I sympathize. I swear they get wives so they can exploit them.
My husband sounds almost exactly like your husband, almost to the tee. I'd like to know what yoy finally did...
Omg mine 2... I am loosing my mind
My husband has a mystery disease that appears about every 3 months We end up in emergency or doctors office. I think he has had every test known to man and nothing has shown positive. He has arthritis so he's always in pain but the moans and groans drive me crazy. He also has diabetes but eats all the sugar he can find. He has high blood pressure controlled with pills but salts his food like a blizzard. People have commented on this. He does what he wants and hopes there is a pill to control it. He smoked until 2 months ago. It was making me sick ultimatum worked. He takes his medicine with a beer. Sees nothing wrong with it.
I finally gave up. I don't tell him to drink water anymore, I don't comment on the beer or sugar or salt. He is 66. Sometimes when he sleeps later then usual I wonder if he is still alive. I know it sounds awful but I can't stand adult stupidity. I've decided I'm on my own. I just do what needs to be done and try to find happiness where I can
I finally gave up. I don't tell him to drink water anymore, I don't comment on the beer or sugar or salt. He is 66. Sometimes when he sleeps later then usual I wonder if he is still alive. I know it sounds awful but I can't stand adult stupidity. I've decided I'm on my own. I just do what needs to be done and try to find happiness where I can
My husband is like that too. He was the same since his puberty days. He is sick everyday for the last 2 to 3 decades.....yes decades. He had no interest in anything in life and nothing makes him happy. He lives with a silly face all his life and is a total sympathy eater. Always sick right from his head till his feet. I can't cope with it any more.....ive been crying my self to sleep since last 10 years....he has no value for my tears or the children....
Not me (have sex). The sickly bastard tries to hit on me, and I'm thinking, maybe when you get rid of that tuberculosis cough you like to fire up all the time when you don't get enough attention. YUCK. Or maybe stop trying to be the 90-year-old sickly man of the house.
I've given up trying to help my sickly husband. After decades of mysterious illnesses that rob him of his energy. And years of me begging him to get help and playing his nurse. I know live for myself and I have made my own life. We are still a married couple but, I find my happiness in my friends and hobbies.
OMG, this is the story of my life. How is your husband now. I feel your pain.
It's so nice to know that we aren't alone with our problems regarding our husbands. I have to admit that my husband has had it rough when it comes to illnesses, cancer being the main one but at the same time he does absolutely nothing to try to make himself better. His last battle with cancer was almost a year ago which was pretty horrible as it was oral cancer but luckily everything went ok and he is now cancer free. He should be eating and drinking long before now but he choses to stay on the feeding tube because nothing tastes good anymore. He stays in the bedroom all day long watching tv and won't lift a finger to help around the house unless I have a go at him. I'm so tired at having to do everything while he sits there wasting away because he still believes he's sick. He is undergoing some testing right now with our family dr. but I honestly hold no hope in him ever pulling himself together because this really is the norm for him as he was so lazy before all of this happened. I think he's just wallowing in self pity right now and I don't know how much longer I can take it.
Out of a feeling of loss and where do I turn because I don't want to be that horrible wife that complained to someone about my hubby being sick so often when his in pain. I looked up "my husbands always sick" and found there's more wives out there . my hubby as alot of the symptoms mentioned its always something. He does love me alot and will go out of his way for me, but coming home so often to see a sick person is taking a toll on me cause its painful to see him that way it's also depressing and frustrating we in our early 30's and have an elderly persons life. its not how you picture a married life. I know they'll be ups and downs but why more downs. I see married couples enjoying there lives and feel sad. I need this platform to vent. Because I don't want to complain to someone who knows us. I don't want him to know cause probably it's something out of his control. I need to always be strong emotionally and physically. I need to scream about this need to cry my heart out need to punch something till something breaks . Because I can't be emotional in front of him. Stress makes him more sick. I'm angry sad depressed frustrated. I have to put up with harsh words obviously I have to understand cause his the one whose sick. It's another day of sickness. I feel bad to say I don't look forward to going home. I don't look forward to sickness. Everything in our life is delayed due to this. I even feel a loss at praying cause it still happens. I don't know we're to turn
I cry a bedtime too. When he doesn't even know. He says he as not met a person so lil emotions as me. Cause I don't cry to him. Partly cause i know he can't handle it.
This sounds painfully familiar - the original post and many of the comments - I’m not sure what “epidemic” this is. It’s hard to find your husband attractive when they are constantly “sick” and extremely tired and lazy when they are home. I feel all of your pain. I am starting to agree with the comment about finding your own happy with hobbies and friends. This isn’t the type of marriage relationship I was wanting, but until my husband wants to change his situation then unfortunately this is the type of marriage he has created. We can’t make them want to have energy and not be lazy and sick - they have to want it themselves.
I also use bedtime to cry when his snoring he also thinks I'm emotionless. But in reality he can't handle what I have on.my shoulders
His sick another day going another week and another 3 years of married life. It's not a particular illness all the time. But it's flu fever coughing. Back pains . Leg pains. Hand. Stomach , kidney pains (too much cooldrinks) . Worst of all his a clutz so sprained his ankle suffered with that for sometime. Something fell on his foot suffered with that. Over his normal weight which aggravates back aches. Still don't eat healthy. Now high blood pressure. Feeling dizzy . Anxiety. Every illness he gets or if he gets hurt the pain is always worst case scenario. I might push through a flu. He is bed ridden. Is this cause men have a lower pain treshold. Or do they succumb to very little sneeze like the plague. Can't handle this
That's men for u. When u have kids. They get lazy. Good excuse to nod off for the day. And not help. But find tons of energy to sit on phone. Play games. And drink. They like us to nag. My favourite saying is. To him. If you yourself was in a marriage with yourself with kids. Would u be happy. His expression is priceless