hello all..
i'm 27.my husband is 36. .we've been married for 6 months and i know i'm ready to get pregnant now. my husband thinks he got some problem with his lower department. i'm not really sure about it. i enjoyed it everytime we had sex.
few months before my marriage, i started taking duromine, some diet pills so that i can fit into my wedding gown. i've stop taking the pills for about a month now. has not become pregnant got something to do with the diet pills? and can abortion lessen your chance of getting pregnant?
i really need to get pregnant. sombedy please help me.
i'm 27.my husband is 36. .we've been married for 6 months and i know i'm ready to get pregnant now. my husband thinks he got some problem with his lower department. i'm not really sure about it. i enjoyed it everytime we had sex.
few months before my marriage, i started taking duromine, some diet pills so that i can fit into my wedding gown. i've stop taking the pills for about a month now. has not become pregnant got something to do with the diet pills? and can abortion lessen your chance of getting pregnant?
i really need to get pregnant. sombedy please help me.
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When i was 16 i wanted a baby so bad cause i thought they were so cute and sweet and i thought if i had a baby then my boyfriend would love me more and he would never leave me, well i was wrong luckily i didnt get pregnant cause when i told him i wanted a baby he left me. Now i am 20 years old i have been married for 2 1/2 years and i just had a little boy he is now 5 months old and things are really tough on me even though im married and both me and my husband are very happy together and we both love our son very much its a tough job even at our age so please honey take it from someone who knows wait before you decide to have a baby Your still young and you have a whole life ahead of you to meet Mr. right and get married and have babies Im sure if you wait you'll be glad you did Im sure glad i did. Good luck sweety :-)
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How dare any of you tell this youg woman that she is not old enough to have children! She comes here and asks for help and you feed her this ageist BS about how she can't do it yet based off of a number. So what if she isn't married? So what if she is "only" 15? I had my first child at "only" 16. I also got fed this garbage that you are all feeding her. You know what? I didn't care that people like you where always going to be there to put me down. I had my daughter and I finished high school and am currently going through college. I only recently got engaged and I am due to have my son in May. That's right, I was so happy raising my daughter at 16 that I felt compelled to have another one before my 20th birthday!
To the OP-- The choice is yours, if you feel that you can take good care of yourself and your child(ren) then don't listen to the negitivity that thers will unoubtly launch at you becuase you're "too young" and just remember that it is YOUR life and YOUR body, not theirs. I wish you the best of luck with whatver you choose. It will be the most difficult thing you will ever do, but if you go for it and do a good job, it will be totally worth it. :D
To the OP-- The choice is yours, if you feel that you can take good care of yourself and your child(ren) then don't listen to the negitivity that thers will unoubtly launch at you becuase you're "too young" and just remember that it is YOUR life and YOUR body, not theirs. I wish you the best of luck with whatver you choose. It will be the most difficult thing you will ever do, but if you go for it and do a good job, it will be totally worth it. :D
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Disgusted, as a teen mother can you honestly say that life hasn't been difficult? That you haven't found it hard to balance school and being a parent and working to support that child? If you tell me no, I wouldn't believe it for a moment because I was a teen mother and it was hell at times (even though it was rewarding and it was "good").
At 15yrs old, it is irresponsible to want a child and that alone makes it obvious that she is not ready for the adult responsibility of caring for a child. Having a baby isn't like buying a doll that she can put down whenever she wants to be a teenager again. Simply the girl is not ready, by any means, and is unable to take care of a child without the help of friends and family (yes of course even older mothers need help). However at 15 she does not know who she is, what she wants in life, what she needs in life, and has no idea what it will mean.
She will miss out on things that teenagers need to do, and the child she wanted so badly will suffer for it later. She will suffer for it later with mental and emotional disorders. For most teen mothers high school graduation doesn't happen, for the few that will graduate; college doesn't ever come to pass or if it does it is later in their lives. Yes there are a few success stories, but those are the few not the many. Additionally she will have to deal with the discrimination of others who will look down upon her and that child, making succeeding in life all that much harder.
Also there is the mental issue of her wanting a child at this age, usually it indicates something is missing at home, that somewhere someone has failed this child (and that is exactly what she is, a child). These will only be magnified if she does have a child at this early of an age. Not to mention the possible complications and health issues she can face being so young during, and after the pregnancy.
