I could have written this!
Except that I can make my wife of 12 years orgasm. But only through a very unusual stimulation.
I must be on top of her in missionary, and I must be all the way inside her and holding still.
Thrusting with her does not excite her at this point.
So I stay still deep inside. Sometimes I move in and out about 1/4 inch or less and keep pressure upwards.
At some point minutes later, she wants slow thrusting but never pull more that halfway out.
The most frustrating thing for me isn't the intercourse, it is the absence of me giving her oral. It was one of my favorite things and I have had partners say that I was amazing.
So it is really bothering me.
I love the taste, texture, and excitement that oral normally brings
I have the same problem with my girlfriend who also was a virgin at the time we meet 5+yrs ago,she hates me touching her breasts and mostly hates me touching her clit she tells me it doesn't feel nice the truth is she doesn't know how to control what she is feeling.The way that we went to get around that was to use a stimulator and a vibrating penis ring unfortunately she still fights against the feelings that she experiences during sex and when she is almost climaxing she runs into the toilet because she confuses orgasm with the need to` P`.Hey oh what we men go through in the name of love
Hi I'm a girl and I can really relate to her.
I didn't orgasm for years and I always found clitoris stimulation just agitated me because I didn't know what was good and what wasnt, mainly because I didn't experiment with myself.
So I orgasmed the first time during oral sex and aftr that pretty much can't get enough but I have a tip and I'm only 25:)
I've talked to a few girls about this and it works.
She needs to do this by herself for the first time, privacy so she can feel comfortable enough to be herself no matter how comfortable you think she is with you.
Secondly tell her to keep her panties on.
Lie on her back with her legs open and crossed.
Using her strong hand stroke very softly the clitoris area over the panties and find the area that feels good. Rub over and back, quickening as the sensation gets better. She'll notice the clitoris hardening.
So the most important part is this... Her legs that are stretched open, these can be stretched open wider, pushing the knees outward to intensify the muscle tension and she will orgasm much easier. Keep them stretched outward as she strokes.
This method works for me always.
By the way don't feel bad if you can't make her orgasm. Loads of women can't and those who can easily lie about it...
I'm exactly the same as your girlfriend, trying to look in to ways that my boyfriend and myself could bring me to orgasm but have not found much of use yet, only that there are actually quite a few women in a similar position.
I've always struggled but we've only come to this conclusion this week so I have not tried much but I would say that attempting to actually break her hymen might help as that seems to be what is making me feel like I need to pee.
I do have a vibrator but I don't think she's missing out really, if there is a barrier (like my blanket) between it and my clit it feels great but I've never orgasmed just reached a mini climax or breathlessness.
I've found that him turning me on brings me much closer to orgasm than him actually trying to bring me to one.
I know I've not really given you any help here but I hope that knowing more might help you solve it because it is really frustrating!!
Get her a vibrator haha
She's a squirter.... I had the same issues with men that I dated. Once I finally squirted everything feels a lot better....
Shes a squirter ....
I agree with most of what you say, but there are a few more steps here. I am a woman. My first orgasm came accidentally during intercourse with my first boyfriend about 3 months after we began having regular sex. This was before there was the internet or much information available on sex, so maybe the pressure was less and the way we made love more intimate and loving. He had prior experience with an older woman (she was a 23 year old teacher who had seduced him in the 10th grade, we were 17 and 18 when we first made love). He loved to go down on me, but I never had an orgasm that way. It was just a warm up. Young women are sometimes just slower than men to become orgasmic, but the only way it will ever happen is to not really aim toward intercourse or even orgasm, but to spend a great deal of time on the kissing and hugging part. That warms a woman up and gets her to start getting slippery in the vagina area. The clitoris is very very sensitive. If it is touched dry, it can hurt a bit. I think it is better to flirt, smile and laugh first, then perhaps after one glass of wine (more will slow the process down), spend at least an hour holding, kissing, lightly touching and just slowly warming her up. Ask her what she DOES like. Do not touch the clitoris until she moves your hand there or asks. Touch lightly and only when lubrication is present around the clit. Touch near it but not directly on it. Tell her that you will touch it only when she wishes and make sure to compliment how beautiful she is. Licking around clit (after at least 45 min of other touching) should eventually make it so that she will beg you to touch it. But never touch it roughly, dry or too soon. I can not over emphasize that as much as it feels good to be touched after the female has released natural lubricants and has been warmed out and made to feel lovely for an hour or more, it can hurt to be touched when she is not yet "turned on".
That is the method I would recommend. If you do these steps slowing and with love, she will eventually want more more and more. Only have intercourse when she is naturally very wet. Once inside, rock and encourage her to grind on you. Wait to do the in and out thing for at least 10 minutes. The rock and grind can often give a girl a terrific orgasm. My first one was with his penis inside of me with him in a sitting position and me facing him straddling him and grinding while kissing. Very romantic. Very memorable to this day.
My wife only like penetrating sex or rubbing her clit with penis
She gets orgasm only by rubbing clit with penis
She don't like me touching or licking down there
She don't touch herself too
Don't like vibrators as well
What can I do to change this ?
klan hest vi in ko ous!! han pat .
stick a finger in her ass when she gets this feeling. its relaxes all the muscles and she will let go.
Sweet of you to want to "help" her, it might help if you backed off and left her clitoris alone.
It's too much pressure to feel forced to relax so you can feel what the other person wants you to feel. She wants to please you, but your anxiety and demand is too much. The whole set-up is counterproductive and about you!
Does she enjoy sex? That's great. She's new at this and let her learn at HER pace. And enough of expecting her to be like your previous lovers. She's not. She's unique so stop your comparisons!
Make love to HER and find what feels good to her.Some day, after you accept her as she is, she might have an orgasm on her own. But stop trying to force her to please you.
I understand I am 43 and have three kids I hate my clot being touched at all always have always will it even hurts I hate fingers any where near my vagina inside or out fingers do not feel like a penis that said I love sex....intercourse I get off so easily with penetration. .its the most amazing feeling imaginable. ...but I feel like a guy I don't like for play some morals ok but give me five min of intercourse and I'm satisfied
Do your self a big favor and find yourself a new lover.
There are many women out there who would appreciate a man
of you caring and love making ability.
I tried the finger approach and it worked!
Thank you for your sound advice.