hi. i really need your help fellows. em going through a serious problems in my life. my bf loves me its nothing that i am doubting at him. but the thing is when i ask him who is the girl he is talking on facebook he dont wants to answer my question. he feels annoyed and followed by me. like i am inspecting him. although i am not as i just ask my it appears in news feed that my bf talked to sme1. i dont know what to do. i am going through hell of crisis. we dont chat all day long as he says he is busy. i am getting soo insecure and when i told him that i am getting insecure he said i can not change your thoughts. please help me... :'(
Hi,
I understand how you feel. How old are you guys?
I can see why you are getting insecure but trust me on this one, do not go there. Do not. It's a vicious circle. The more insecure you feel the more you will "annoy" your boyfriend and he will, feeling cluttered, start to change his attitude towards you which will cause more insecurity by your side. And it goes on and on and on, until a really big fight occurs or you guys break up.
You need to get rid of those bad thoughts and trust your boyfriend. It may be hard but you can start pretending in the beginning. Don't question him , who's that?What are you doing?(20 times a day). He also feels insecure about you now because of your attitude and that is why you need to give him some more space and he will come back to you.
This of course depends on how old are you and how long have you been together?
he is 26 and i am 23 years old.
i am insecure of his change in attitude. he used to call alot msg alot but since we came close physically he restricted himself alot. he only replies to my msgs and calls and talk to me only what i ask. i cries alot even my eyes got black. but i dont know why it seems that he is not listening to me. i am scared alot. i cant loose him. specially after getting physical...last night he wanted to take me out for icecream but my family doesn't allow me to leave after 11pm and he knows that still he forced me and when i said i can not come he rejected my call... and since than he is just replying me what i text him he is not talking to me by his own :(
I see.
Well, you have to keep in mind that if he is too big of a jerk, he doesn't deserve you. You need to give him some space. Don't text him or call him for a while and see what he does.
If he really cares about you he will call you and text you and all that stuff.
Don't be so scared of losing him. I think he knows that you are so in love with him and he is just using it against you.
Again, i just think you should stop sounding too desperate and avoid texting him or calling him for some time. I am sure he will come back to you but if he doesn't it's not the end of the world, life goes on.