Hey everyone....
I'm very happy to have stumbled upon this forum. I've spent the last 3 days reading the RE megathread and have decided to share my story for three reasons.
1) I've met somebody special
2) My psychological well being
3) Helping other sufferers
I'll start off by saying that if you are reading this then feel great about yourself. This is the first step to success. From the research I've gathered anywhere from 1 out of 8 to 1 out of 12 men suffer from a form of RE. Whether it be not being able to come in a vagina or not ever coming at all. Now if you take 100 RE sufferers, stastics show, that only 1 out of every 100 DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. So give yourself a pat on the back for being one of those few with the balls to admit you have a problem and are taking the necessary steps to defeat it.
I'm 23 and have been suffering from RE my entire life. I've had sex with 7 partners, the first being when I was 18 and the most recent being right now (the special friend).
Just like many of you who are a part of the internet age, many of my teen years where spent with my left hand on my penis and my right on the mouse. Humans havn't had the resources to masterbate like we do now for centuries. RE is so misunderstood in the medical world for this reason. Yes, it has always existed but never to the extent it does now.
I believe that my problem is both psychological and physical. I had very low self of steam as a teen, no confidence and not a lot of sexual intercourse. My masturbation techniques have conditioned me to rely on a specific matter of circumstances to come. At first I could knock one off easy but over the years masterbation has become a chore. It sometimes takes me over 20 minutes of solid stroking to get it out. I even catch myself stopping my orgasms to wait for that perfect shot or that perfect clip with the right girl.
The first time I had sex was 18. I was drunk, it was with the wrong person and she basically forced herself on to me. It suuuuuuuuucked the big one. It was nothing like I had expected. 4 years of masturbation had conditioned me to believe sex was something it wasn't. Over the next 5 years I had slept with 5 more girls... All one night stands. They ranged from a total stranger on vacation. To a 5 hour romp at my brothers wedding. Each yielding no orgasm.
At first my thought process was that I am blessed. I can go forever and girls will LOVE IT. I had occasionally wondered if there was something wrong with me but just blew it off as nerves and not having an emmotional attachment to any of these women. This all changed this past fall when during my brotehrs wedding I had spent a weekend with a gorgeous girl from my sister in laws side (not related :p). She was an amazing person and f'n hot. Way out of my league (there is my low self of steam talking).
Anyhow. I ended up sleeping with her on the wedding night. She was gorgeous naked and wicked in bed. I sustained an errection for 5 hours with a few breaks here and there for her. She loved it.. and so did I.. Until a certain point where I realized this is really a problem. All the ingredients where there. She was attractive, I was arroused, It felt nice... But no bust.
After that weekend I knew there was something wrong with me but I told myself, the next one will be right, I'll wait for the perfect girl.. love her and get the job done.
That brings me to today. About a month ago I met a wonderfull girl. It's just a month yes.. But so far she is perfect in every way. I get turned on simply from kissing her, hugging her and just thinking about her. We had sex a couple weeks ago and I had attempted to condition myself mentally to be ready and I failed. I told ehr I was nervous and that it takes me "a few times" to get used to my partner before I am comfortable enough to come. (BIG LIE). And that's what brings me here. I felt low, depressed, inadequite, sad... I felt like a worthless piece of c**p for lying to myself, for lying to her, not being able to perform, not being a "man".
I immedietly went online to find out what the f is up and this forum seems to be the best "therapy". I've read all of the c**p about therapy being the only true cure for RE and think it's nonsense. How can I if the DR's themselves don't have a full grasp of RE themselves.
Once they count out physical damge they assume that if you cannot come inside a vagina it's psychological and therapy is required. What about the guy's who can come from HJ's or BJ's. Are they the same as guys that can't come at all? The spectrum of RE is so broad that you can't just slap RE on every guy who can't come. All of our situations are differant.
Now I'm not discreditiding therapy. It is an amazing tool.. But it just bothers me when I read that it's the only way and success rates are generally low.
That's why I'm thankful for this social group. Reading your story's is inspiring and I trust that if a person has the will and determination to beat this they can do it. It's all in our head.... and for some of us our hands :p
I've recently had sex again with this girl and tada!!! No come... But i did open up to her. It was embarassing and the hardest thing I've ever done. I was affraid she would laugh, leave, give up.. Why be with me if there are thousands of other guys out there who will willingly fill you? But she didn't. She is with me, willing to help and this is ultimately the greatest motivation I have. The fact that she likes me as the person and is willing to fight this demon head on by my side.
My strategy right now is to communicate with her as much as possible during sex.
Find my "comfort zone"
Masterbate less
Masterbate with fleshlight or with my other hand
No more tight grip during masturbation to retain the sensory nerves in my penis (hopefully this will rid of the numb feeling during intercourse)
And research research research. Find out as much info as possible and read as many story's as possible.
Wow.. I can keep going and going with this post (no pun intended) But i don;t want to bore you
Thanks for reading. Wish me luck and share your thoughts.
I'm very happy to have stumbled upon this forum. I've spent the last 3 days reading the RE megathread and have decided to share my story for three reasons.
