I'm hoping I can get some advice here, no judgement please. I'm 24 year old ftm and 28 weeks pregnant but my situation is pretty unique. I'm due July 17th and have done all the research and still don't know what to do. My story starts similar to those I have read. Me and my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years had a falling out when I found out he had been using pills behind my back to the point where he was using the money for rent and bills for his habits. I tried to get him to change but he couldn't even admit he had a problem. The break up was brutal, he was constantly putting me down and refocusing the problem to it being me for the majority of our relationship and was making me think it was me. After a few months he found a way to re contact me and said he was done and we tried to work things out. I thought we were trying to work things out and we had unprotected sex, should have never done it looking back but we have had plenty of scares when we were together and nothing. What I think was about a week later I found him hiding pills again!! I tried to get him back on his feet yet again, lending him more money to try and find a job. I can't remember exactly when but my periods almost always came on the 22nd, this one was a few days late I remember being stressed but it came. A few weeks later I fell for the bad guy that made me feel alive again. We slept together 11/11, we were drinking and yeah well part of our night was unprotected. That month I only had my period for about a day and it was late ( I remember sweating it out), we kept seeing each other by my "period" in December ended up me bleeding for a month. I've had ovarian cysts in the past and I was cramping so went to the doctor.. Only to find out I was 13 weeks pregnant?!? I was so confused, I thought I was getting periods but apparently you can still bleed when pregnant. The bad boy I fell for ended up just leaving me hanging and now I find out he is dating some other girl. I looked into testing right away and it's like 2000! Both guys know the situation... My ex is being demanding and wants to have custody blah blah but he hasn't even cleaned up his act and I don't want my baby around that! The other guy well he couldn't care less about me or the baby, his first reaction was he wanted me to get an abortion. I've been so stressed this whole time and just want to know but won't know for sure until baby is born? So I have my ex willing to make my life hell ( as if he hasn't done a good enough job already)... He is no good for me or baby and I just want him or of my life. Or the guy that broke my heart for no reason and wants nothing to do with me. I'm thankful for the support of my family and am 110% content with being a single mom, it's been hard, it will be hard but I don't need either of those guys. However I want to know for the sake of the baby knowing their real father. Is there a paternity test to find out who the father is? I'm so embarrassed and ashamed but I can't be the only one out there going through this. Does anyone have any words of advice or encouragement. Trying to be strong, Single mother