when i was 18 years old i became pregnant, i kept the baby and he is now 2 and i love him to death. but there has been alot of stress and health problems bc i can barley handle him and sometimes feel overwhelmed. i didnt stay with the father and now its just me and z.. (now) ive been dating this guy for a month and a half. im prego again. i CANNOT handle another baby. exspecaily with z and not having enough money for us. or room in our tiny apartment. and the stress being pregnant and having one would cause. i cry bc im prego and dnt want to b. i hate myself for it. bc there is so many women out there who want a baby but cannot have one. if i could i would do adoption but the last time i was prego almost killed me (lots of blood loss). im so scared of that happening again. so ive decided i AM having a abortion. but im very scared. of it hurting. of feeling guilt afterwards. of dying. but i kno this is what i want. please. if you kno what im going thru and had this experience of your own please share. i need some support right now and my family isnt giving it to me. just the bf. but i just need advice and support from ppl who have had one. and please if your just going to post negative things and try to make me feel worst. dnt post. im not judgeing you for not supporting, please dnt judge me. thank you.
;-) Listen... do not feel bad, i have a 3 & 5 year old... moneys tight, life is stressful and i struggle everyday to support the two i have. I recently had an abortion myself.... hated the fact that i had to go through with it, was scared the procedure would hurt, and scared of how i would feel emotionally afterwards, but dont.... if your situation right now would not be a good one to bring another baby in this world, know you DO have a choice..... i'm not gonna lie to you, its NOT a pleasant experience, but you will be fine. the actual procedure takes 3-4 minutes... it feels like labor pains for about 2 minutes, you are gased, and then its over... you go to recovery and within a day or 2 you will be back to the norm.... i went back and forth trying to figure out if i should or shouldn't but in the long run, the kids i have now would have to make a lot of sacrafices if i were to of had another child.. i am not finacially able to have another and glad i didnt.... emotionally, i was f**ked up about it for about a week, but also at the same time i felt as if i had a ton of bricks lifted off my shoulders cuz deep down i knew i could not have another baby @ that time...... LET ME TELL YOU AND ASSURE YOU......if this is how you feel and feel it is the best thing for you and your baby now, you wont regret it... its like a learning experience... make sure you learn from it... when you are ready for another child, you will know.. HOPE THIS HELPS YA OUT :-)
I am 20 years old ...& I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. I got pregnant close to the end on January ...& didn't know until the middle of February. I didn't actually have the abortion until last Thursday, St. Patrick's Day!
And those few months were the absolute worst. I am a girl who always saw pregnancy as a miracle...as something to cherish and be proud of, but I woke up tired everyday ... my hair was shedding in handfuls, I couldn't get anything down, but I was Always hungry! I was basically ...sick & weak. The stress was getting to both me and my boyfriend, being young and in school trying to juggle our work, relationships, school activities ...& our parents didn't know. I felt doomed and depressed all the time ... I felt like this would be end of my school career, end of my relationship, end of my parents trust. I know this isn't the same as your situation, but I do know where you are coming from with the depression and stress.
Now, I will be honest with you & say the procedure was not pleasant & was not something I'd do again! ... But I don't have regrets & I think it's mainly because I went in there with 100% certainty that this was the right thing to do. I feel like you're head has to be in the right place ...& considering your situation ...you have a lot of good reasons to think about this. It's only been a few days less ... than a week since I've had the procedure done ...but I already feel less weight on my shoulders. My eating habits have gone back to normal ... I am not 100% back to being the same girl I was before. But my boyfriend has noticed a change in me already ...& I think it's certainly easier for me to look to the future now.
You have very legitimate reasons to opt for an abortion ...& I think you should probably try & talk this out with your doctor & see what the risks maybe for you. Because I feel like ... if you are going through the same stress and weakness and fear I was not too long ago. Then maybe you'll feel just as liberated after wards as well. I really hope things work out for the best ... :]
And those few months were the absolute worst. I am a girl who always saw pregnancy as a miracle...as something to cherish and be proud of, but I woke up tired everyday ... my hair was shedding in handfuls, I couldn't get anything down, but I was Always hungry! I was basically ...sick & weak. The stress was getting to both me and my boyfriend, being young and in school trying to juggle our work, relationships, school activities ...& our parents didn't know. I felt doomed and depressed all the time ... I felt like this would be end of my school career, end of my relationship, end of my parents trust. I know this isn't the same as your situation, but I do know where you are coming from with the depression and stress.
Now, I will be honest with you & say the procedure was not pleasant & was not something I'd do again! ... But I don't have regrets & I think it's mainly because I went in there with 100% certainty that this was the right thing to do. I feel like you're head has to be in the right place ...& considering your situation ...you have a lot of good reasons to think about this. It's only been a few days less ... than a week since I've had the procedure done ...but I already feel less weight on my shoulders. My eating habits have gone back to normal ... I am not 100% back to being the same girl I was before. But my boyfriend has noticed a change in me already ...& I think it's certainly easier for me to look to the future now.
You have very legitimate reasons to opt for an abortion ...& I think you should probably try & talk this out with your doctor & see what the risks maybe for you. Because I feel like ... if you are going through the same stress and weakness and fear I was not too long ago. Then maybe you'll feel just as liberated after wards as well. I really hope things work out for the best ... :]
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