At 15yrs old, it is irresponsible to want a child and that alone makes it obvious that she is not ready for the adult responsibility of caring for a child. Having a baby isn't like buying a doll that she can put down whenever she wants to be a teenager again. Simply the girl is not ready, by any means, and is unable to take care of a child without the help of friends and family (yes of course even older mothers need help). However at 15 she does not know who she is, what she wants in life, what she needs in life, and has no idea what it will mean.
She will miss out on things that teenagers need to do, and the child she wanted so badly will suffer for it later. She will suffer for it later with mental and emotional disorders. For most teen mothers high school graduation doesn't happen, for the few that will graduate; college doesn't ever come to pass or if it does it is later in their lives. Yes there are a few success stories, but those are the few not the many. Additionally she will have to deal with the discrimination of others who will look down upon her and that child, making succeeding in life all that much harder.
Also there is the mental issue of her wanting a child at this age, usually it indicates something is missing at home, that somewhere someone has failed this child (and that is exactly what she is, a child). These will only be magnified if she does have a child at this early of an age. Not to mention the possible complications and health issues she can face being so young during, and after the pregnancy.
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why make the blanket statment that all 15 yr olds are not ready for parenthood? My baby girl was not an accident. I was 15 when i was TTC. I felt (and still feel) that that was the right time for me. im' not arguing so much for the individual; I'm arguing for the issue. Saying that all teens are destined to be bad parents is like saying that all blondes are idiots. It just isn't true. do we have a harder time becuae society can't accept that we are parents before the "right" time? sure. is it harder to parent without certain privilages? absolutly. Is prenting the hardest thing anyone can ever do? no doubt in my mind. You said you were a younger parent. Does that mean YOU are an unfit parent? does it mean that I am too? People define success differently. Maybe all she wants is to have a family of her own. what it comes down to is that it is ultimatly HER decision, not mine, not yours. If her mind is set, then that's all there is to it. NO ONE has the right to tell her she can't just because she's 15. It is HER body, HER life and HER choice.
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First of all I never stated that teen parents are "unfit". I stated that the mental issues causing a 15 yr old to WANT a child at that age, instead of taking the time to grow up and become an adult, means there is something missing in her home life. It means that somewhere her parents and family have failed to provide the emotional/mental stability and unconditional love that she needs; therefore she is seeking it in a different way. Additionally, it is a proven fact that teen mothers often have mental and emotional issues that need therapy and treatment later in life because while they may have "grown-up" they did so far too quickly and their minds and emotions weren't able to keep up.
Those are the psychological facts of the situation. Any teenager who wants to have a child before they cannot support that child, and who are not emotionally and mentally stable enough to handle a child, will have problems later in life until they are able to reconcile their lives with themselves. It is also those mental problems that DO affect the children born to teen mothers, because what happens to the parents happen to the children. Most often this is shown in behavioral mental health situations that don't show themselves till approximately age 25-30. Not being able to be a teenager, not being able to complete school, or hang out with your friends, or continue to grow-up at the pace and experience the things that children NEED to experience affects the mental stability of parents. They miss out on a crucial portion of their lives that they need to have, and there is no way to go back and get it back.
I did not say that the factors involved in raising a child make teen parents "bad parents". What I said is that very few finish High School, fewer still go on to college. The lack of this education holds back the teen parents, and therefore effects the children negatively. Again the unfortunate reality is that teen parents hardly make more than minimum wage, and if they do it certainly is not enough to completely provide a stable life. Why would a responsible adult WANT to inflict those issues upon a child? Is that mature? Is that what being an "adult" is about for a child (which again I will state a 15 yr old is)? Why would any responsible adult want to drag their children through the challenges and problems that young teen parents face?
Why do you feel "society" looks down upon teen mothers? Especially ones that get pregnant intentionally? Because they have years of wisdom behind them for the most part. It is something that you gain over the years as you struggle to put food in the mouth of your child, and provide a roof over their head, that new bike they have been asking for, those diapers that are $15.00 a pack, and later that school trip that the kid wants to attend. Raising a child from Birth to the age of 18 takes a minimum of $180,000.00, not counting college. Is a minimum wage job going to pay for that; as well as rent, healthy food, electricity, heat, telephone, a car, gasoline for that car, insurance for that car, health coverage, and the list goes on and on. No, unfortunately we do not live in a time were it will.
