Mom's an Alcoholic - What can I do??

I dont know whether my mum is infact an alcoholic but im quite sure she is shes a single parent and is constanly on my case, i have a younger brother and he constantly leans on me for help support ECT, Once i lost her sim card as i borrowed her phone to text her freind just on my sim card using her phone. She got me by my kneck, my back was being held up by a glass of orange juice i got so furious and angry i couldnt stop thinking if my brother wouldnt have stopped her how long would she have gone for?
I LOVE being at my dads he knows about her problem, but cant do anything as he lives in Scotland(Edinburgh) and we live in England (Nottingham) i really wish that i could live in Scotland. The police have threatened my mum about her drinking and even conviscated her vodka (Christmas Day 2009). She rang the police because she didnt know were we was the police returned about 1Hour after the call ovbiously me and my brother had already had chrismas dinner and returned home she was asleep on the sofa as usual so i did the routine take off her trainers and coat , She Fell ON The FLOOR! Then as i was trying to put her back on the sofa i hear a knock on the door low and behold its the police -- I Already know this officer as i had many runins with the police and any way my mum was so drunk she didnt want to tell the police her DOB i told the policeofficer and my mum went skitz after she went infat she went off on me while she was there the police even was going to take me and my brother to care or to my nanars (Shes more like my mum than my mum actually is!!
I Really Need Help!
I Really Need Advise On What I Should Do PLEASE Help ME!!
Chelsie
xx

hiya, ur not alone either coz i kno exactly wht ur going through, b4 the age of 12 i was a real daddys girl, i adored my step father but then when i got to 12 my step father turned into an alcholic, its no picnic, he used to abuse me and my brother and mother, we were in a crash as a result of his foolishness,and the police came out 24/7, as a result of all this i started self harming. i think u are so brave , so brave to put up with ur mum like this. its so frustrating becuase their sober one minute and then their a drunk the next and u do not know when their being theirselves. my mum has a illness called MS which did not help home life,

As a result of my step fathers constant consumption of alchol he moved out and he wanted to get better,but then i came home one day from school and listened to the answer machine msgs and found out from their tht he had died, as he drank ulsers grew in his throat and at the end he would of sicked up so much blood that he choked to death on it. he was only 37 when he died 7 mounths since he died. and am 16 and i been putting up with this since i was 12. i do realise how bludy hard it is to talk to an alcholic but please do anything to get ur mum into rehab..please i can not stress enough how much i would hate for you to lose one of ur pearents due to alcohol. if you want to ask me any questions please do not hesetate to add me on msn or facebook, Arabella mortimer hendry

God bless youxxxxxx

I'm sorry girls but i had to delete your e-mail address. I know this is a delicate subject and it's important for both of you but we are not allowed to post our own address.

my mom is a alcoholic to,but im only 16 and cant really do much but say she needs help.
we've tried talking to her and trying to explain the damages she could be doing while driving.(recently she got a dui) but the main thing im trying to say is that i learned from it,i took my first drink of alcohol at 15 and got alcohol poisoning i took pills and almost overdosed and i started cutting myself when all this started happening,about 2 years ago my family had discovered she had a boyfriend (yes,my mother is married and my father is still around)but they"ve been talking about getting a divorce for a year now.
he hasnt left,because of us kids.

i realized theres alot of other teens out there living in the situation i am,and im sorry to everyone that has to go thru it.
its not a very good thing to go thru,it made me go downhill along with my mother
shes bringing this whole house down.


all of the money goes towards her alcohol and her other problem which is her boyfriend donnie
hes threatned to kill me and told me to shut up before,she stood there when he said those things and didnt act like anything was even said,i went after him a few times and told him i was going to personally harm him to keep him away from my mom,i cant take anymore of the fighting yelling or beating.
so to anyone out there who wants to talk, you can add my yahoo IM

id atleast like to try and make someone elses life a little better since i know i cant fix my own issues.

same with my mom... maybe it started 4-5 years ago.. before she wouldnt drink that often, maybe 1-2 times per month. but as time went on, she started drinking more and more... sometimes i would come home from school and see her drunk, so that happened about 4-5 days per week.. so imagine, she was drunk half of the days.. :-( then there was this accident, she was driving to get my 3 old brother from the kindergarden, and when she picked him up n was driving back home, she crashed to a fence... my dad was shouting so much at her, so after that accident it seemed to stop.. not until recently, maybe 2 months ago she started again.. tho not so often. i came back from school and saw her totally drunk, talking with people on the phone, i got so mad at her.. and then she went to sleep. maybe after 30mins my dad called her and told her to come pick him up from work, so she was driving DRUNK! then she started to lie to him that she was drinking with my auntie, (which is lie, because my dad called her and asked)...so she was drinking alone without a damn reason... :-( then whenever my dad said that she liein, she started screeming things like : I KNOW IM A BAD MOTHER, IM NOT WORTH LIVING, AND IM NOT LIEYIN!!' etc.. my dad told her that either she stops drinking or hes moving out of this house... then she went to sleep.. in the morning me , my dad and my older brother came to her room and started talking with her about it. she said she'll try to stop it, and we believed her... but todday it happened agein ;( i came back from school and see her drunk yet again... thats hurting me so badly.. and my dad got mad at her again....now im trying to search for some alcoholics rehab or something... because i dont know what to do anymore :-( i dont want her to drink....

