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i am 14 and my gf is 12 but she is pretty mature, but is this right, she also wants sex, but i'm not sure if this is right please give me some advice..
Wow, you two are rather young. Since you're looking for advice, I'll give you mine. I strongly suggest you don't have sex right now. The chances that you two will be together long-term are small due to your age. Do you want to have sex with someone right now, despite the fact you may not be together for a while? Also, most people, especially when they've lost their virginity young, almost always wish they would have waited. You may feel the same way. I knew a girl who lost her virginity and fell into a deep depression because she felt it was too soon for her.

Okay, you're probably thinking that that's quite a biased opinion, and it is. I don't think you should have sex. But of course, that's up to the two of you. Think about the consequences of it right now. She may or may not have her period right now, but realize that she can still get pregnant. Most women can get pregnant about nine months before they get their period. Use a condom. Be sure to obtain the right size and know how to put it on. DO NOT have sex without one. Also, if you want to have sex now, that's probably not going to change any time soon, so waiting isn't going to hurt. Either hold off having sex or, if you want to, go to a service center that will give you adequate information to protect yourself.
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No, she is not too young for you. Girls mature faster than boys, so her age is not a big deal.

And as for having sex, I agree with the post above. Both of you are way too young. I lost my virginity at 16 and I still regret it. So please just really think this out before you decide to have sex.
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DO NOT have sex. That is not the thing to do. I actually would advise you two put it aside till you're sixteen, for less temptation. Waiting till you are married is one of the best things you can do. Right now, you are both young and reckless- and you may not love each other as much as you think you do. If you do have sex, you will find it awkward to be around each other, and the relationship will end quickly. I am begging you to be absitant till you are older.

The effects are much worst for her than they are for you. She can not only get pregnant, but she can also get any sort of STD, as well as you can. If she gets pregnant, and you decide not to be the father, then you have to pay child support. She will most likely have to drop out of school, (or get kicked out, if your school is like that) and may even have to find somewhere else to live. Please, listen to me, and DO NOT have sex. Not yet.
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You are obviously doing some heavy thinking on this. And you are correct in thinking that this is not right. Are both of you virgins? This may sound old fashioned but it would be nice to give up your virginity to some one that you love. I am not saying that you don't love her, i'm talking about the love that comes with maturity and growth. She is 12, yikes... Go with your first reaction, in my opinion of course, it's really not such a good idea.
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im in the same situation but i said not yet cos she and i are to young ok you do the same thing you get caught and ur stuff m8
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Healthfreak88 is absolutely right!
the age difference is no problem i mean my mum and dad have ann 18 year gap between them(my mum was 19 and my dad was 37 when they met) and they worked out just fine!
But the sex is way out of order at the moment...
please try and hold out because you will regret it later in life if anything goes wrong!
Best od luck
xx Candyheartss xx
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no sex at 12 please
gawd 12 year olds shouldn't even be dating let alone sex
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not only are you too young it is also against the law!

in the UK it is illegal to have sex with a girl under the age of 16! you could go to jail!!!

plus if she hasn't started her periods, she may not produce any natural lubrication and you could really hurt her!!!

steer clear of sex until you are older!!!
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hey, im thirteen , and most of my surroundings have had sex. i think its just stupid! having sex in your early double digit years , is just not the way to go. most of my boy friends have lost their virginity's at the age of ten. that is just straight stupidity. i think you should wait, like me. wait till your'v grown mature enough and then when your ready, go for it.
just for now, i recommend you don't have sex at the age you are now. just stupid.
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He is not going to jail because they are both under 16.But I don't want to encourage to sex.She is just 12,or 13 now in 2012.
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If you're second guessing yourself then it's probably not a good idea
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I say go for it
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Are you sure you know what you are doing? If you do and you can make sure you wont get her pregnant then I think you both can have fun. It sounds really sweet and cute. Young love or lust. Either way, it can be fun provided you don't think about yourself but take her needs and safety into consideration too.

Is this your first time too? I hope you don't have any STDs. Please don't hurt the girl or give her any diseases. That would be so cruel. 

I would use a lot of lube so when you do penetrate her it feel pleasurable not painful. Take your time, engage in plenty of foreplay and oral sex and make her orgasm a lot before you even start penetrating her. 

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