I'm new to this so please bare with me. My parents always put me down and yell at me, calling me the worst names under the sun. One minute they are nice then they start swearing at me because my rooms messy or because I didn't wash my dish. It makes me so angry they don't understand how much it hurts me. I've had so many suicidal thoughts but hey I could never do it, I could never cut and I can't swallow pills so lucky them. I feel like running away, on many occasions I've gone for a walk down the street late at night wishing I was dead. Nobody knows how I feel, and this girl that claims to be my bestfriend doesn't know anything, she thinks she does but she doesn't. I have anxiety and I have depression, my parents are supposedly Christians but do people who claim to be Christians, fight all the time and put their own kids down? My mum has said so many times that she wants to leave with just my two little sisters and never come back. That hurt me so much. My own 'mother' abandoning me. I have my imperfections and have got bullied about them, my parents don't know, they think everyone's scared of me because of the act I put on at home, my brave face. It probably seems to you that I'm just another teenager with suicidal thoughts, but I'm not it's different. I don't want to kill my self. I want to run away, but where would I go? Lately it's been so hard, I had a mental breakdown the other week and I was crying uncontrollably, and I couldn't breathe. When my mum found out she started screaming at me and again putting me down saying I was a 'sook', I thought mothers and daughters were suppose be close? But hey like they say the strictest parents bring up the best liars. My parents pretty much don't even know me, if they found out half the things I've done they would definitely be shocked. My siblings are so annoying and they always put me down. Everyone including my uncles and even grandma always used to call me skinny or twig. They still do and yes it's just as bad as being called fat, people say it's good to be skinny but then why do people name me that and put me down, is it that bad? I seriously need help please anybody. There's so much more I could say, but this is a good start for me.
Hey there I'm so sorry to hear about how your parents treat you. How old are you. How long has this been going on for? Stress and depression are common in teenagers but you don't have to suffer alone and will get through it . Have you ever hurt yourself or wanted to hurt yourself in any way?
I cut my wrist everyday because of my familly I'm in the same situation my parents hits me and I try to escape from home and now I think to killmyself please help me
Hey there where are you from? The US or another country? You’re worth more than this and there are things for help.
Hey biomajor10 i have a problem, i cut my wrist everyday and want to jump off a bridge. My mom and dad divorced and My mom was nice and caring until her boyfriend came along... I know i am late but please help. They Beat me up every single day and lock me in the basement with no food. they also smoke and thats when they go too far. I really need help please. They tell me to die and wish I was never born. I am a girl and I want to beat them up, but I can't because my so called "Mom"'s boyfriend is extremely strong. I might not make it until the next week... I might really need to kill myself. I am sorry... Please reply within a week or under
Hey there guest this is Biomajor I just didn’t sign in..... you are in a very dangerous situation.... have you tried calling 911 or talking to a teacher or another trusted adult? How about going to the neighbors house?
I too faced this issue. I am an Indian and my grandparents often curse my sister and even scream at her if she drops a steel spoon while washing. What is the reason? She is the fourth girl in my family after my mother and my great grandmother had a superstition that the 4th girl will be unlucky which is why she receives this treatment. I try to protect her but I am is too young and weak and my parents live abroad and when they come home my grandmother directly denies it. At times my sister shares her thought and I do try to comfort her but it is of no use. Pls guide me how to comfort her.
Hey, I'm a guy, but reading this was actually pretty crazy because I'm in almost the exact same position right now as you were. My family's Christian (or so they say), I got two sisters, and I've gone through suicide and depression too.
First of all, hope you got through all this, it's a year later and I hope things are better for you! Just know that I get it, I get what you're going through. And it's so frustrating as a teenager because we don't really have a choice - a choice to go to school, a choice to do chores, a choice to live at home - we have what we have. It's sad, but that's the way it is. I have several friends that have big houses, amazing families, lots of money; we, on the other hand, live modestly, and my parents have been talking about divorce ever since I can remember.
Ok, so, first of all, to anyone reading this: suicide. If you are, or aren't, or just don't want to hear about it anymore, just skip down to the next paragraph so LOL. I get it. But I think it needs to be said anyway. I know it's easier to say than to hear, but the whole spiel about how suicide's "a permanent solution to a temporary problem" is true. Like true, true. I mean, it might feel like it won't get better, and honestly - it may not - but in doing so you're giving up before there's a chance for things to get better. I think about it in two ways; these aren't the only things to consider, but they're what help me the most :)
1. If what you're going through is so horrible that you're willing to kill yourself, then can things really get worse? Worse than ending everything? Life has its ups and downs, and you might just be in a "down" right now. Try changing something in your life - if you're stressed about school, talk to your counselor. If you're stressed about work, get a different job. Anything you do at this point CAN NOT be worse than ending your life.
2. Building off what I said before about how you could just be in "down" right now, think of it like this: when's the last time you took a math final? Last year? Do you remember it? Probably not. You might remember it being hardddd and stressfulll (after all, math is math), but you got through it. It's not nearly as life-or-death than it was the day before you took the test, is it? You see, it's all about perspective. Realizing this is possibly a terrible analogy LOL but tonight might be that night before the test. Maybe you didn't study, maybe you know you're going to fail, but things ARE going to get better. You'll look back on it and wonder why you were so worried.
