I'll give you a slight background info to boot.
My girlfriend upon dating commented that she was "broken" that she
couldn't orgasm/cum she said that she wasn't sure why and feels that it might
have been because guys didn't know what they were doing.
Upon our first time having intercourse she came within 2 minutes, she was on
top and very close (was very hot first time). Since then I've been
experimenting with foreplay which I believe I have a fairly decent knowledge
(well enough) and she is close to orgasming multiple times when we foreplay
either with insertion of fingers or oral or playing with clitoris. Although she
won't cum it just doesn't seem to quite get their (she presents the same and
she is really "focusing")
I've also since noticed she can only orgasm during sex when she is on top, I'm
unsure if this is because of the pressure it puts on her or if it is because
she's in control.
She is really worried about this from a perspective that she feels like she is
broken as it's been this way since her first times. I just personally want to
satisfy her and explore, I don't care about the machoism all I care about is
that it's enjoyable for her (which it seems to be I'm just missing the final
hoorah)
Do people have opinions on what to try, what to do? She has said to me
previously she has trust issues, she can't trust partners which I thought to be
a massive influence (although she's stated to me she does trust me)
As far as I can possibly see, it's about getting inside the woman's head as
much as the foreplay physically. I have told her to relax it's not just a goal
it's about the fun and sharing. It's about trust and she needs to trust that I
will not hurt or violate her in any emotional or un wanted physical way.
As I mentioned she orgasms well (and is actually a little shy about it when she
does) when having intercourse but only in certain positions in which she is
usually on top.
I'm not looking for advice in a selfish respect it's honestly all about trying to make this girl feel more comfortable and I'm looking for ideas and possible situations people have had which are similar.
Cheers - reksat
Other things are that she stated that she liked exciting public sex, I asked her about it and she said that she was never pleased by her previous male partners so it was more exciting that way.
I kind of get the feeling that she's just not used to a non "energizer bunny" guy. I actually want to explore and have fun and take our time not just a quickie. I want to be pleased by pleasing her, not by pleasing myself.
One thing I have on my side is that we actually talk a bit during sex which is actually fantastic she's even commented that she talks more and opens up more. Usually she'd just go with it so at least i have solid ground to work with.
It is really true that a woman has many thoughts in her mind even during sex, but when she is on the stage of getting orgasms everything just goes away and focuses on the moment . Take it from a woman like me. And I have read an article on this site and you might be interested to check it out. You will be able to get information--very interesting one. And get ideas on how to pleasure your girl.