Hey, how goes it? I'm a 21 male, and I kinda have a problem. I masturbate around 3-5 times a day, and well when it comes time to have sex, either I can't get an errection, or i can get hard, and start having sex, but I can't cum. Now i've had sex w/o a condom, and had no problem having an orgasm, but when I use a condom, it just feels restricting, and either I lost the errection while putting the condom on, or I lose the errection halfway during sex. Do I need to stop masturbating? I figure the whole masturbation thing is my whole problem. Help anyone?
i have been a chronic masterbator for quite some time. sometimes i used to do it up to 5-10 times a day, due to a long time internet pornography addiction. over the years my penis has developed kind of blueish purpleish marks that look like bruises. they started small but got bigger over time. unfortunately i am very serious. it is very embarressing and noticable(more when i am flaccid than hard). i haven't stopped for more than a few days at a time because i wonder if it is even worth trying to get rid of them. will these bruise like marks ever go away? would i have to quit masterbating all together for a long period of time? or would just cutting down to 2-3 times a week be enough? i would really appreciate some feedback. this has been a secret problem of mine for a while.
It is unbelievable ho much misinformation is running through this thread!
Let's start with an anatomy lesson. As stated early on in the post history the Urethra is the vein that caries urine and ejaculate from a males body to the outside world. And the poster was correct that pre-cum is the bodies way of getting the penis ready for the larger show of seamen mixed with sperm. Again as stated this is to make things easier on the process as well as change the level of acid in the penis to not kill off sperm. Let's remember what those little guys are supposed to do now. Having an urge to urinate after you a male ejaculates is the direct opposite of the above equation. The urethra is not meant to have a gooey substance sitting in there for an elongated period of time. It is also not the correct PH level (Acid/Base) for the urethra over a long period of time. Urinating allows the penis to return to a normal state and ready itself for what ever happens next.
Curbing your sex drive can be difficult. An orgasm produces endorphins. To your brain this is a drug and gives you the good feeling rush after the act is accomplished. The more you do it the more you brain will crave. This is not to say that the everyday Joe can and will get addicted to masturbating. One of the post spoke about ensuring that you do something constructive when you get the urge. I 100% agree. A good gym workout would help too. This also produces endorphins and hey, it keeps you healthy also. The thought of trying to curb your sex drive with drugs and alcohol is simply irresponsible and should be discounted on the grounds of sheer stupidity!
Another comment was made that masturbating will lead to being unproductive. For most of men (*and women for that matter) this will happen about as much as someone will go blind from the act. Yes someone could get so into himself or herself that it is decreasing their productivity in life. However I put forth that by the spelling and misinformation here that most of these posts are coming from teenagers. Once you are in a situation where your time becomes a premium these thoughts and needs will become less. I am Director for an emerging company and have every chance at being a Vice President before the age of 40. To me that does not sound like someone without drive. And yes I do masturbate daily. Depending on what is going on in my life at the time anywhere from one to four times daily. Although four is generally pushing it.
The Internet is a great place to get information. Ensure the information is proper before acting on it. And remember it can only blind you with a really good powerful shot, aimed well!
Let's start with an anatomy lesson. As stated early on in the post history the Urethra is the vein that caries urine and ejaculate from a males body to the outside world. And the poster was correct that pre-cum is the bodies way of getting the penis ready for the larger show of seamen mixed with sperm. Again as stated this is to make things easier on the process as well as change the level of acid in the penis to not kill off sperm. Let's remember what those little guys are supposed to do now. Having an urge to urinate after you a male ejaculates is the direct opposite of the above equation. The urethra is not meant to have a gooey substance sitting in there for an elongated period of time. It is also not the correct PH level (Acid/Base) for the urethra over a long period of time. Urinating allows the penis to return to a normal state and ready itself for what ever happens next.
Curbing your sex drive can be difficult. An orgasm produces endorphins. To your brain this is a drug and gives you the good feeling rush after the act is accomplished. The more you do it the more you brain will crave. This is not to say that the everyday Joe can and will get addicted to masturbating. One of the post spoke about ensuring that you do something constructive when you get the urge. I 100% agree. A good gym workout would help too. This also produces endorphins and hey, it keeps you healthy also. The thought of trying to curb your sex drive with drugs and alcohol is simply irresponsible and should be discounted on the grounds of sheer stupidity!
Another comment was made that masturbating will lead to being unproductive. For most of men (*and women for that matter) this will happen about as much as someone will go blind from the act. Yes someone could get so into himself or herself that it is decreasing their productivity in life. However I put forth that by the spelling and misinformation here that most of these posts are coming from teenagers. Once you are in a situation where your time becomes a premium these thoughts and needs will become less. I am Director for an emerging company and have every chance at being a Vice President before the age of 40. To me that does not sound like someone without drive. And yes I do masturbate daily. Depending on what is going on in my life at the time anywhere from one to four times daily. Although four is generally pushing it.
The Internet is a great place to get information. Ensure the information is proper before acting on it. And remember it can only blind you with a really good powerful shot, aimed well!
Ahh, this has nothing to do with the original post, however I would like some advice and no one seems to want to read my other posts. When I masturbate, I can't seem to cum unless I am watching porn. Also, when my girlfriend performs a ha****b or blowjob, I am unable to ejaculate there also. There was once where I was capable of ejaculating in her mouth, but only once. It has now since been an issue as to why I am unable to do it everytime. So if anyone has any idea why this might be happening or what I could do to fix it, that would be much appreciated.
ok guys your premature problrem its because of masturbation but to a extent you need to slow down on it like extend how long you masturbate istead of doing it for 2minutes do it for like 30min it will teach your body to last longer its not because of damaged nerves your being mislead just do it longer an extend it
i'd advise you not to smoke weed, it is illegal and there are better things to do than to kill off your brain cells.
