She is the funniest, smartest ltitle girl in the world. She goes to bed every night at 8 wakes up at 7. She knows how to identify wild plants, knows how to identify most of the alphabet (and write them) and loves to be creative play with her kitties and ride horses.
But..... today I took her to the doctor and her vision is 20/80. No one in wither side of her family wears glasses (besides for old age). There are a lot of studies about a link between merhadone and eyesight from what I am reading. But who cares? Think of all the horrendous birth defects that could happen without methaone! Feel blessed to have a healthy child.
I am a single mother, I work 2 jobs, I'm now off of methadone and I live my life for making my daughters future bright. I enrich her as much as I can, I work with her, and do all that I can to let her be creative. But.... I disipline. You can't sit there and feel guilty about being on methadone and blame behavioral problems on that. Children born without methadone can have AdHD and all kinds of problems. Don't let the stigma of methadone keep you from disipline and making excuses for your childs behaivor. That's my best advice. I never once treated her like she was some type of "drug baby" if you treat someone like that they will become that. I see it all the time with my friends kids. They make excuses when their child acts up "well the mother smoked crack, exc." Doesn't mean you don't disipline them! Your baby will be totally fine. Just treat your baby like any normal kid and try to get off methadone and live the life you want your child to live.
yes my sister in law is in jail now for the 6th time and her son is about to be 2 years old. He looks like a 9 month old baby. He cannot talk. Walk. And he just sits on the ground and crawls around and makes noises when he wants something. But cannot say mama or dadda or any other words. I dont know what to do for my mother in law she is raising him. His mother is in jail she was on methodone and coke and weed when she was pregnant with him. When he was born he had to be in the nciu for 3 long months withdrawing and he was born premature. The poor baby boy has no words and cant walk it's so sad. I just dont know what to do for my mother in law. She is having to raise him and has no patience and no idea what to do with him. Help??? any advice??? shes trying to be patient with him but he constatly cries and isnt attached to her like he was with him mom and dad and more attached to his 9 year old sister who was taking care of him most of the time. they lived in a motel and food was all over the floor. constantly the parents fought and yelled and threw stuff at eachother. The mother is in jail and is 5 months pregnant now too.
For the people whose children came out on top behaviorally AND academically, congratulations. Not every methadone addicted baby gets out unscathed.
Oh my lord . that poor child will have withdrawls like you have when you are an addict. You should have stopped your addiction once you found out you were pregnant. Sadly your son will be become an addict baby. Eventually the doctors can wean him out of this, but the damage is done the day you conceived him. You have had drugs in your system it will Never go away its part of his DNA, he will eventually pass this on to his children and grand kids.I really feel for this child, Not so much for you. I am really surprised you would write on here asking for guidance on what happens to your baby being an addict. You knew better, but then you made a big mistake continuing to do this while he was being inside you. I am sorry I am so cruel to you. but you need to have a wake up call and stand your ground and take care of what you have ruined. A future with a child who one day will be a man and have his own family with. I am so sorry I feel so intense on this subject when people discard their bodies for methadone and other drugs. and push aside their well being of being a parent.