I have had sex multiple times before and then I started dating this new kid who I love very much. He was a virgin the first time I tried to have sex with him it just wouldn't go in its like he wasn't hard. I didn't understand then we tried again and he still couldn't do it. Why is this happening? He's really embarassed and I feel bad because I want to make him feel good, not embarsssed. What can I do? Is he always going to be like this?
Hi guest,
It happens to many guys when they first try to have sex. He's nervous, no doubt about it. Anxiety will kill an erection.
Just don't focus on it. Do something else with him for a while to take his mind off of things. He's thinking of himself, and worrying more and more, which only makes the problem worse.
Have him do oral or something else even just cuddle. Distract him enough so his body is going along "for a ride" so to speak.
Have patience. Once you "break the ice" he should be fine.
This is 'first night stage fright' and is very common among virgin boys.
A boy's penis is rather shy. It needs to get used to being out of his trousers, especially when in its most embarrassing state - erection!.
You do not say whether you have had his penis out to play. You need to take it out regularly and masturbate (wank) and suck it. Doing those things often will train it to get to know you and to enjoy being the centre of attention. After that there should be no problem of embarrassment or anxiety on the part of its owner and it should stay hard as a rock