Teen parents cannot even rent their own homes/apartments/condo's till they are 18 years old (most perhaps not all states). Teen parents, especially at 15 in the USA, cannot even legally drive their children to a doctor appointment without having to involve and ask for help. In many states, teen parents who are kicked out of their houses, are entitled to child support from their own parents for themselves. Why? Because they are still underage, they are still children, and their parents are still responsible for them. Why do you feel the voting age is 18, the drinking laws are 21, and the driving laws are 16 in the USA? Because the responsibility of those things, the judgement calls required, and all of those are far less important than raising a child.
Furthermore, why should someone help someone who has forced that situation upon themselves and their family/friends, because they "wanted" a child and intentionally got pregnant? Additionally, why should the government and the tax payers have to pay for the raising of that child when the parent intentionally got pregnant and brought that child into the world? Again, another fact is that many teen mothers end up on state aid and only a marginal percentage ever are able to stand on their own two feet. Often they spend years on and off the aid. All because... that 15 year old wanted to have a baby of her own... then found out that 7 hours a day in school, 8 hours a day at a job, 3 hours of driving, and then trying to get some sleep (if they are lucky enough to not have to work another 4-8 hour shift at another job) gives any time to spend with that child. Let alone when they find out how much child care actually is (which in the USA runs from $80.00 - $500.00 a week).
A parent can give a child all the love in the world, that is no doubt nor arguable, however being a "success" in the basic form is providing for your child in ALL ways (mentally, physically, financially, emotionally), not just loving them. Wanting a child, and loving a child, and being prepared to have a child are completely different things. Being a parent is one of the most rewarding, but at the same time, most thankless jobs in the world.
Those are the psychological facts of the situation. Any teenager who wants to have a child before they cannot support that child, and who are not emotionally and mentally stable enough to handle a child, will have problems later in life until they are able to reconcile their lives with themselves. It is also those mental problems that DO affect the children born to teen mothers, because what happens to the parents happen to the children. Most often this is shown in behavioral mental health situations that don't show themselves till approximately age 25-30. Not being able to be a teenager, not being able to complete school, or hang out with your friends, or continue to grow-up at the pace and experience the things that children NEED to experience affects the mental stability of parents. They miss out on a crucial portion of their lives that they need to have, and there is no way to go back and get it back.
I did not say that the factors involved in raising a child make teen parents "bad parents". What I said is that very few finish High School, fewer still go on to college. The lack of this education holds back the teen parents, and therefore effects the children negatively. Again the unfortunate reality is that teen parents hardly make more than minimum wage, and if they do it certainly is not enough to completely provide a stable life. Why would a responsible adult WANT to inflict those issues upon a child? Is that mature? Is that what being an "adult" is about for a child (which again I will state a 15 yr old is)? Why would any responsible adult want to drag their children through the challenges and problems that young teen parents face?
Why do you feel "society" looks down upon teen mothers? Especially ones that get pregnant intentionally? Because they have years of wisdom behind them for the most part. It is something that you gain over the years as you struggle to put food in the mouth of your child, and provide a roof over their head, that new bike they have been asking for, those diapers that are $15.00 a pack, and later that school trip that the kid wants to attend. Raising a child from Birth to the age of 18 takes a minimum of $180,000.00, not counting college. Is a minimum wage job going to pay for that; as well as rent, healthy food, electricity, heat, telephone, a car, gasoline for that car, insurance for that car, health coverage, and the list goes on and on. No, unfortunately we do not live in a time were it will.
Teen parents cannot even rent their own homes/apartments/condo's till they are 18 years old (most perhaps not all states). Teen parents, especially at 15 in the USA, cannot even legally drive their children to a doctor appointment without having to involve and ask for help. In many states, teen parents who are kicked out of their houses, are entitled to child support from their own parents for themselves. Why? Because they are still underage, they are still children, and their parents are still responsible for them. Why do you feel the voting age is 18, the drinking laws are 21, and the driving laws are 16 in the USA? Because the responsibility of those things, the judgement calls required, and all of those are far less important than raising a child.
Furthermore, why should someone help someone who has forced that situation upon themselves and their family/friends, because they "wanted" a child and intentionally got pregnant? Additionally, why should the government and the tax payers have to pay for the raising of that child when the parent intentionally got pregnant and brought that child into the world? Again, another fact is that many teen mothers end up on state aid and only a marginal percentage ever are able to stand on their own two feet. Often they spend years on and off the aid. All because... that 15 year old wanted to have a baby of her own... then found out that 7 hours a day in school, 8 hours a day at a job, 3 hours of driving, and then trying to get some sleep (if they are lucky enough to not have to work another 4-8 hour shift at another job) gives any time to spend with that child. Let alone when they find out how much child care actually is (which in the USA runs from $80.00 - $500.00 a week).
