Hey again,
I know I seem to be posting something here every week, but in the past few weeks it hasn't been the best.
So, anyway.
We went to 3rd as I said last time, and I said to her I was only going to tell one person, my best friend. He quickly proceeded to tell another guy in my year (another on of my friends), so I have managed to stop it spreading around the WHOLE school.
I was really angry at him for doing this, so I went to talk to another couple of friends about what happened and what he told this guy about it, so they supported me.
Then, I get a text saying "what the f**k have you been saying about me?"
So I replied I havn't said anything, it was my best friend. Let's call him Andy.
This went on for a while, but in the end she seemed to be okay about it, after I told her who else I told when I was upset and let down.
But then, last night she texts me really unhappy about it, even though everyone at my school seems to have forgotten about it. So I told her how sorry I was again, but it actually wasn't my fault, it was Andy's, to which she said "STOP F***ING BLAMING IT ON YOUR BEST FRIEND."
So I said, I only confided in other friends to help myself, and I can trust them and they won't tell, and how sorry I am for telling more than one person, and I want to make it up to her somehow, and I feel so bad for doing it.
So she said "You can't, so deal with it, and man up".
And that's where it ended with me....
Then Andy texted her, and she said "I'm just miffed that I only said he could tell you and he told someone else as well. He just needs to man up. Me and Will have argued once tonight, it's not the end of the world."
So... What do I do? And is the situation salvageable? She doesn't know how bad I feel, it's been playing on my mind all week so far. I just wish we could go back and I never told anyone then this wouldnt have happened.
What do people suggest I do to stop her from drifting even further away? Do I leave her for a while and then talk to her in a while, or leave i a couple of days, or what? And when I do text her, what do I say?
Any help is appreciated, I really am lost this time.
Will.
I know I seem to be posting something here every week, but in the past few weeks it hasn't been the best.
So, anyway.
We went to 3rd as I said last time, and I said to her I was only going to tell one person, my best friend. He quickly proceeded to tell another guy in my year (another on of my friends), so I have managed to stop it spreading around the WHOLE school.
I was really angry at him for doing this, so I went to talk to another couple of friends about what happened and what he told this guy about it, so they supported me.
Then, I get a text saying "what the f**k have you been saying about me?"
So I replied I havn't said anything, it was my best friend. Let's call him Andy.
This went on for a while, but in the end she seemed to be okay about it, after I told her who else I told when I was upset and let down.
But then, last night she texts me really unhappy about it, even though everyone at my school seems to have forgotten about it. So I told her how sorry I was again, but it actually wasn't my fault, it was Andy's, to which she said "STOP F***ING BLAMING IT ON YOUR BEST FRIEND."
So I said, I only confided in other friends to help myself, and I can trust them and they won't tell, and how sorry I am for telling more than one person, and I want to make it up to her somehow, and I feel so bad for doing it.
So she said "You can't, so deal with it, and man up".
And that's where it ended with me....
Then Andy texted her, and she said "I'm just miffed that I only said he could tell you and he told someone else as well. He just needs to man up. Me and Will have argued once tonight, it's not the end of the world."
So... What do I do? And is the situation salvageable? She doesn't know how bad I feel, it's been playing on my mind all week so far. I just wish we could go back and I never told anyone then this wouldnt have happened.
What do people suggest I do to stop her from drifting even further away? Do I leave her for a while and then talk to her in a while, or leave i a couple of days, or what? And when I do text her, what do I say?
Any help is appreciated, I really am lost this time.
Will.
Hi Wil! NEVER leave a woman alone to "get over something" this has NEVER worked since the beginning of time! And after over 20 years of marriage my husband STILL hasn't figured that one out!!! ;-) XD She is mad at you for telling, so you need to allow her to be mad and understand that intimacy is for you 2 not ANYONE else! No matter how good a friend "andy" is, I guarantee you honey that he WILL be jealous! Thus him getting in there with the texting! It is animal instinct! I am married to my ex boyfriends best friend!!!! This goes on ALL the time! A guy or a gal isn't interested in someone till someone else is! No matter how good a freind they are! Thus lions fighting over the same lioness! It is in EVERY animal group on this planet! So lips ZIPPED from now on OK? Just tell her you are sorry and let her vent and do "manup" about the fact you shouldn't have told anyone else!
Also on a personal note! HI! I'm originally from the Doncaster Area - a town just outside of Thorne called Moorends!!!!
Anyways DONT let her brood - or you WILL be in for it OK? Good luck honey! Tarra!!!
Also on a personal note! HI! I'm originally from the Doncaster Area - a town just outside of Thorne called Moorends!!!!
Anyways DONT let her brood - or you WILL be in for it OK? Good luck honey! Tarra!!!
Well Wil, we both learned something today.
You learned the only secret is the one YOU never tell, and no matter how much you grovel, you can't win.
I learned Bambi's a limey.
I thought she was a frog, living up there in mooseland.
You learned the only secret is the one YOU never tell, and no matter how much you grovel, you can't win.
I learned Bambi's a limey.
I thought she was a frog, living up there in mooseland.
I just tried ringing her a couple of times. She didn't pick up, but she texted me just after that. Then, I try and ring her again, and she doesn't pick up. WTF?
Will.
Will.
Just text her and say "sorry! I know you're pissed, this will NEVER happen again I promise! So call me when you want to, I'll be waiting!" Do NOT say anything like "I was letting you cool down! RU over it yet" Don't say anything that puts it as HER fault OK? Just tell her you are there!
So what do I do?
Do I leave her until she is ready to talk to me again or do I try talking to her now? I am confused.
What I did has been playing on my mind 24/7 and I feel so bad about it, to the point where I think about it too hard its like head in my hands "c**p."
Will.
Do I leave her until she is ready to talk to me again or do I try talking to her now? I am confused.
What I did has been playing on my mind 24/7 and I feel so bad about it, to the point where I think about it too hard its like head in my hands "c**p."
Will.
You know this last statment? Text it too her! And then leave it! Just text
"What do you want me to do?"
"Do you want me to leave you alone or try again to talk to you?"
"I think about what I did 24/7 and I feel SO bad about it! I don't know what else to say or do!"
" I AM SO sorry, if you want to end it then at least tell me, because this is hell right now!"
You have to let her state what her intentions are! It MIGHT not be what you want, but sometimes people use an event as an excuse! You've apologized till your blue in the face! So it's now her turn to say what's up! OK? It will work out either way honey!
"What do you want me to do?"
"Do you want me to leave you alone or try again to talk to you?"
"I think about what I did 24/7 and I feel SO bad about it! I don't know what else to say or do!"
" I AM SO sorry, if you want to end it then at least tell me, because this is hell right now!"
You have to let her state what her intentions are! It MIGHT not be what you want, but sometimes people use an event as an excuse! You've apologized till your blue in the face! So it's now her turn to say what's up! OK? It will work out either way honey!
It's amazing, about 10 mins after i posted this, she sent me a text saying "I'm sorry, I overreacted to all of this."
Will.
Will.
See!!! Aren't you glad you listened to Mommy Bambi?!!!! ;-) XD Have a GREAT weekend honey and remember KEEP your mouth ZIPPED when it comes to girls! OR next time you might not be so lucky and it could get REALLY nasty OK?
Haha thanks mommy Bambi :-D :-)
I have learnt the hard way, I will keep it firmly zipped next time.
Will.
I have learnt the hard way, I will keep it firmly zipped next time.
Will.