It may kill brain cells, but you killed the thread.
I dont' know what defines cronic. I have masterbated constantly since I was about 9, I am 57 now. Every man is differant, I take no more than about 15 seconds to ejaculate when I masterbate but can last much longer with a woman. My orgasm lastes several minutes and produces a large amount of semen when I masterbate, so I tend to do it a lot, sometimes 6 times a day. The conection to premature ejaculation and cronic masterbation seems to be valid, if I dont' masterbate before sex I cant' hold off long enough to penetrate, very embarassing and messy. In my youth I had a severe problem with spontainious ejaculation, "waking accidents" which I still experiance sometimes. I hope knowing your over active penis is not all that abnormal helps.
I suffered from Premature Ejaculation ever since I started having sex. I could never last more than 30 seconds. It really caused me to lose alot of confidence and caused me to avoid dating for quite some time.
The good news is nearly half of all men suffer from Premature Ejaculation and that it can be cured with the right information. I've tried just about everything to cure my PE, creams,sprays and even pills. None worked and I thought i would NEVER solve this problem.
I got lucky and found a site that taught me how to control my ejaculatory reflex and now I can last for 10 minutes. It helped me lose my fear of women and now I am happily engaged to the love of my life Below is a link to the site. Noone had PE more severe than me. It helped me so maybe it can help you too.
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The good news is nearly half of all men suffer from Premature Ejaculation and that it can be cured with the right information. I've tried just about everything to cure my PE, creams,sprays and even pills. None worked and I thought i would NEVER solve this problem.
I got lucky and found a site that taught me how to control my ejaculatory reflex and now I can last for 10 minutes. It helped me lose my fear of women and now I am happily engaged to the love of my life Below is a link to the site. Noone had PE more severe than me. It helped me so maybe it can help you too.
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masturbation is normal until it starts to affect your relationship and daily life. for example, it is considered a problem when it hinders you like being late for work or school. or having the need to do it in a place where it can get u in trouble. you can masturbate 20 times a day and it would be normal. this rule is usually applied to many things for example depression and anxiety.... ask yourself does it affect your work or relationship. another rule is that it is not a problem until you think that it is a problem... not what others think.
I like to cum in my underwear while watching gay porn.
Having been to a 90 day rehab for sex addiction, I can tell you that excessive masturbation can indicate an addiction problem. The reasons vary significantly. Also, what is "Excessive" is different for each person. A good way to decide for yourself is to figure out whether or not the activity produces chaos or un-manageability in your life. I feel it really is important to seek counseling for this stuff. I know it's embarrassing to talk about, but that's just what you need to do. Talk with someone you can trust about your feelings. What feelings are at the root of the need to masturbate? What created those feelings in the first place? What is the "pay-off" afterward? What is the negative effect afterward? Is it feelings of guilt or disappointment with yourself? Often there is some sort of childhood "trauma" that contributes to these issues. When I say trauma, I mean anything that was upsetting in a long term sense. It needn't be something alarming to an adult, like rape or molestation or abuse (these are commonalities), but could be something that was upsetting simply because your child mind couldn't deal with it. It may seem trivial now, but may have been all important then. Don't discount the little things. Also, don't be ashamed. Shame fuels the cycle.
Hi.
I also have a chronic masturbation problem and it is starting to interfere in my sex life. My masturbation has led to premature ejaculation and it is very embarrassing for me as I can't even pleasure my partner. d ou have some useful tips to stop masturbation? Someone I can talk to?
I also have a chronic masturbation problem and it is starting to interfere in my sex life. My masturbation has led to premature ejaculation and it is very embarrassing for me as I can't even pleasure my partner. d ou have some useful tips to stop masturbation? Someone I can talk to?
i have solution
It’s my will that makes me unhappy!
When I say NO to myself then I become happy
and that’s what He wants me to do. If I step down and I say Jesus please take over, I will become happy.
Jesus was treated like nothing even until the end. Jesus didn’t receive cushy treatment. He was treated like junk, spat on, asked “who gave you the authority!” He was mocked! So if you want to follow Jesus, you have to make yourself free from everybody and everything.
Maybe you can get repentance, but you will lose years of your life. You can’t regain that time! If you are a slave of man, you are not a servant of God!
If you want to totally stop with masturbation, you have to take it radically with your eyes. Lust of the eyes and masturbation go together! If you look at pornography or sexy images, then you are stirring up your flesh! You are awakening powers in your body and stimulating those chemicals that push you closer to “loose living and fulfilling those impure desires”.
Masterbation tires you out. It goes together with Pornography and you know the result! Viewing pornography for hours at night makes you go to sleep later and you feel wasted the next day!
You have to take up a battle with your eyes!
JOB said I have made a covenant with my eyes.
You must not go down to that level where you are “flirting” with women and sinning. You have to first ACKNOWLEDGE the truth! The WORD OF GOD SAYS FLEE YOUTHFUL LUSTS!
Why do you think it says that? God saw where youthful lusts led to. Those who didn’t flee youthful lusts are not with us in the Church anymore! The truth of the matter is we are very weak with these things and that’s why the WORD OF GOD says FLEE! It’s like if there was a great white shark in a swimming pool, will you jump into the pool? NO! You will stay away from the edge!