hello im a 19 year old male who started watching anal porn gay straight shemale sissy all that if its anal but mostly done to men because i have an addiction to putting stuff up my anus i like it but after i climax i feel ashamed of it i thought that i might be gay but i love girls too much plus my masterbation starts with thinking about girls then it turns to anal lots of posts on this site when people ask for help to stop there answered with why if you like it then do it well mines become more then a feeling of ashamed i like to make my ass hole bigger because small doesn't stimulate as much anymore and well ive been causeing damage to my self i have done it many times and started bleeding not alot but enough to scare me everytime only twice have i bleed so much i went to bed thinking that i might bleed out its ive never done anything like go to the docter the last time i bled was along time ago my ass is now perfectly healthy no diarea discoloration of poo or anything but the more i do this the more i feel that i shouldn't ever do it but i always come back to it even know i hurt myself i feel i cant stop and need help
Hi if you like anal you must take care of yourself , please don't be rough and use plenty of lube , There is nothing to be Ashamed of it's what you are into , you are not hurting anyone so Chill , Watching Gay porn ect won't harm you either as long as it is not excess, Please Take care , xx PM me if you want to Chat ,
it doesn't matter if i try and go slow i eventually hurt myself and then it takes me a few days to recover ive tried going slow and working on it but i dont need to even be that rough with myself and a little blood will come out and all i need to do is put 2 fingers in myself and the next day my butt will hurt im just really scensitive down there i just want to stop doing it its too much no i like watching shemales more then gay i haven't watched gay in almost a year but watching porn is one of my addictions that ive been working on im down to 1 time a week.
Hi you seem to be looking after yourself well , are you in a relationship if so do they understand what you have been through , you watching porn sounds you are on top of that too , please take care , anything else post me , xx
but im not on top of my addiction to anal its really not healthy to me phisically no im not in a relasonship never even had one before never even dated or kissed a girl before ive had this addiction for years and for years ive been hurting myself with anal and i want to stop i need help with loseing this addiction honestly i know with every addiction you first have to admit you have one me asking for help is this i have accepted that i have a problem that for years ive ignored i know its not wrong to like it but when it harms me phisically (it still harms me when i go easy) then it has become a problem there are people who are addicted to drugs an alcohal they like doing it but at some point they need to stop this is my addiction and it needs to be broken i am asking for advice.
Congratulations on already taking the first step. This could help, if you make it spiritual. It has to include God to work. You can have a rich, full, non-judgmental life, this little season will help you to live and empathize with others who also struggle. Having a morally clean mind will bring you more joy than sex. It will also make your sex, with your wife someday, even more amazing. Be Well, be happy.
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HI there guest I'm 31 male I'm in same boat god is love and his blessing of a life wife family are way greater and life after way greater than can fathom
Just avoid it all together thro away the toys avoid porn. What to do when you don't know what to do
Hi, saddly no one will help you. I am in the same spot. You wil only find people who will tell you that it is ok, and I just hate them and people like them. You ask them how to stop and they tell you its ok to do it. It not an answer to a question how to stop for fuc... and ofc religious preachers who are going to cry for god, even if you are unable to believe in anything. I stoped for months and now i am back, but i am stopping again. Making a decision based on why i dont want to do it and why it is bad for me hellped me a lot. I broke and done it again, so i need to make that decision again, in hopes that i will never come back to it again. And stop watching anal porn! Push all the things that are making you turned on for anal aside. Train your willpower. Even if it will mean that you will not get erection at all. Give it time. It's like quiting any addiction really. You can also get interested in that matter. How others have quit their addiction in drugs, alcohol, or video games, or anything that you can get addicted to. You will not read it after those years but maby someone lese will.
I am a religious person and it helped me a lot stop and reduce the frequency... it is a lifetime effort. Keep trying. Stopping early should help. At 19 ... it was too late for me. I started when I was 12.
My only advise - if you are serious about stoping - go to a physiatrist and start a therapy. Don't wait too long like most of us.
Good luck to you and to all that are in that same addiction and want to stop it !
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For the people who think it's "ok" ... well, the "ok" doesn't mean much... depends what you want to do with your life and what kind of a human being you wish to be. So yes, for some people it is "ok" because this is how they want to live. I respect that. It is all a matter of perspective.
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Stop now or it will eventually happen.
Thanks for your great answer. How can I ask you some more questions? Any email?