Says she wants a devorice. What to do??

Hi Gerry, I guess my first question would be....how long has your WIFE had a BOYFRIEND? I am so sorry your faced with the reality that your relationship appears to be one-sided. You loving her and her not loving you back. Based on the fact that she has chosen to move in with someone who is using drugs, my gut tells me she is still using as well, misery loves company. If I were in your shoes I would grant her the divorce and move on, she obviously has and you should not waste your time, energy & emotional well being chasing after someone who doesn't love you, because in the end it only serves to make you feel worse about your self. As hard as it may seem now to let go of her, it will get easier, and you will be free to find someone who will be loving and faithful to you. I hope this helped. Good luck.

SHE HAS KNOWN HIM 2 YEARS FROM THE SAME CLINIC. AND SWEARS THEY WERE FRIENDS UP TO 5 WEEKS AGO. AS OF EIGHTS WEEKS AGO SHE WAS TELLING ME, WRITING ME AND SHOWING ME EVERYDAY HOW MUCH I MEANT TO HER. NOW HE DOESN'T LET ME SPEAK TO HER. SAYS SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO ME WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. I HAVE TALKED TO HER ALONE ALL NIGHT WASN'T MENTIONED. SHE HA TOLD ME SHE WOULD CONTACT ME 3 TIMES SINCE BUT NO LUCK. HE HAS BEEN TOTALLY BEEN CONTROLLING THE SITUATION. NOT SURE WEATHER NOT SHE IS GOING ALONE WITH IT. INSTINCT IS TO SAVE HER AGAIN.

Save her again? So this is a repeated behavior? I guess you need to decide at what point do you stop saving her, and save yourself, before you lose yourself in the process? You might have heard this before but they are words to live by.. IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING, SET IT FREE... IF IT COMES BACK TO YOU IT'S YOURS, IF IT DOESN'T, IT NEVER WAS...

yes it is a repeated behavior. i find my self unable to any decisions. Even the automatic easy ones are getting impossible Thank you your insight. not sure if I can handle it but your words are comforting. I may have lost my mind weeks ago