my neighbours kids never stop screaming!!! Driving me insane

that seems to be the diagnosis du jour these days. everything is autism. Parents need to raise the children regardless of special conditions or not. It should not be an excuse and it is NO ONE elses responsibility to raise someone elses kids. if you are going to have a night of pleasure remember after that it is a lifetime commitment and yours and yours alone. the rest of us breed responsibly and dont want to hear your kids from three blocks away. be a parent not a pal.

It's about time you dealt with your children properly instead of treating them with kid gloves, I haven't had any problems with my children because they were taught right from wrong and not handled with kid gloves. All credit to the person who has taken the three year course I think they call that understanding and parenting the child.

I'm so sorry that posts such as these seem to include all parents of all difficult children. Although I do know that there are many children out there who are a real trial to their neighbors because of a lack of parental discipline, you are the proof that it's not always the case. Note to self: try to find out why the children are misbehaving before accusing the parents.

Please don't give up and keep trying to find out what causes this behavior. There's got to be a reason (and a treatment) Your child is probably unhappy with his own behavior as much as you are (yes, despite the evil grin) and the solution will be a relief to himself as well as to you. My heart goes out to you and I wish you every success.

''Their little darlings can do no wrong''... When our son was a toddler, I told my husband that I thought he was too strict (he never hit the child, never screamed but he made sure the little one knew he was not the boss in the house) My husband replied: ''You know, when that child gets out of our house, nobody has to love him, he'll have to earn people's love and respect. The lessons he has to learn, he might as well learn them at home where he is loved because if he has to learn them out there, where no-one gives a hoot about him, it's going to be a lot harder''. I totally agreed and from then on, my attitude changed. Children should learn at home the lessons they'll need to know once they try to make it in the real world.

I know that most parents of the children referred to in the previous pages will probably not read these posts but if just one does... remember that you won't always be behind your kids. One day, they'll have to make their own way and, since you love them, you want that to go as smoothly as possible for them. I feel sorry for ''these little darlings who can do no wrong''... they will be learning the hard way what could have been taught with love at home.

I feel for you. I am in the same boat, I am going insane because of it and the authorities won't do a thing. They have all the rights, not us. I am having to try and find a new home and Im close to suicide. I know this doesn't help you, I wish it did.

tired of ur noiseParents are so rude. They are happy to get away from their annoying, misbehaved brats! It is time we start expecting parents to raise their children and pay for them. The state pays to raise them and educate them (our tax dollar) and at home they just run wild with no disicipline. kids in my area scream from 8 to 8 or later all summer long. Parents wont do anything, they are oblivious! RUDE!! I cant even sit on my porch anymore.

I feel for you. I once had a lovely flat with a large balcony. I used to grow my medicinal and culinary herbs on there... it was such a nice place to chill in the evenings. Then the noise started.... and I had no rights. Eventually I left, and have never found a flat with a balcony since.

I have two screaming kids next door a 1 and 3 year old the 1 year old who constantly screams every morning it sounds like a pain cry then it will go to a spoilt brat scream.I sometimes hear the father telling her to **** and the mother just seems to ignore it.When they play in the backyard they scream really loud hit balls against my fence and the 1 year old cries because her brother is bullying her or she has injured herself or just crying for the sake of crying which will go on for hours!! I can't stand it it goes through me and I just want to say **** lol

Wait. A brat is defined as a ill-behaved child. So technically, your child IS if they act in an unsuitable manner.

There's a clue in your answer. Any chance you shouldn't be feeding your kid certain foods? Like baked ones with refined flour and sugar? There's a book called Grain Brain that you should check out. The standard American diet is really bad for people. Baking is not necessary. Candy is not necessary. Ice cream is not necessary. It's not a treat, it's a risk, and shouldn't be provided except for maybe once every couple of weeks. I taught at a college for a while and one time asked my students how may were required to be put on Ridelin. 7 or 8 out of a class of maybe 20 say they were required to go on these meds in school. One refused with his parents agreement and ended up being home schooled. He was one of the better students. I think what they considered "normal food" is contributing to this. The point is, parents, you may not realize this, but the food you're feeding the kids is likely a big factor in their sometimes freakish behavior. For your neighbors and for your kids, consider it. Google "food kids behavior screaming" or something like that.

Where are the parents when the girl is sitting there in the yard crying? These people are contributing to the next generation of society! They ought to be held accountable. It's tough, I know, but don't you want to say something?

Hmm I just read some replies here, mainly because I got the same problem as the poster and I'm looking for advice. Now first of all I have both younger siblings and experience as a babysitter, I know that kids cry to express emotions and throw tantrums from time to time. I also know that it can be hard to control kids but I am actually quite concerned about my neighbors kid. He's about 3 years old and he really cries ALL THE TIME. He screams like he's screaming for his life, at night, early in the morning and most parts of the day. Not only does it look like that kid is in great distress but it also of course keeps us from getting any sleep. Whenever you see his parents try to "deal" with him they just look like they've lost their nerves and don't know what to do. At some point the kid just decided to walk up the stair and come into my apartment with me, a total stranger, and his dad just looked at us and told him that he could go with me, without asking me. I didn't mind having him around for a little bit but he absolutely didn't want to go back to his parents afterwards, which I think I weird for a 3 year old. You can often hear his parents scream at him and sometimes they just let him stand by him self in the apartment buildings staircase, screaming as always. I don't really know what to do, it's a difficult situation, some kids just really are difficult, and some parents just get overwhelmed but where do you draw the line between bad parents and simply tired parents. And I'd anyone outside the family responsible for speaking up?