1) I've met somebody special
2) My psychological well being
3) Helping other sufferers
I'll start off by saying that if you are reading this then feel great about yourself. This is the first step to success. From the research I've gathered anywhere from 1 out of 8 to 1 out of 12 men suffer from a form of RE. Whether it be not being able to come in a vagina or not ever coming at all. Now if you take 100 RE sufferers, stastics show, that only 1 out of every 100 DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. So give yourself a pat on the back for being one of those few with the balls to admit you have a problem and are taking the necessary steps to defeat it.
I'm 23 and have been suffering from RE my entire life. I've had sex with 7 partners, the first being when I was 18 and the most recent being right now (the special friend).
Just like many of you who are a part of the internet age, many of my teen years where spent with my left hand on my penis and my right on the mouse. Humans havn't had the resources to masterbate like we do now for centuries. RE is so misunderstood in the medical world for this reason. Yes, it has always existed but never to the extent it does now.
I believe that my problem is both psychological and physical. I had very low self of steam as a teen, no confidence and not a lot of sexual intercourse. My masturbation techniques have conditioned me to rely on a specific matter of circumstances to come. At first I could knock one off easy but over the years masterbation has become a chore. It sometimes takes me over 20 minutes of solid stroking to get it out. I even catch myself stopping my orgasms to wait for that perfect shot or that perfect clip with the right girl.
The first time I had sex was 18. I was drunk, it was with the wrong person and she basically forced herself on to me. It suuuuuuuuucked the big one. It was nothing like I had expected. 4 years of masturbation had conditioned me to believe sex was something it wasn't. Over the next 5 years I had slept with 5 more girls... All one night stands. They ranged from a total stranger on vacation. To a 5 hour romp at my brothers wedding. Each yielding no orgasm.
At first my thought process was that I am blessed. I can go forever and girls will LOVE IT. I had occasionally wondered if there was something wrong with me but just blew it off as nerves and not having an emmotional attachment to any of these women. This all changed this past fall when during my brotehrs wedding I had spent a weekend with a gorgeous girl from my sister in laws side (not related :p). She was an amazing person and f'n hot. Way out of my league (there is my low self of steam talking).
Anyhow. I ended up sleeping with her on the wedding night. She was gorgeous naked and wicked in bed. I sustained an errection for 5 hours with a few breaks here and there for her. She loved it.. and so did I.. Until a certain point where I realized this is really a problem. All the ingredients where there. She was attractive, I was arroused, It felt nice... But no bust.
After that weekend I knew there was something wrong with me but I told myself, the next one will be right, I'll wait for the perfect girl.. love her and get the job done.
That brings me to today. About a month ago I met a wonderfull girl. It's just a month yes.. But so far she is perfect in every way. I get turned on simply from kissing her, hugging her and just thinking about her. We had sex a couple weeks ago and I had attempted to condition myself mentally to be ready and I failed. I told ehr I was nervous and that it takes me "a few times" to get used to my partner before I am comfortable enough to come. (BIG LIE). And that's what brings me here. I felt low, depressed, inadequite, sad... I felt like a worthless piece of c**p for lying to myself, for lying to her, not being able to perform, not being a "man".
I immedietly went online to find out what the f is up and this forum seems to be the best "therapy". I've read all of the c**p about therapy being the only true cure for RE and think it's nonsense. How can I if the DR's themselves don't have a full grasp of RE themselves.
Once they count out physical damge they assume that if you cannot come inside a vagina it's psychological and therapy is required. What about the guy's who can come from HJ's or BJ's. Are they the same as guys that can't come at all? The spectrum of RE is so broad that you can't just slap RE on every guy who can't come. All of our situations are differant.
Now I'm not discreditiding therapy. It is an amazing tool.. But it just bothers me when I read that it's the only way and success rates are generally low.
That's why I'm thankful for this social group. Reading your story's is inspiring and I trust that if a person has the will and determination to beat this they can do it. It's all in our head.... and for some of us our hands :p
I've recently had sex again with this girl and tada!!! No come... But i did open up to her. It was embarassing and the hardest thing I've ever done. I was affraid she would laugh, leave, give up.. Why be with me if there are thousands of other guys out there who will willingly fill you? But she didn't. She is with me, willing to help and this is ultimately the greatest motivation I have. The fact that she likes me as the person and is willing to fight this demon head on by my side.
My strategy right now is to communicate with her as much as possible during sex.
Find my "comfort zone"
Masterbate less
Masterbate with fleshlight or with my other hand
No more tight grip during masturbation to retain the sensory nerves in my penis (hopefully this will rid of the numb feeling during intercourse)
And research research research. Find out as much info as possible and read as many story's as possible.
Wow.. I can keep going and going with this post (no pun intended) But i don;t want to bore you
Thanks for reading. Wish me luck and share your thoughts.
wow dude this is excatly me. I have had sex for 9 hours straight with 2 different girls (twins too!!!) and couldn't get the job done like wtf??? So yea I have been thinking it was that it was the girls but they were gorgeous and then i was thinking it was me but idk what could be wrong.
I really enjoyed your post! I read this because I am a woman who just started a relationship with a guy who never seems to ejacualte when we have sex. I was about to break it off with him because I felt like I couldnt satisfy him. He told me that it wasnt me, but that sometimes he had this problem. I still find it hard to believe that this is true. I am 38 years old and I have never met a man who couldn't do it. So I still wonder if it is me...but thanks for your insight!