I'm a 15 year old from Brisbane Australia, and i have been dealing with my mother being an alcoholic since i was 12. Every time we asked her to stop, she would for a week than change to another drink, thinking it would change the problem. Of course it didn't, we always thought it would get better. Dad said she only drank because she was unemployed and she had nothing else to do. So she got a job as an aged care nurse, we thought at this point in time, she wouldn't drink because she had to get up at 5am, but guess what we were wrong again, nothing changed it, she kept drinking, and so she wouldn't be still accounted as drunk the next morning she'd have a few drinks then take a pain killer, making the effects stronger. I now spend my nights watching my mother stumble, fall, crawl and crash to the floor. I'm pretty sure this is no way for a teenager to grow up. No one i know understands what I'm going through, but i do have people who are there for me. Every night i just wish someone could tell me what to do. I want this to get better, because i know if it doesn't my life will gradually start going down hill. i'll lose the home I've lived in my whole life, my father may not be able to pay for my schooling, i won't have the opportunities i always thought i had. I know i don't have it as hard as some people out there suffering from starvation and poverty and i'm sorry that there stories can not be heard.

i know what you are going though and i need help too cause my mum has a drinking problem. my mum has been drinking for as long as i remember, but it has got especialy bad in the past few years. since my sister has left to go to university i am left alone with my dad to tackle it but he refused to take action as he refuses to acknowledge the full extent of her problem. some nights its fine she will come home at 6.30 and be drunk by 7.30 as usual goes to bed relivtly quietly around 8.45 leaving me to myself. she usual drink 1 and a 1/4 bottles a night however it affects her alot worse as she doesnt eat alot at work and gets drunk before she has dinner so she isnt hungry. she often gets violent when drunk punching walls and sometimes attacking me. although it dosnt physically hurt when she attacks, mentally it has hurt me. she also has a serious problem when drunk that she doesn’t know who she is or where she is. iv been on holiday with her and woken up to find her trying to climb over the balcony thinking it was the way to the toilet. the full seriousness of the problem was shown to me when my dad told me that when she was at a reunion she was staying a room with one of her old friends from school and was very drunk. she woke up in the night and dint know who was sleeping next to her and began to attack her friend, scratching her face and punching, the friend wanted to press charges. i wish my dad never told me that. The thing that really upsets me is that my mum foregets what she does every night so when she has blamed me for her drinking and made me cry she wakes up in the morning and acts like she is the perfect mother but i am left with the memories evey night. usualy i can cope with it, even though it is well known my mum is an alcoholic i have never confided in anyone i tend to keep my home life and school life very different. but for the first ime in years i have noticed that it has been affecting me at school and i am often unhappy and near to tears for no reason. this is mainly due to an incident this week where my mum left me and my dad for a break cause aparently we were the source of her drinking. i dint mind her leaving cause i thought it would be beneficial but she came home 5 days later and on that night she got just as drunk as she always did. when she left she missed my last ball at school as i am leaving this year. it seemed all she did on this break was he doesnt know how to handle her and she often drives drunk. as i am leaving this year i am worried about leavng her at home with my dad xt year. it is my last week at school ever and i want to enjoy it but this stuff with my mum is making me realy depressed and i dont want to talk to my friends about it.i need advice on how to handel her and what to do next year when i cant look afer her, she seems to be getting worse every year/

:cry: my mom is started to become an alchoholic she drinks every 2nd day and she knows she has a problem. it's al because of the stress i our lives. she's gooing to school. and she's tried to go to stop drinking meetings but they didn't work. Im only 11 and right now im trying to make sure my mom doesnt spen every secound on drinking you guys are alot older than me i need your hellp!
It scares me :(

i am 15. My mum i think is an alcoholic. we had social services round our house and TBH they're a load of ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting**! me and my brother look after each other. she'll have a glass of wine. but she cant seem to stop until the bottles gone./ it really upsets me because its just me and my brother. as my dad left her years ago.
whe social services cam round she was sober. so they thought everything was fine. but it really isnt.
i know what you all are going through. can someone help me pleaseee!!!!
Thanks :)
xx

