I am 35 yrs old male. i have been masturbating since the age of 13. I never had a wet dream. Never had a girlfriend. I did loose my virginity a year ago. Ever since I can remember my penis has been bent severely downwards like a banana when erect. During the years, the erections have been getting weaker, and painful. I really do believe I over masturbate because of the pain in the shaft of the penis, and inside my testicles. When i ejaculate, it hurts. Also the more I do masturbate, the less it feels good. If i go two weeks without doing it, and the time I do masturbate again, It feels so good. I have masturbated so much that my penis gets numb and no pleasure out of masturbation. I am trying to stop masturbating for 3 weeks, then keep it at once a week. Sometimes I wonder if my erections can get strong again by not masturbating anymore, or once every week. I never have been able to get a girlfriend, so I assume when im 50 or so, I still will be masturbating. Is there anything that really works thats over the counter?
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I hope you take my advice and realize I am trying to help because I once needed so much help with my problems as well.
You need to seriously try to stop and limit yourself by cutting back little by little. In the long run it will help. If you are christian then try to look to God for help and look over some websites addressing Masturbation and God. What is right and what is wrong will be addressed and it might actually help you cut back and not think so much about it.
Another thing that will help. The golden rules:
1. no porn
2. clearing (let's say) WEIRD thoughts of women from your mind.
3. If you have set a distinct place for masturbation then you probably mastubate too much. So go to that place and try to see it as just a room.
Probably the most obvious reason for why your erections are dying out is because you don't desire them for a good reason. I know it doesn't sound like it fits together but really it's true. Now imagine you DID have a girlfriend (or better yet a wife) and that she wanted you. Now if you had someone wanting you like that I'm sure the pleasure would be soaring through the roof.
So what you have to work on is taking the concentration off of masturbation and focusing more on reality and what you have to do to REALLY be happy.
MANY people (probably most people) masturbate to relieve them self of stress, depression or just do it because they are bored or think it will make things better. NOT THE RIGHT ANSWER.
It might take a while for you to realize you need to try your hardest to snap out of it but hopefully you will realize it soon enough. Take it from a level headed girl who has a very stressful life and faced these same problems (and still is).
So please listen to me and really try to limit. It's better not to have a girlfriend then to have to face the lot of what I've had (seriously. total pshycos). Take it as a blessing and try to think that the right girl is coming soon. Positive attitudes are what win us girls over.
Let a healthy sex life find you. If you're trying too hard to just get it over with and please yourself (and totally forget that their is SUPPOSED to be a girl involved) then you can just forget about it.
HARSH REALITY. For me and for you.
I hope it helps some. But you never know how these things will turn out.
Peace my friend!
You need to seriously try to stop and limit yourself by cutting back little by little. In the long run it will help. If you are christian then try to look to God for help and look over some websites addressing Masturbation and God. What is right and what is wrong will be addressed and it might actually help you cut back and not think so much about it.
Another thing that will help. The golden rules:
1. no porn
2. clearing (let's say) WEIRD thoughts of women from your mind.
3. If you have set a distinct place for masturbation then you probably mastubate too much. So go to that place and try to see it as just a room.
Probably the most obvious reason for why your erections are dying out is because you don't desire them for a good reason. I know it doesn't sound like it fits together but really it's true. Now imagine you DID have a girlfriend (or better yet a wife) and that she wanted you. Now if you had someone wanting you like that I'm sure the pleasure would be soaring through the roof.
So what you have to work on is taking the concentration off of masturbation and focusing more on reality and what you have to do to REALLY be happy.
MANY people (probably most people) masturbate to relieve them self of stress, depression or just do it because they are bored or think it will make things better. NOT THE RIGHT ANSWER.
It might take a while for you to realize you need to try your hardest to snap out of it but hopefully you will realize it soon enough. Take it from a level headed girl who has a very stressful life and faced these same problems (and still is).
So please listen to me and really try to limit. It's better not to have a girlfriend then to have to face the lot of what I've had (seriously. total pshycos). Take it as a blessing and try to think that the right girl is coming soon. Positive attitudes are what win us girls over.
Let a healthy sex life find you. If you're trying too hard to just get it over with and please yourself (and totally forget that their is SUPPOSED to be a girl involved) then you can just forget about it.
HARSH REALITY. For me and for you.
I hope it helps some. But you never know how these things will turn out.
Peace my friend!
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There are many different ways the penis is when erect. Some go to the left, some will bend in one direction in the middle of the shaft. You may want to ask your Dr. if he thinks that the angle has any effect. Have you had a urine test since this started. I just noticed that this was posted awhile back. have you had any luck or found out if there is a medical problem? How are you doing now? I had prostate surgery and have retro grade ejaculation, the seamen goes into the bladder instead of coming out.To me this is a major problem, I am single ,and the one thing I could enjoy is gone. The Uroligist was very flippant about it. but I don't recall him saying this could be a side effect. Anyway how are you doing?
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