teenage daughter having sex already!

Yes she is most certainly having sex. Don't panic. Just go to your doctor with her and explain to your daughter that you are doing this because at her age she is likely to want to have sex and you want to make sure she is well prepared.
Please don't be too inquisitive. Having sex is her birthright and she just needs to be sure she is prepared and protected.
She probably has someone who is older BUT I don't think that should be an issue. Clearly she is okay about it.
I agree with the response from "guest" that our laws are too repressive and stifling. Having an older boyfriend is NOT bad. I have been with boyfriends who were much older and I never once was harmed. They were all so respectful and caring. Yes like me they wanted sex but so do guys our own age. Just because they want sex does not make them predators or pervs.
I think our society has a lot to answer. By having such strict and restrictive laws, such relationships are being driven underground.

I find it quite sad you were dealt with the way you were-your parents didn't take responsibility or accountability for sending you off to a public school & expected you to fend for yourself. They punished you the child, although you'll have learned from your mistakes & never allow yourself to be so out of it whilst drinking-you were raped honey. Not your fault. Your parents contributed to that. It was their job to keep you safe. They failed. So by punishing you, they were angry at themselves & hadn't the parenting skills to deal with it. I'm a teenage mum of a now 19 year old, never underestimate the difficulties of a teenage mum. It's not so fun all the time. Sleepless nights, teething, potty training, feeling lonely because your friends don't want to know. Your baby's dad has done a runner & you are his sole provider, I love him dearly & did my damnest to ensure he had all he needed in life, but it sure can suck. So enjoy your relationship you're in now & through time you will allow yourself to trust & enjoy a sexual relationship. My daughter is 15, sexually active & she uses contraception at all times, & im so thankful she can talk to me. As long as she respects her body & understands no means NO, & understands that she is taking a risk every time she has sex, then I've done well. I wasn't talked to openly, so I have difficulty in understanding that she as a 15 year old minor that she is making a very adult decision, that could affect the rest of her life, her career & her friendships, her self worth-as did the decision that I made at 16 affected my life. I don't regret having my son so young as there was no choice for me. But I do wish I was older. & ive gone on to have my family 2 more boys & 1 girl & a very attentative loving husband & parenthood is hard no matter what age. The support however is what gets you through. Best of luck you little gem, & I hope you see yourself pass that stage in your life & not feel stuck back there anymore. Good councilling will help you move on from that. & the disappointment you feel that you were to your family. Sending you virtual hugs little one. xx

AMEN I AGREE!!!!

Good response..keep all options for contraception out there..maje sure shes informed and he as well. Chat to his parents if thats possible.. open lines of communication is the absolute key.
Be sensible about your reactions..its about her safety and secual health not about your morals or religion.
Go easy. Be safe . Kids can be very mature at 15 but you dont want unnecessary pregnancy..

damn teen girls are such immature desperate easy no standards having Sex

Please read Mr Damni activism in these posts. He is the ONE voice repeatedly harping on that sex with an older person is pure and completely normal. This is not normal OR okay for one very clear reason. An adolescent brain is still developing so there is an imbalance of power. A teen cannot see around corners they haven't seen enough of life. Our job as parents is to protect them from what they don't understand. And teens will often look for love at a younger age because love is missing in the home. Personally I think sex is a beautiful thing and the first time should be special. I understand that hormones are raging but the brain needs to catch up to the body. As parents we need to nurture our children and teach them to value themselves first and foremost and talk to them openly about what they see in the media.

First of all I am NOT Mr Damni. You have made an assumption here. I am danielle popularly called Dannii

Secondly I am not an activist BUT I am giving my own experience I went through as a 13 yr old.

How do you know I am repeatedly harping on what you allege ? Are you stalking me?

Facts - Girls will choose older guys. There is NO harm provided you know the guy and he doesn't abuse you ie No physical violence, NO drugs and alcohol, No STDs and comes from a good family background with good values and education, patience and a caring nature.

As a parent I would be encouraging relationships with a boy who has good education, family background, manners, habits and who is secure in life and who will be a good influence on the girl. Why are we only preoccupied with age?? For heavens sake this is so idiotic and narrow minded. Dont you think a girls future with someone well educated and secure are far more important than getting into relationships with same age guys only to find that the girl is raped by the guy at parties, drinks spiked, has impregnated the girl and who does a runner. This is more likely to happen with guys of same age. So stop being so paranoid and narrow minded.

There is no POWER game. You make this sound as though there is a power struggle between the two. This is a relationship and not a war.

