She was just lying there obviously upset, i assured her it wasn't her...But deep down when i look back she was not much of a looker, but i didn't think she was ugly...Nice personality. She doesn't have the best body in the world either...:S. Is this why? Was i anxious because of last time. I'm so scared for the future now. I feel less of a man. I am traumatized. I feel like killing myself and i mean that. I wasn't expecting this. I can maintain an erection for 40mins while masturbation so i obviously don't have erectile dysfunction so wtf is it? Ive been through a lot of sh*t this past year i could of done without this.
Please any advice, i want to get to the route of my problem and i want to know how to fix it if possible. Im scared...Im depressed and im upset.
If you masturbate too much, it can lead to erectile dysfunction as well. Masturbating itself is not that dangerous, but if you do that too much it can lead to certain things, such as this one. In order to fight against this, maybe you should visit your doctor and at the beginning, seek for some natural treatment for erectile dysfunction, I am sure that your doctor knows a couple of those. I need to tell you that in the beginning, you won't be better that soon as you might expect, which means that you need to be patient. It requires a while and also, you need to know that those natural treatments affect patients differently.
I hope this helps.
Just a thought
Ashteronon,
Though there are a lot of questions and threads on this website, not everyone is able to track it 24/7. Some of the moderators and most regular responders have other lives and try to check in regularly. You may need to wait a little bit for the majority of people to find your posting.
That being said, your concern comes through loud and clear. It can be very frustrating to be worked up for what you expect to be a great sexual experience, only to find that you're loosing your arousal.
There can be a lot of reasons. Everything from nerves, to putting yourself under pressure to perform; worrying about if it will stay up can kill an erection, and the insulating factor of a condom blocking feeling can deaden your immediate sensation, leading to a flagging of erection.
The fact that you're so concerned that you burst into tears shows me that you have but yourself under an awful lot of pressure to perform.
I wonder what would happen if the two of you just laid still and didn't attempt intercourse. Have you considered just manually pleasing each other? Try doing only what feels good, and not work toward intercourse.
I wouldn't jump to any conclusion about the woman not being "that much of a looker", as it doesn't take a raving beauty to achieve sexual intercourse.
There are a lot of people who are not 10's who attract a mate and reproduce, so I wouldn't assume too much.
You might do well to speak with a counselor about this. You might even consider couples' counseling, especially if your gal is supportive of your working on this together.
Good luck, and let us know what comes of this.
Im 22 now and its been going on since i was about 17.
Its crazy sad and now i gotta stay high all the time to not wanna end myself.
Its like Meet a girl, get close, then this happens over and over again.
But go to a doctor and see whats up