't listen to Brainwrek, what he said *could* be true but it doesn't mean it is. Just do what you feel, don't let people make decisions for you!
both replies are good...I always responded better w/ a guy myself...kinda played along with THAT game of having kids(yeh sometimes ONE WOULD be nice)
Ive been w/ a guy for over 20 yrs,,,happy, but STILL wonder, what if??
Ive been w/ a guy for over 20 yrs,,,happy, but STILL wonder, what if??