It's the very same for me, I feel you sister. It's absolutely draining and frustrating and if you earn your own money, you wonder why you're actually in this relationship in the first place.
Why don't you sort yourself out then rather than eating c**p until you have to vomit from it?
See someone for your mental health problems, don't expect others to carry your burden and take responsibility for your health and life.
See someone for your mental health problems, don't expect others to carry your burden and take responsibility for your health and life.
My husband of 21 years is the EXACT same way! I'm age 65 & have known physical issues myself (fibromyalgia, migraines, ulcers, arthritis in both knees & thumbs and disks out in neck & low back, immune issues, as well as diabetes, Hashimoto's thyroiditis, etc). Yet, he is the one who acts as though he is dying at 74. He is a NEW diabetic & has arthritis in low back with high blood pressure. That's all. Im newly retired 2 yrs & he's been retired 13 yrs already. He did absolutely nothing but get depressed & state "you cant retire from retirement." No one forced him to retire at 62. He retired from life in 2011. Now he acts like he cant get out of bed to go to the bathroom. Im left to do everything physical in the house. Im incapable of doing it all physically along with the mental anguish he's causing me. And listening to him moan is unreal. I have no empathy, sympathy whatsoever as he has none for me. Id be willing to be his caretaker if he were willing to be mine but I know if the roles were reversed, he wouldnt do the same for me. But I've been reminded "till death do us part."