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My boyfriend has been on methadone for about 2 months now and he is unable to ejaculate .. it just started when he began takin the methadone .. is it because of that? also if it is and he s able to ejaculate and we become pregnant can the methadone harm or effect the baby?
i have the same problem, and it is most likely because opiates (oxycontin, heroin, methadone, etc) make guys' prostates swell, as well as lessen the acuity of what you feel.. don't get me wrong- as my gf has haha- sex still feels absolutely awesome.. but i'm guessing that the swollen prostate presses up against a guy's urethra and blocks it off (why it's hard to pee too...) or somethin along those lines and makes it hard (and sometimes impossible) to come..
best thing to do is have sex before he doses.. thats what we do..
if you have anymore questions or feel like talkin about this more, feel free to email me at bcorbin at unm dot edu
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Do not worry. I have had the same or similar situation happen to me hundreds of times. I actually thought at one point that I was impotent and got checked out by the doctor, who said I was a very healthy 21 year old male.

You WILL have a healthy child, just so long as you are not the one taking the pills. Methadone does nothing to effect his sperm cause birth defects in any way. Of course, I do not have a Medical Degree and checking with a doctor would be the wisest, HOWEVER
I have gotten my girlfriend pregnant 4 times and have had 4 beautiful, well developed children and every time I had been taking opiates, of some sort, for a long period of time.

I was prescribed 200-300mgs of Oxycodone, due to severe injuries, for 8 years and then switched to, and have been taking 80mg of Methadone(orally) on a daily basis, for the last 2 1/2 years. I have always had healthy sexual relationships but here are a few hints that you may want to suggest to your husband, that helped me out:
I don't ever ejaculate by myself or without having sexual intercourse with my fiance. I make sure that I am completely relaxed and it helps to have her start out on top and work the hardest, then we switch and I go real slow and gentle and never mentally think about, get worried that I won't ejaculate, or try to hard to go,this always results in NO RESULTS


I do take an over the counter herbal supplement called Stamina RX, which can be found at most liquor stores, but is best to buy a bottle of 40 pills for $20-$30 at a Vitamin Shop.

I do take 80mgs of methadone in the pill form and I am able to ejaculate (sometimes very quickly if it has been a while) while taking 1-2 pills of Stamina RX.

I only see my fiance on the weekends, so we only have sex a couple days a week. But if he makes sure that he does NOT take any opiates within the last 8 hours (which may be somewhat discomforting but definitely worth it), exercises regularly and eats a healthy diet; he should have no problem ejaculating.

Do NOT drink ANY alcoholic beverages, which makes it much, much harder, and don't take any unnecessary supplements.

Even while taking 200-300mgs of Oxycodone a day for 8 years, I was able to ejaculate on a daily basis, AS LONG AS I HAD NOT TAKEN ANYTHING FOR THE PREVIOUS 6-8 hours.


I hope this helps, don't give up hope.


He may have to work pretty hard at it sometimes, and sometimes by laying on your side (during intercourse) with your back to him, while he goes very slowly, can help relieve the pressure and relax him enough so he can ejaculate; that method always has worked for me. The slower and more sensual, or the more foreplay performed on each other, the easier it was for me to ejaculate.

Also, do not get upset at him if he does not ejaculate, every time. Just say that you love him, it's not his fault, and there is no pressure. Because even if a girlfriend reacted negatively one time to me not ejaculating, I felt extreme pressure, like I had to go in her or she would throw me out of the house, and this resulted in failure, EVERY TIME.

Just remember, it has nothing to do with how sexy you are to him, it's not your or his fault, it is just a side effect of the medicine.


Good LUCK!!!

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Ok .. i have read thru this Very clearly .. this should help so much I have never had any problems except it took me close to a hour to ejaculate .. but then i was always on 60mg that i took in the morning. I just Recently went to 80mg Daily 10 days ago and now its a huge problem . I just tried for the second time today to ejaculate .. No GO ...i tried explaining to her it has to be the methadone , so i was going to do a little research . We just read this and i already try most of it .
   I am going to try the Stamina X and see if that works ,. or it looks like we will be having Morning Sex only from now on .. This is a Farely new Relationship and she is starting to think its her.. She can cum 3 or 4 times in one session and i cant at all , and it is starting to get real anoying. When we first met i was on 60mg but i had been on it for about 6 months when i met her ... i just like i said Recently went up to 80mg and Got in this new Relationship and now have a problem as of last week .
  So now i have hope reading this . I just tried like i said and gave up again 5 Minutes before i started reading this post .. We are going to try all of this and i will get back to you guys and let you know if it is working ... Thanks for all the Info and sorry for No break in Sentences and Paragraphs its 5am and im tired and just want to go back to sleep . She thought she would Surprise me and wake me up with blowing me and it might work .. so she thinks im mad now , but i just wanted to Reasure her that it was a Nice thought but it just didnt work .. AND AGAIN THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR INFO ...

