Hi.. I am married for 5 years and my husband is now 35.. he is always over concerned about his health doing health checkups every now and then with all the reports showing normal. He is glued to the bed most of the time when not at work sleeping or checking you tube !! And yes he is never tired of having sex!! But guess who is tired and pissed off.. me!!! I want to do things together apart from sex! Like going to the park or the beach, chatting about matters apart from sick health and I crazily have a desire to be happy!! So I am not moving to a stage where I avoid him or do my daily chores only.. and spend all my time with my kid .. he is good at work and does things for me but what we need most is a companion for life.. what to do if the companion is becoming more of a pain than company ...
I wish the same things you posted too!! Beat some sense into them!!! There is no sense in counseling or explaining that nothing is wrong.. it's better for us to accept it and wisely ignore and concentrate on the beautiful things in life
How sad for all of us :( what the f? I think most of us would agree that they are full of c**p. But I wonder what the REAL motive is? That they are just lazy and constantly convince themselves that it's because of WHATEVER ache or pain to justify never doing anything for us but expecting everything we have to give. The question I have too is how long is too long? At what point do we call bull c**p and leave them. They trap us in this one sided cycle of giver and taker with these kids. Then they themselves become the sickly child. I'm over it. I want to LIVE. But what do I tell my kids when they're older? Or what will he tell them? Mommy didn't love daddy enough to wait on him hand and foot and nurse him for the remainder of our lives or until the kids are grown. That daddy was sick and mommy didn't care no more.....it's not fair. When I'm sick he acts like I'm faking it. Please God release me from this hell I'm living.
You just described my husband! I feel for you. I don't know how much longer I can deal with this.
Mine was a work-horse until I got lazy and depressed. Now he is too tired for anything, even sex, which used to be our favorite thing. I choose to be at fault because I can change myself, but I cannot change him. I am so sad. I am sitting here typing in the dark, while he is sleeping, after being apart for my sister's baby shower, when we have not been apart for one night for years. I think the problem might be that we can't pay our bills this month. I don't know how to help. I feel awful and I miss him. What should I do? He slept and drank all weekend, and he is still sleeping, knowing I would be home over an hour ago. I think he hates me.
You got me there! I'm a nurse also. I work weekend doubles. I have a BF who always complains about a health issues.. When you take care of sick people at work,you don't want to hear that at home. I've been keeping a log of illnesses. One week,Poison Ivy,one week back spasms from a lumpy mattress,now nausea and diarrhea. Not to mention sinus infections etc... but he always manages to wake up and watch TV after these sleep marathons
This post has been going on over one year and is at 6th page of replies. I'm another wife who is living this situation. Married 33 years. For many many years now it is one thing after another. It almost seems like any little ache or symptom he has, he quickly looks up on the internet, which then seems to bring on additional symptoms he reads about. He sleeps poorly at night, so then he sleeps in the daytime to make up for it. His problems don't stop him from playing golf or tennis, but when he comes home he is knackered so we can't do much. I feel bad because I often doubt what he says, and I don't tend to offer him much sympathy. He even comments on my lack of reactions. He sees his doctor, but never takes his advice. He looks up side effects of any medication prescribed...and sure enough, he gets the side effects so after one day the pills are stopped. As someone said in an earlier post, I have often felt I should leave, but then the guilt takes over. And I'm scared to leave too, although it could not be much worse than this. He is just a miserable man I think, and he likes to make sure people know it (and make them miserable too).
OMG! I am experiencing the very same thing with my husband at 50! I am so glad to know that I am not the only woman dealing with this man c**p. All I can say is I'm going through life, all by myself but I'm going to make the best of it for me and my daughter! He can either get in the game of life or sleep till he dies BORING!!!!!
True. I have been living this nightmare for over 20 years and it only gets worse....it will never get better...
If you can I would walk away. It does not get better. Trust me.
I have been in the position of being married to someone for over 20 years who is chronically ill. And now not just chronically ill but older now (he is 70 years old ). Am I mean for wanting out? No. Unhappy? Yes. Is there a way out of this? No. So where is the hope? So much for a happy marriage. I care for him while living my own life the best I can....
Absolutely you are not alone because i am feeling the same too. We just got married 8mos ago from almost 3yrs long distance relationship. i got pregnant 2mos later and he got a lacunar stroke in exactly one month of our marriage. He recovered pretty quickly maybe just 3weeks. He is been sick/ not feeling well almost the whole time of my pregnancy (30weeks right now). He feel nauseaus, dizzy and bloated. We went to primary doctor many times, check blood works, perfect. Check MRI in brain and neck to make sure its nit related to the stroke. endoscopy , gastric emptying study next week. i tried my very best to undertsand and patient with him.i told him he might just stress on things coming at once, he said its no. One of my struggle is when i go out with my sister or friend without him because hes at work, he feel anxious about it. He feels like i enjoy myself without him etc etc! Anyhow, im praying always to overcome all of this, i tried not to be stress about it because im still pregnant?
Yup, I've been married to my husband going on 11 years and just in the last 5 years have started to realize that four surgeries later and possibly another because of "all of his complaints" I've realized are just always going in a vicious circle. Just Watching and listening closely seeing that night stand full of meds. Doctor after Doctor symptom after symptom. At this point no one can tell me any different that my husband who is a sweetheart is surely suffering from a mental disease, that I have no control over. It's hard to watch them slowly killing themselves. So sad.
I'm 59 and have a 62 year old man FRIEND now that does ALMOST same things. Only there is NO SEX or any type of romance. Never takes me anyplace. He is morbidly obese and lazy. He is ALWAYS sick since I met him 4 years ago. I'm sick of his bs. You have my sympathy
Oh. And I thought I was alone. My husband has wknds off and it never fails he will start feeling sick when Mondays approach and today is Monday he called out. I told him all wknd go to the doctor if your feeling bad,nope I'm fine is the response I get. I told him sunday I will bet you 20 u don't work monday. I work 12 hr days as a nurse and I am always dealing with ppl sick complaints and frankly I don't want to hear it at home. It's frustrating love my husband but damn suck it up buttercup. So my only day off and he home lounging around creating a nice mess behind himself. I see I'm I alone..