My boyfriend is using and I'm scared. He locks the bathroom door and I always here him messing with something. First I was finding pills everywhere. Then I found needles and a spoon which he claims belonged to his coworker (a known user). Then I started finding small little cotton swabs. Some of them looked like they were wet a one point but dried out. Some of them were blackened. Shortly after I found a small baggy of white powder which he told me was Ritalin and op's. Up until this point I was counting straws (he was cutting down straws to snort his sh*t). Then the straws stopped disappearing but I could still hear him messing with stuff in the bathroom. He was supposed to help me pass out candy for halloween but decided to go get some painkillers instead. When we got home he rushed upstairs and into the bathroom. This time felt different so busted the door open and found his belt on the floor, a glass of water on the counter, a blackened cotton swab and 2 insulin syringes duct taped to the back of the door. He claims it was the first time and he just wanted to try it. What's the deal? Is he really shooting up Ritalin? Is it really his first time? Is he an addict? Can he stop on his own or does he need help?
Hi hon,
First of all your bf is a junkie. I hate to be so "blunt" but i will talk to you like a mom. I went thru this for years with my daughter, she was 17 when her downhill spiral began. It went from pot to pills and then anything in between. The last 2 years of our nightmare consisted of banging coke (shooting). The white powder you see is probably cocaine and it is absolutly not his first time.
There is nothing you can do for him exept call him out on it and ask that he try to get some help. Once a user has gone so far they can't stop on their own, that is why it's called an addiction. He could be heading for big trouble and possibly death. My daughter used to be a beautiful and vibrant young women, today she is just that again but it took 3 years to get her back to that point.
She weighed 80 pounds when i had her arrested and her teeth were starting to decay from the constant drug use. She had a horrible complexion and her main concern was how she was going to get her next fix.
The swab tips that you find are used as a filter for the coke, he uses the belt to tie off the circulation in his arm because he doesn't have a rubber strap band. Don't let him try and fool you and you must be smarter than him.
I can tell you some stories that will make your hair curl but today everything is back to normal. Those years i came so close to loosing my child to drugs, i mean dieing from drug use. She is pretty healthy today but there is some residual stuff from being on drugs for so many years. Her memory is kinda crappy but she is 6 months away from her Bachelors Degree, she needed to get several teeth capped, she has pok marks on her face from picking scabs, her arms look bad from track marks, she has a bald spot in the back of her head from hair falling out, and she fights everyday to stay straight.
Every nite before i go to sleep i say a quick prayer asking God to please keep her safe and healthy and drug free. Everyday is a new day for her and tho she will always be reminded of those dark years, she is well on her way to recovery.
My point is, get a hold of him now if you can. If you love him enough to do that and alert him to the fact that you know, tell him you will help him to get help if he wants it. He will deny you, he will tell you your crazy, he will tell you that he can stop when ever he wants, he will tell you anything to get you off his back. Don't believe him at all.
The rest is up to you and that depends on how much strength you have. I had the strenght of an elephant when it came to her and i would not let her go thru this alone.
Feel free to pm me if you want, it's okay.
First of all your bf is a junkie. I hate to be so "blunt" but i will talk to you like a mom. I went thru this for years with my daughter, she was 17 when her downhill spiral began. It went from pot to pills and then anything in between. The last 2 years of our nightmare consisted of banging coke (shooting). The white powder you see is probably cocaine and it is absolutly not his first time.
There is nothing you can do for him exept call him out on it and ask that he try to get some help. Once a user has gone so far they can't stop on their own, that is why it's called an addiction. He could be heading for big trouble and possibly death. My daughter used to be a beautiful and vibrant young women, today she is just that again but it took 3 years to get her back to that point.
She weighed 80 pounds when i had her arrested and her teeth were starting to decay from the constant drug use. She had a horrible complexion and her main concern was how she was going to get her next fix.
The swab tips that you find are used as a filter for the coke, he uses the belt to tie off the circulation in his arm because he doesn't have a rubber strap band. Don't let him try and fool you and you must be smarter than him.
I can tell you some stories that will make your hair curl but today everything is back to normal. Those years i came so close to loosing my child to drugs, i mean dieing from drug use. She is pretty healthy today but there is some residual stuff from being on drugs for so many years. Her memory is kinda crappy but she is 6 months away from her Bachelors Degree, she needed to get several teeth capped, she has pok marks on her face from picking scabs, her arms look bad from track marks, she has a bald spot in the back of her head from hair falling out, and she fights everyday to stay straight.
Every nite before i go to sleep i say a quick prayer asking God to please keep her safe and healthy and drug free. Everyday is a new day for her and tho she will always be reminded of those dark years, she is well on her way to recovery.
My point is, get a hold of him now if you can. If you love him enough to do that and alert him to the fact that you know, tell him you will help him to get help if he wants it. He will deny you, he will tell you your crazy, he will tell you that he can stop when ever he wants, he will tell you anything to get you off his back. Don't believe him at all.
The rest is up to you and that depends on how much strength you have. I had the strenght of an elephant when it came to her and i would not let her go thru this alone.
Feel free to pm me if you want, it's okay.