I need pointers on how to get anal with as little pain as possible

What you need to do is start slow and small, to increase slow to large.  You need LOTS of lubrication, go to a drugstore and get some KY jelly and use lots of it, lather it on.  Get him to start by fingering you with one finger, then 2 and so on.  If you have any dildos or toys use those after fingers for length.  You get my drift?  You are just easing into everything slowly, and only do as you are comfortable - if you get uncomfortable tell him to stop until you get turned on again, so he should not go out of you but just play with your clit or something to get you turned on again and then resume anal play again.  It takes time and work on his part, after you are used to it it's not so much work anymore and will be more enjoyable, just remember not everyone enjoys anal sex and that is OK and normal.

Everything Liz said plus relax. He's making love to you, not trying to impale you. If you can relax the muscles it will go in much easier. Make him act like he's making love too.

Hi, the two answers you have are right on the money. Lots of lube, fingers first, relax, slow, and realise it might take weeks of playing with fingers and smaller dildos or butt plugs before you can comfortably take his penis. It can be a slow process. also, it needs to be pleasurable for you, not torture. Many women love anal and many more don't. And that's ok. Don't feel like this is something you have to do. It sounds like you feel pressured into it. It is ok to say no. Your husband needs to respect that. That said, anal can feel great and a large penis isn't a barrier to your enjoyment. My partner is well endowed and although I knew I love anal when I met him I was a little terrified of his size when I first suggested it (he said he never asks because he's afraid of hurting his partners). But ultimately size doesn't make that much of a difference if it is done right. So if yoy want to try anal take the advice if the others. Also, position can make a difference. Spooning is really intimate and your muscles more relaxed. Doggy style isn't great for the first few times. Being on top can give you more control. And if you really don't want to then that's your choice. I hope that helps.