So, a little backstory: I'm 16, I go to Lake Braddock Secondary School, I play piano and (kinda) saxophone, do some clubs, try to get A's, etc. If it says anything about my parents, today I talked to my counselor about dropping AP World. My mom made me walk home, my dad told me I'm lazy, and I'm currently locked in my room as they think I'm working on my English essay. WE'RE IN THIS TOGETHER!
I can tell you're emotional through your writing, and I'm NOT minimizing what you went (or are still going) through, but I've noticed that when you put it into a different perspective, things are generally a lot less horrible than they seem from your point of view. For one thing, you got a house, you got sisters, you got medicine (some dark humor here). MOVING ON.
I'm sure your parents want the best of you. Or maybe you're like "nope, bro, you got it wrong, they don't care" or maybe you're worried that they're intentionally hurting you. In which case, if it's physical, don't be afraid to reach out to the domestic dispute hotline (737-225-3150). If you think they don't care about you, make sure you recognize the different between them (a) not caring about you and (b) neglecting your emotional state. There's a difference. My parents give me a phone and a room and stuff, but the problem is that they're not the best in the "emotional needs" department. You also might have an issue of mental health in your house; is it possible your parents have bipolar? Or are they going through a tough time at work?
And I wanted to touch on the Christian thing. My entire family's Christian, we go to a Baptist church every Sunday, my mom does her Bible studies, etc. Whether you can relate or not, I'm not sure. But just know that your parents are not the embodiment of that religion, it's not the principles of Christianity. To be blunt, that's your parents. They might just use religion as a way to have control over you; to "obey" your parents, to depend on them. Which is not in itself a bad thing, but it can be when you mix in a little bit of narcissism, manipulation, and human nature. Just remember, you don't have to wait until you're 18 to have opinions. You might have to obey your parents until then, go to church, read your Bible - but you get to choose what to believe. Even if it feels like they're shoving a KJV down your esophagus.
You're right too about how strict parents make "the best liars." I've tried alcohol, kissed a girl (GASP), crazy stuff, stuff that I regret. Make sure you're not doing those things just because you're trying to rebel; even then, they're pretty much controlling your actions.
About the family calling you a twig, I've been there. My uncle tells me all the time that I "look like a weed." They probably don't say it to be mean, it's just messing with your head because of all your insecurities you're already dealing with.
My advice?
1. Talk to your sisters. Even if they're annoying, they're in the same position. And these are relationships that will last a lifetime. Once your parents are old and, frankly, dead, they'll probably still be hanging around.
2. Don't talk to your friends: talk to a counselor. One, I don't have friends, and two, I don't have a counselor. But this is true, nonetheless. Depending on where you live your parents might have to give consent; if they do, great, if they don't, well, you'll be 18 soon. It's sad, but it's true. In the meantime, spite them with good grades and good friends and just give yourself a good future. That'll show 'em.
3. Find a hobby. Something to take your mind off of your household issues. You said you take night walks, that's something. Offer to garden for your neighbor, make some extra cash. Join a school club! Learn an instrument (if your parents are willing to accommodate you). Just stay away from social media and videogames, which kind of just make things worse.
THANKS FOR LISTENING TO MY RANT! I wish you the best of luck, if you need anything I'm here, not sure how this website works but comment under my post or something and I'll get back to you.
And also, side note, don't just classify yourself as "having depression"; it might just be your circumstances, so be hesitant to put yourself in that box unless you're completely sure. A year ago, I was super suicidal, switched schools for an AP program, POOF. Everything's so different now.
Have an AMAZING week!!
-Your new internet best friend
Hey, so I know I'm like crazy late to this, but I get what this feels like. My biological parents are divorced and I have no contact with my bio mom (personal choice). But I live with my stepbrother, stepmom, and dad. There are days when I don't want to live anymore cause of the way my parents treat me. My parents are super strict. They have to know where I'm going at all times, who I'm with, what I'm doing. They even ask for proof of life pictures. I'm not allowed to have social media, or even to date. I'm almost 15 years old. I get my phone taken away a lot, basically, anytime I do or say something they don't agree with. The latest time (currently) is for not putting chicken from the crockpot away. I say I wish I could live with my grandparents, 'cause that's where my sister lives, but anytime I say that they tell me no. Sometimes, I lie about what's going on in my life or what I'm doing because I don't believe they won't get mad. My dad yells a lot. I think my stepmom hates me. My stepbrother gets most of the things he wants. I feel like I'm drowning and waves keep coming in. I have anxiety and suicidal thoughts, and everyone else seems to think depression. I have tried to kill myself because of my parents and this situation. No one sees how hard I try, I honestly don't know what to do anymore. My parents also want to move soon, 2 and a half hours away from all my friends, who my parents hate! I'm just struggling. Please help if you have any tips or whatever!
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, but I'm glad you reached out. Remember, it's important to talk to someone who can help, whether it's friends or family you trust or professionals.
If you're in crisis or need immediate help, please contact emergency services or seek medical attention right away. If you're in the U.S., you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text "HELLO" to 741741. They offer free and confidential support.
It's crucial to communicate your feelings with someone who can offer guidance, whether it's a teacher, school counselor, therapist, or another trusted individual. They might be able to offer insights, advice, or resources to help you navigate your situation.
Remember, there are people who want to support you and want you to feel better. Seeking help is a sign of strength, and I encourage you to reach out.
Also, because you came to SH, you can freely ask us anything and we will try to help you out as much as we can.