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I am also having this same problem, but I am the female of the relationship , who is getting so very frustrated.  My man is also on methadone (prescribed).  When he isn't on anything, he only seems to last ,at the longest, 10 minutes.  Which absolutely is a letdown.  But when on the medication he has no desire at all. I have never been in this situation where I am the one who is always the chaser and I'm also the one who has to do all the work in bed.  It really makes me feel so unattractive and unwanted.  I feel like if he has this problem that he should atleast show me some love and affection.  Women, eventhough we sometimes don't have the desire for sex, we seem to always give in because we love our men and we are naturally the givers.  Sometimes I wish that my man would give me more than what he does.  I'm not asking for alot, but I love him so much that I want to be as close to him as possible.  And I need to know that he is attracted to me.  So, if anyone has any advice as to what I could do, please let me know.  I feel like he will get offended if I suggest any type of sexual stimulant, but at this point, God, I'm willing to try anything.  This has been going on for two years now and we are in need of change.  I feel like at this time in our relationship, we should be all over each other, and it's not going like I feel it should.  And to the men who have this problem, I would suggest that you show your ladies a little more affection, even if it feels like an inconvenience to you.  Just because you aren't aroused doesn't mean that you can't give a little for your girl. 
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Update ... For some reason i can Ejaculate again .. It still takes for ever witch im totaly good with . i like having long sex for a hour or so .. gives you time toi do different Posistions...  I just waited it out and didnt use the Stamina X or anything , its been almost 20 days since my Dose has went up to 80mg so i think i just needed a little more time for it to get thru my system and start working like before ... But thanks for the info . we needed to try anything at that point .. a couple days had went by and walla , i was able to cum 2 times withing a 30 minute Period it was great and she was so happy she was giving me High Fives for almost a hour..  Im sorry that u think its you its not .. But i show my Girl love constantly and Affection so we have no lose there .. im in love with her as she is in love with me ... and our sex life is great again .... :-)  Hope it all works out for you .. but let me get a update and i will also check back and post if anything changes on my Part ... Josh o'Brien
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me and my boyfriend have the same problem ....but weve tried to have sex before we go and get our dose and he still connot cum... :/ HELP PLEASE we are trying to have a baby and now he cant even cum.
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AidanlovesChad wrote:

Guest wrote:

i have the same problem, and it is most likely because opiates (oxycontin, heroin, methadone, etc) make guys' prostates swell, as well as lessen the acuity of what you feel.. don't get me wrong- as my gf has haha- sex still feels absolutely awesome.. but i'm guessing that the swollen prostate presses up against a guy's urethra and blocks it off (why it's hard to pee too...) or somethin along those lines and makes it hard (and sometimes impossible) to come..
best thing to do is have sex before he doses.. thats what we do..
if you have anymore questions or feel like talkin about this more, feel free to email me at bcorbin at unm dot edu


me and my boyfriend have the same problem ....but weve tried to have sex before we go and get our dose and he still connot cum... :/ HELP PLEASE we are trying to have a baby and now he cant even cum.

Nutridone!! It's a drug you take and it takes away methadone's side effects
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My boyfriend takes methadone and most of the time he either A. Cant cum or B. he is hard and ready to go and it dies within seconds .. Help this is a brand new relationship ....

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Haven't shoulder surgery on viks. I can't get off no matter what. Even after 1 day of not taking them. Is there something I can do. How to get off and make my wife feel better. Because she feels bad for me
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Same issues here.. My guy can't pee and can't come. Only on the methadone for a month now. but everything stopped right after starting the methadone. Very hurtful on this side of things. It was similar to when he was on the opiates. Because on those he was so hyper that he wouldn't take the time or couldn't stay focused on me long enough to have our moments. I was so resentful of the opiates because they stole my guy. He seem so full of energy but just not into an us thing. And then he would have sex and immediately want to run out and get opiates. They really controlled him. I like him on the methadone but can't stand not being able to have our relationship. We have been together almost a yr now. And its taking a toll on us both. I am tired of being the only one needing the closeness. We're not married but hope to be one day. He promises this too shall pass and it will get better. Advise please. I love him and he is getting help so he can be a better person for the both of us. I am a very patient person and support him the best I can. Just want the FIRE in our relationship that new lovers have and expect. Not being robbed by the drugs. Am I being selfish... ???? I was married for 27 yrs and been divorced for 3 yrs now... I know he desires me and wants a life together... Please help me understand all this better...

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ami, your boyfriend is selfish. get a new one. any man should appreciate his woman, and even if he is not physically able to get aroused, he is certainly able to physically engage in filacia (not sure of the spelling but, you know)

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Yes it is, and watch out, if either is on the program the state will become very into your life. The methadone effects the part of the brain, Pain and pleasure dept. and stops the connection that allows for a orgasm. Or should I say blocks.
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I know this is an old thread but maybe someone else is looking for answers. I've been on pain meds for a very long time and have had this problem (its a prob for me but she doesn't seem to mind hours of sex). After she is satisfied she usually gives me oral and I'm able to get off. The trick seems to be that if she licks just below my balls and gives me a well lubed hand job I'm able to cum rather quickly. Make sure he's clean and just give him a Rimmer while you jerk his gherk with plenty of lube. He might be sketched out about the idea of you licking his anus but it feels rad and it makes me cum hard so maybe you'll have good luck with that. I'm able to cum after using 100-200 mg of oxycodone if my girl does this for me.

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So what you I do if he gets loaded first thing in the morning? I have literally tried everytjing he'll allow. Ugh just want the blue balls to go away its been a week!#! There has to be some miracle cum button somewhere on him right???

Love my junkie
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