I know exactly how you feel. I have lived in my apartment 7 years and the people above me moved in when I did with a baby. Since they moved in all the child does is scream and cry constantly and I get up at 4 am for work and it goes on forever. Weekends day night morning it never shuts up. I don't know what to do and I can't afford to move out. But I also get migraines so it is definitely effecting me. Any advice on this? How can it cry for 7 years straight, are they beating the kid or something

So many types of screaming and each is related to different problem or different circumstance. I have 4 kids. My first daughter had reflux and continual tonsil infections, she was so sick all the time and would cry in pain. She had so much medication her hair started to fall out and her teeth formed without enamel. She would still cry through the pain killers, it was exhausting and heartbreaking at the same time. So hard to quiet that kind of painful noise. Next daughter very healthy but was a yell and scream kid when she was playing, forget the neighbours, it drove me crazy. Soon got it under control by a tap on the backside(yes I know, it's no longer appropriate) it was a tap not a flogging and then sent to her room until she learned to shut up and play nice. It didn't happen 1st go but I persisted and she soon learnt if she wanted to play she did it nicely.

Followed the same rules with the next 2 boys (No smack for the boys, I got the hang of things real good after the female terror lol) and wow, great kids, running around having fun at a suitable volume and if they got of of control occasionally, I was right there quick as, correcting their behavour. Same rules applied at nana's house too. Sick of hearing parents say, they're just being kids. It's our job to show kids what is the right kind of behavour. It is hard work and so easy to give up, as many do but suck it up and just do it, it's worth it. 

Now I have new neighbours moved in down the back that let their kids scream and yell constanly in the back yard while playing and they ignore them. I turn the volume up on the tele or radio and can still hear them. They had a party one night, lots of kids screaming that a boy had hurt himself. I went running out my house in concern and not a sign of the parents. The kids had yelled all night while playing, so nobody took any notice of the cry for help. Pathetic.

You can put in a noise complaint but it just makes you look like the bad guy. If it's affecting you mentally do it anonymously. Have sympathy for a sick child and feel sorry for the child, who's parents just don't care or have the patience to teach better behaviour. And if your concerned about abuse, report it. Better to be safe than sorry.

I have absolutely horrible neighbours on both sides on my house. One side a family of 4 with high/university son. Their family plays music loud even after prohibited hours, I could still hear their heavy bass on the other side of the house. 

On the side where my room is, a family with 4 sons aging from around 3+. 4 brats strictly speaking. They are poorly disciplined, noisy brats with no manners at all. It was evident that these kids lacked disciplined based on the behaviour of their dad who climbed over the fence to retrieve a football which got kicked my backyard without our consent. Their kids play wildly everyday. As their frontyard and backyard are joined I constantly have to bear with in their carts or bikes or whatever mechanism that they play with from one end to the other. Whilst screaming, shouting, shrieking and eventually balling their eyes out.

They have a cubby house with a high platform right next to the fence, their kids would provoke my dog to bark, after my dog left they would still go play inside the cubby house, jumping and stomping. They also been hitting the old fence that divides us with a rake, hard and loud in the damn morning. 

Once they were playing with the football (with their dad as well) and it hit the window of the room I was working in, twice. I was enraged with their behaviour. There is no fence on my frontyard so they would just get their ball, up and go. There is a tall fence by their frontyard, and just as I was approaching, one of their sons got out to retrieve the football that had gotten on the other neighbour's yard. I asked the child to play more carefully because they'd hit my window twice. They might not mind paying for the repairs, but I mind having my time wasted over things that can be avoided. His dad heard my voice and approached us asking what was wrong, and briefly explained what had happened. He told me that they're just kids and that I shouldn't be so hard on them, he apologised in the most insincere manner, pulled his son in and closed the gate in my face. F*ck. 

Just because they're kids, all more they need to be taught what's right and wrong. When kids to the wrong things at school, they are punished; whether it be timeout, detention, cleanup, parent-teacher interview. What makes these parents thinks its perfectly fine to do the wrong things outside of school and get away with it? After I left, I could hear the brat crying out loud like I framed him. 

Even today I still have put up with this BS. Just because parents can put up with screaming kids, your neighbours are not obliged to tolerate with it. Why should your fun and enjoyment be built upon the stress and frustrations of your neighbours? Your neighbours have lives too, they too are trying to enjoy their hard earned weekends, and your kids screaming and crying are not a contributing element. Schools provide education and parents have to discipline, I'm not trying to offend any parent nor be insensitve but if you can't discipline your kids, don't have so many.