You don't need a developed brain to be sexually active and want a relationship. Nature and Instinct drives us to want a relationship. I trust nature more than I would trust what society, religion, parents or the law dictates.

The moment a girl reaches puberty and starts her period, this is natures way of announcing she is ready to mate and procreate. Why do we try and stifle natural instinct? Do we think we are more intelligent than nature?

What we need to do is educate teens and prepare them for when the event occurs. Education about safe sex, STDs, pregnancy etc. Teaching them abstinence and brainwashing them against older partners is just wrong and more like what you call " activism"

It doesn't matter how much you try and reach a teen who has raging hormones about safe sex there is always times when they know best and will still have sex without using protection, it's nature's instinct that even though you have been taught unprotected sex isn't safe if there getting intermit with there boyfriends it will be actions first then think should of used protection after!

Then your education is not right and your negativity is being sensed. You have such an extreme view on this and the more you try to fight it the more teens will be hurt.
Just accept that SOME teens will want to have sex early and with whom they choose as appropriate. When you accept and announce that it is NOT wrong for them to do that BUT they need to understand how to be prepared then you will find success and we will not be having this discussion.

Girls want their decision to be accepted. They dont want punitive action. Nor do they want that you treat them like imbeciles and cretins without any decision making ability. Educate them NOT try to give false values. Sex is NORMAL and NATURAL, Instinctive and Biological. Why are we even discussing this. Shows you DONT still accept that sex is NORMAL and MUST be acceptable and provisions made to prepare girls for when that event occurs. In some it will happen early. In many it will happen later BUT by 16, the majority of girls would have had some kind of sexual experience.

Religion, laws, morals, societal norm has NO place absolutely when it comes to individual birthright.

For those religious freaks, God created us this way and we are wired to have sex so our species is alive. perpetuated and thriving. God never said " dont have sex when you are 13" That is so stupid. The ones who said that are our society, law makers and the stupid idiotic impractical god men.

This is a man made imposition. Artificial and hence false.

Oh please. 15 year olds are totally capeable of love. Even if she did get pregnant ( which doesn't happen everytime you have sex) she would'nt nessericly keep it. She could put it up for adoption or get an abortion.

I think it is perfectly okay for her to have sex and enjoy it. I think we need to get used to the fact that as biological beings we will need sex at some stage in our lives. Some start earlier than others. Obviously this girl has. I started when I was 13ish and I don't regret it a bit. There is nothing wrong and there should be NO stigma attached to having sex early or later. 

What we need to make sure is that she is well informed about pregnancy and means to avoid it and about STDs and to make sure both she and her boyfriend are clean and free from STDs. 

Chlamydia and Herpes are notoriously problematic and can be carried for life. I think education in these aspects is more important than telling girls and boys to abstain. Instinct will prevail no matter how strict, religious or moral we are. Instinct and desire can be overwhelming and the need to have sex extremely intense. 

I was 13 when I started having sex and my bf was a lot lot older. He was mature, knowledgeable and made sure I was safe in every aspect. Never ever had any issues or problems. I had the best experience and I don't regret my early teen years unlike may girls who have not so very good experience with guys their own age. 

I just found out my 16 year is having sex and Im not wanting to hug her or look at her and talk to her cause Im so angry with her. We still text and everything but I cant help but feel like I cant believe a word she says anymore. Im taking her to Dr. for pills, std testing, pregnancy test(since the condom broke), and yes we used the Plan B pill) Im so disappointed in her choices because I am constantly talking to her about sex and its consequences. Its like i went in one ear and out the other.I dont know how to stop being angry and disappointed in her.

Why does her being sexually active hurt you? She is 16 and her biological instinct has kicked in. You see this is what is happening these days. Anything natural or normal has now become bad in the eyes of society. Why cant we accept that young teen girls, at least some of them, will want to have relationships, sex and enjoy intimacy.
Why has sex got to be taboo and bad? We are born with that instinct and the moment we hit puberty you must realise, the need to have sex becomes very prominent and sometimes overwhelming. Wanting girls NOT to have sex and trying to stifle that instinct is a kind of man made moral value and rule. But, biology does not obey man made rules.
Unlike what society thinks and believes and uses to mentally prime and brain wash young teens, biology will surge forward and instinct will always prevail.
Acceptance is the key. Once you accept that young teens will have sex you will stop being disappointed because you will have stopped having false expectations.
Teach teens to take precautions against pregnancy and to protect themselves against STDs. That would be the wise approach and NOT trying to mentally prime them and expect them not to have sex.

great advice. Just take steps to make sure she is practicing safe sex.

Why are you so angry that she found out what her pus ssy is good for????