I also know what all of you are going through i have a increidibly long storey but im just 12 :-( i started noticing my mothers drinking when i was roughly 6 or seven,she had an abusive boyfriend who used to beat the **** out of her (e.g) he once hit her over the head with a frying pan,so hard it dented the pan.years of that then he died and my heart does go out to my mum for her loss buti also resent her for what she is doing to me and my brother (17) who clearly has issues.so the next part of my storey occurs roughly a year after the death of my mother's abusive boyfriend.we went on holiday for the whole summer to england to see my family and dad.a whole summer goes by spending most of it with my dad.then a few days before we are due to leave mum gets pissed in front of him we get one more night with him and then he asks if we want to live with him .me being 8 at the time jumped at the idea as i rarley see my dad.little did i know this was part of his revenge plan for my mother getting a barring order against him (another storey) any way little did i know he was on hard core crac. and in court thre whole thing was classed as child abduction.anyway the drinking continues with mum dad gets himself clean.mum gets a boyfriend half her age who i frenkly dislike strongly.i've told her this but he still comes first.(they only got together a year ago) so social services got involve and i lived with my neighbour for a month..and when i went home the drinking continues.my family has almost convinced her to get help but somehow i doubt it will help...But i don't ageree with the people saying you have no hope my friends mum was an alcoholic her,her sister and dad moved out she went to rehab and hasn't drank in almost a year and it works for other people i know,,alot of the time the cances are slim but i never lose hope.i found out all the stuff about my dad recently and quite honestly dont really care for either of my parents.i still love them of course. this was a very brief summary of everything but id be up all night trying to tell you everything anywayi hope everything works out for us children of alcys :-) :-( x x

my mom has had a problem with drinking since i can remember. i always know when shes been drinking even though she thinks im stupid. its almost every night now and she sneeks it and wen i find it she always says "oh its old" im so mad words cant describe how i feel. im tried talking, yelling, crying, compromising, so many things to where i dont know what to do. she is a good mom and i know she is under a lot of stress but she wont stop drinking. she wont even talk to me about it anymore. i dont really know why im writing on this forum i just needed to vent and i have no one to talk to about this. so ya.

I really can relate to you all here, I hope you all find a way to deal with your situations. my mother started drinking secretly and telling lies
about it when i was 11, im 27 now and nothing has changed. she stays in denial along with my father who doesnt know what to do. lying and a split personality of a zombiesque person who i have to accept as her is all to common. I have to detach from it all and have told her our relationship will fade but she carries on as if nothing happens after she has cried and promosed to get help. the sad thing is my father now has terminal cancer and has been given a year to live. (maybe alot more) and she still does it. I hope you all can find some peace and know your not alone. sometimes as mentioned above, you have to leave them as theyre grown and have to make their own choices. Peace..Aj

my mom iz like yours but im 14 and my mom wont admit that she haz a problem.... she thinks that im always being rude to her when i :-( tell her that she has a drinking problem... sometimes i wish i had a different mom

Hello,

I am an angry, sad, and feeling helpless 13 year old. I have a mom who goes and drinks a 12 pack almost every night. She gets drunk and yells at me sometimes randomly. I ask her and beg her and cry my self to sleep begging her to stop drinking. When I was littler my mom used to say mean things targeted to me only. I felt bad and embarrassed but I still loved my mom. When she is sober she is the most prettiest funniest happiest woman possible. I love her spool much and I pray for her every night. One day she drank after I got picked up from school and she was drinking. She bought a 12 pack and was really drunk I finally lost it and cried so hard that I almost fell asleep and I had a headache the next morning. Anyway she came in with beer in her hand and asked me what was wrong. I told her and she said she would stop this happened twice. She is still drinking today. My day does not drink and I tell him and he tries to help and I it doesnt work. My 21 year old brother were talki g about it with me and the next day he got drunk. I don't know what to do. Plz help. May Jesus be with all of you. In the name of the father the son and the holy spirit. I pray. For you. May god be with you.

I know what its like. I'm 16 and my moms been drinking for about 6 years but it wasn't a problem until about 3 years ago.
She started drinking just after her devoice. Which I know was hard so it didn't bother me. Then she met my now step dad,who is an amazing person. But right after they got married my mom started drinking like crazy. She even tried getting me to drink. Then she got her DUI (on her way to pick me up). But she got help, stopped drinking and things were fine. Then she stared back up again and now its out of control. My step dad stop any drinking he did because "there has to be a sober person in the house". Last summer my mom shoved me and almost broke my ankle. We've tried talking to her but it does no good. She now hides it where she thinks we cant find it.
I just need help! I know i can't stop her drinking but I want to stop the way it makes me feel. I've ever tried killing myself because i cant take raising my mom. I told her if I saw her with more wine i was going to move out, I caught her with wine today!

I love my mom I always have but I cant stand the drinking anymore. I'm tired and I'm ready to give up. Its to much for me to take. :'(

Hi,
My moms drunk right now! it happens every 2-3 nights and she goes to the pub and when she comes out she will go into the garage for 2-3 hours binge drinking and smoking, my dad tells her off and tells her not to do it and she won't admit she has a problem. f**king selfish sket, she has everything she wants, she has a nice family, husband, 2 kids, a well paying job (part time), her life is worry free, i hope she f*****g burns in hell for this s**t