My boyfriend and I have recently started having sex. He was a virgin but I am not. We were having sex and he says it feels good but he was unable to ejaculate. This was a little strange to me as I've never been with a partner who was unable to ejaculate before. After doing some research I've found its not all that uncommon especially on a guys first time but I know he can ejaculate while masterbating so I know he's capable. I've read that alot of times its nerves or trying to find the right rhythm and so forth so I havnt given up hope. But I want him to experience the same pleasure I do. It kinda hit him hard in his self esteem as he was more concerned about premature ejaculation and never in his wildest dreams thought the opposite would be the case. Can anyone give me some suggestions on what I might be able to do to help him feel more comfortable or make it more pleasurable for him?
The same situation happened to me, my boyfriend was a virgin and he was unable to ejaculate when having sex. What we did the first few times was he would masturbate until he was about to ejaculate and then he would put his penis into me and thrust until he came. We discussed what might be the problem and he felt that when he would masturbate he was able to put more pressure on his penis and he would usually stimulate the base of the penis. When he masturbated he became used to that pressure. So, when we had sex there wasn't as much pressure as when he was masturbating, and the tip of the penis got the most stimulation during sex. It took him a while to get used to the different feeling of sex and to help the process he changed his masturbation technique to feel more like what would happen during sex. So have your boyfriend change his masturbation technique and while you are working on it you should try a combination of masturbation and vaginal intercourse.