Hi well I am at the end of the line with the love of my life. I am balling my eyes out right now. My sex life sucks and I feel like my man doesn't want me sexually. We have been together for 7 years and have a 6 year old daughter together. He has a history with porn and it really started affecting our relationship to the point where I go to bed every night in tears. He went to a bacherlor party to watch naked woman instead of going to the hospital with me with pregnancy complications and he looked at pornography on my birthday and I have found numerous hidden pornos and now he has a company phone that he can look at porn on whenever he pleases during the day. He leaves the phone in his company truck when he is home. We have sex on his day off and he rushes it and sometimes goes soft. the past 3 or 4 times of going down on him he had that raw taste to him and the feel was raw like he had been masterbating. I give him all sorts of sexual hints and he just ignores them . I get the kids in bed early and still no sexual desire from him. I am 29 and a sexual person and this once a week bs is really getting to me. I don't know what to do and really feel the urge to leave if things don't change. We got in a huge fight tonight and he had me in tears fighting over something completely stupid that was blown way out of porportion and he said f**k you and I said I wish you would more than you do eeek and I ended up saying stuff about his penis being raw and the porn issue and how I feel like were a 50 year old couple and his reaction was f**k off. My stomach is in knots we are in bed right now mad at eachother. He's passed out and I can't stop crying. He doesn't seem to understand how much this whole porn and lack of sex affects me. I use to weigh 220 and have lost almost 60 lbs I am suppose to feel better about myself and sexy but I am not feeling that way. He would rather look at porn strs and masterbate. It makes me feel like there is something wrong with me I feel like getting off on other woman f*****g is the same as cheating. I am very hurt. He alway goes by the "I'm a guy that's what guys do" well they say guys think about sex 24-7 so what the f is wrong with him if he goes by the guy code??? Please let me know your thought
If you really want to stay married to him, you need more help than we can give you here. You need professional help.
About the guy thing: some guys like porn and some could care less. I certainly wouldn't give up the chance to have real sex with a real woman to look at porn.
Sounds like a deadly situation! You should try to get some marriage counseling because this marriage is on the brink! I would also suggest your husband get some psychiatric help for the porn addiction.
I'm curious whether you were able to find a solution to your issue…? I really hope you did.
I'm in the exact same position in my relationship and have tried to spruce up our sex life, and nothing.
If you did work things out, would you be kind enough as to share your solution with? Or if you're still battling this issue, what has helped you cope with it? And helped you be supportive for your partner?
I'm in the exact same position in my relationship and have tried to spruce up our sex life, and nothing.
If you did work things out, would you be kind enough as to share your solution with? Or if you're still battling this issue, what has helped you cope with it? And helped you be supportive for your partner?
RUN, Take your child and RUN. You are wasting your time. You cannot compete with the actors in porn.