A parent can give a child all the love in the world, that is no doubt nor arguable, however being a "success" in the basic form is providing for your child in ALL ways (mentally, physically, financially, emotionally), not just loving them. Wanting a child, and loving a child, and being prepared to have a child are completely different things. Being a parent is one of the most rewarding, but at the same time, most thankless jobs in the world.
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I AM 26 YEARS OLD AND I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET PREGNANT FOR THE PAST 7 YEARS I HAVE TRIED COLMID AND HAD MY TUBES FLUSHED TOOK PRENATAL VITAMINS ,FOLIC ACID AND HAD MY OTHERS AND IM STILL NOT PREGNANT I NEED HELP I DONT NOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE I FEEL THAT HE IS GOING TO LEAVE ME SOON, IF YOU CAN HELP ME PLEASE EMAIL ME
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If you feel the man you are with is going to leave you, it will happen whether or not you have a child. Having a baby and bringing that life into this world, is not going to save a relationship. Don't do that to yourself, him, and especially not to an innocent baby.
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Okay now you've eaten how many BK meals??? That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard. In fact, it's quite ignorant. You're 15 years old and obviously by wanting a baby so young, you're showing your maturity level. Your very immature. How are you going to provide for this child? Let me guess, the government. It's not quite that easy my dear and that's why so many young kids grow up like you, b/c they have no guidance in there lives. The best thing you can do for yourself and your future child is to get the education you need and use the government for that, something useful. I had my daughter at 18 and let me tell you, it's the hardest thing ever. At 18 I had to deal w/ having a 2 month premature daughter who weighed 3 pounds. Now try dealing with that at 15. Can you even drive to be able to take this child places and yourself to your doctors. You can't always rely on others for this you know. GROW UP!!!!!!! Please!!!
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Ive wanted a baby since a young age! I have just felt "ready" to be a mummy.. My mother said that if i was to make that choice that she would be by my side!
I have been trying for 2 years but there has been no hope yet.. I have nearly finished collage and will be working soon.. I will be 18 soon too and legally old enough to marry! Hopefully i finally get that baby i so despratly want and have wanted for soooooo long.. If she is ready like i was then i say "GO FOR IT PRINCESS!!!!"
I have been trying for 2 years but there has been no hope yet.. I have nearly finished collage and will be working soon.. I will be 18 soon too and legally old enough to marry! Hopefully i finally get that baby i so despratly want and have wanted for soooooo long.. If she is ready like i was then i say "GO FOR IT PRINCESS!!!!"
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You are only 15 years old! No matter how bad you want a child right now, you will change your mind soon enough. You have a lot of life to live yet and why not enjoy being young while you still can. And by the way, your boyfriend may feel like he wants to have a kid with you right now, but he may also change his mind. And if you aren't married, think about how easy it is for him to run!! Trust me, a lot of changes are going to take place and you will be doing a lot of growing up. You want to raise a child in a stable and secure environment. Be honest with yourself...without your parents right now (or whoever you are living with), would you be able to provide that type of environment and financially support you and your child? Please, I beg you to be patient. Down the road you will be grateful!!!
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Youth is wasted on the young. Everyone wants to be older when they are young. Now that I am older I wish I were young again. Even without the wisdom, I wish I could be young again.
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hey everyone. i have a question and i am hopeing i will sooner or later find out the answer. i am 20 and have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. we have been trying to have a baby but no luck. now i have hpv and have had it for i wanna say about 1 yr. give or take a few. we try ALOT...hahah but no luck ever.and i havent recently taken any sort of birthcontrol either..any reason why? am i doing anything wrong?
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omg this cant be real when i was about 15 my mother always had a problem with me my dad stayed at work i never talked to my brother or sister i was pretty much alone and i always said to myself i want somebody to love even when my mom hates me and my dad wants to disown me i always knew if i had a baby it would never leave me but the only thing at that time that stopped me from getting pregnant was my fear of pain do you realize your vagina will open up HELLA wide and if ur head or your boyfriend head is big thats gonna be worse cause aint nothin like a fat headed baby coming out of a small whole....your 15 im pretty sure you dont have a job or even a valid education save the life of a child become something before you decide to destrory the life of someone when your 29 your baby is going to be 14 who the hell walks around at 29 with a 14year old be smart
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