you seem really smart ekasa.
i like your first solution.
see, nobody's gonna jump to get what you want, so oyu have to do it yourself.
most girls like it when guys take the initiative. but not every girl will be interested in you, and some will be mean, thats okay cuz u dont want a mean girl.
we all get accepted or crushed sometimes,we learn from that. all humans.
courage is a beautiful and priceless thing.
you have many years ahead of you to learn about dating interactions, take your time and remember that some people arent worth your time of day if they have a horrible attitude.
to be emotionnally healthy your confidence needs to come from inside of you , not from interactions with girls.
if you have any else to say or questions, don't hesitate:-) we are all here for you.
take care.