Im a 13 year old girl and masterbate how can i hide it from my mom and what can i use? i try using my finger but it just dosent do it for me
Hi honey! 1st of all masturbation is NOT bad, it is NOT a sin and is NOT mentioned ANYWHERE in the Bible - anyone reading this right now will be like "OMG here she goes!" LOL
Masturbation is done in the privacy of your room, or behind any other closed door etc. NO ONE needs to know that you are masturbating. It is just a natural private thing! Think of it like you wouldn't be showing others if you were going to the toilet, would you?
You could use phalic objects - that look like penis's - but I'm worried that you could hurt yourself! IF you were to use something - make sure it is smooth and clean and the best would be to put a condom over the top of it - but then you would have to explain why you have a condom!
One other thing I wanted to point out to you - that in this day and age of porn videos, sex tapes, music videos, movies, TV etc. Young people - like yourself and also boys, actually believe ALL of this "acting" and you have to think about it like this! IF sex was SO like that, no one would be working or going to school LOL! Also there is more and more sexual dysfunction, and young people trying to emulate their stars, it is so destructive to a young persons ego and self worth! For a boy it is "how come she doesn't look like that, or do this etc?" and the girl is like "How come I can't look like that or be like that" It is ALL done over the top! So don't buy into that OK? It's a dangerous and slippery slope! There are more and more young people posting things on line and when it is out in the universe that is the internet, it WILL be there for EVER! And also you don't want other kids in your school finding out and ruining your life etc.
My boys are VERY good looking, my eldest is 6ft 2, about 190lbs, muscles, blue eyes etc. More middleaged women come on to him than I can count! and it bothers me when I'm out with him, as people actually stare at him - and I'm not just saying it either! so one day he asked me if I wanted to see what a girl had sent him? he was 16 at the time, and all these girls had sent him what I consider soft porn! Pictures of them showing thongs, and low cut tops etc. ALL taken in a bathroom - so no one would see - and it was UNREAL they were just putting it out there! And he has NO respect for these girls, it is CRAZY out there. So promise yourself to treasure your sexuality, and keep it safe and sacred and give it to someone that deserves it and you deserve too! And getting to know you own body - without all the hype and pressure - will enable you to have a decent and respectful relationship later on! IF you respect and honour yourself, others will copy that towards you too! I am sure you have heard of "s**ts" at your school etc? Do you think this is what they wanted to be known for? And that impression will last with them for YEARS! Love yourself and you will be loved!
Its only bad if you think so!!:-)
Masturbation is a sin, but worse, it is a trap. It is an addictive behavior that is like any other, in that soon it takes more and more to stimulate you to any sort of real satisfaction (and you never will reach the heights you will if you wait for your soul mate, until you find him :)) moreover, if you are a virgin and you start introducing foreign objects into yourself, you could break your hymen, not to mention introduce bacteria into your system. And the more you do it, the more you will want to do it, in some people it can even stop them from having a normal life, because like doing drugs, they will do anything they can to find a pplace to do it, and will get caught. You are so young, just wait a little while... learning about your body with your husband can be so thrilling, and enjoyable, and no matter what he says, the knowledge that he is the first to give you that pleasure will be a real thrill for him, AND you.
remember u r only 13. Bad girl. uuuuuu
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No it's not 'bad' but it is frowned upon ... Just don't tell anyone and keep it to yourself
It's not bad at all!!! There's nothing to worry about sweetie I promise you.
Hi! So something that stuck out to me in this is that you're 13!
I am 13 too!
I don't know your reasons of why you masterbate, and that's for you to keep to yourself, and I will keep my reasons too, but it isn't a sin! Don't worry! It's a natural part of life and almost EVERYONE does it!!! No one talks about it though obviously.
Masterbating is actually a sign of good health, and it relieves you of stress and tension! It keeps you focused as well, and less prone to anger! And I'm not sure if it's like this for every one, but it sure is for me, I usually go half an hour to an hour every night, five days a week, and it pushes my period up a week!!
It's quite good for you, as long as it's not like a 3 times a day thing.
Personally, for my... Pleasure, this may seem very odd, but I have a thick plastic science beaker. It works, and maybe you could ask to buy plastic science beakers? Maybe say it's for an expirement and buy a few, but save one for your desires.
Also to keep anyone from knowing, just do it a little later at night, when you're sure no one will walk in on you, but advice: always listen for footsteps, if there are any, pull the blanket up, pants up to cover it, and lay on your side! Haha, it always works!
Hopefully this advice from one 13 year old to another helps you!!!
Just make sure what you use is clean, safe, and I would clean it after every use to avoid suspicions of smell
I am 13 too!
I don't know your reasons of why you masterbate, and that's for you to keep to yourself, and I will keep my reasons too, but it isn't a sin! Don't worry! It's a natural part of life and almost EVERYONE does it!!! No one talks about it though obviously.
Masterbating is actually a sign of good health, and it relieves you of stress and tension! It keeps you focused as well, and less prone to anger! And I'm not sure if it's like this for every one, but it sure is for me, I usually go half an hour to an hour every night, five days a week, and it pushes my period up a week!!
It's quite good for you, as long as it's not like a 3 times a day thing.
Personally, for my... Pleasure, this may seem very odd, but I have a thick plastic science beaker. It works, and maybe you could ask to buy plastic science beakers? Maybe say it's for an expirement and buy a few, but save one for your desires.
Also to keep anyone from knowing, just do it a little later at night, when you're sure no one will walk in on you, but advice: always listen for footsteps, if there are any, pull the blanket up, pants up to cover it, and lay on your side! Haha, it always works!
Hopefully this advice from one 13 year old to another helps you!!!
Just make sure what you use is clean, safe, and I would clean it after every use to avoid suspicions of smell