We used to have a great realtion before our marriage both mentally and physically. After marriage things started to fade. I thought it was workload & crisis & hard time that making our relation so cold. Today is nothing normal in our conjugal life. My spouse doesnt even look at me. & I found my salvation in eating & sleeping. Now i've gained so much weight. I miss the attention, the love making, the hang outs....Im so sexually deprived, Its been 5 months we hadn't have any sex. Im becoming crazy for sex that feel like i can do it with anyone now. Please someone tell me what went wrong to us?? Is there any way to improve things?
I'm so sorry to hear that you are hurting ShatteredDreams - it sucks when the one you love seems to be elsewhere and not with you. First off this needs to be asked and I am sorry in advance - do you think that he is cheating on you with someone else? What about going out anymore or you dressing up for him or putting on sexy lingerie and spicing up your sex life? Have you been on a romantic date in a while, just the 2 of you? When did you notice things start to change and how long ago - if you think back to that time was there any changes to him or you as in job loss/promotion, longer days at work, family members sick, etc?
A simple 'I love you' says lots as well and perhaps a love letter,
Good luck! Happy Easter
Im glad you understand the hard time im going through. I've tried everything you said to get things back to normal. But he doesn't response to any of my efforts. He stopped saying "I love you" even!! I don't hear anything good about me from him. only thing he does is criticizing me or shouting at me & otherwise he remains silent all the time he stays at home. Sometimes i feel like i should go for an extra-marital relation, have sex with someone..or anyone. Its been too long. I don't think anyone in my age is so deprived of sex this much, specially a married person. But at the end of the day I love him a lot & couldn't do anything against him. Is it possible that he doesn't feel the drive for sex, could'nt do it anymore? Does it happen??? I can live with everything thats happening with me but i'm kind of getting crazy for a sex.....This relation is killing me. Neither i can live a normal life nor I can get out of this marriage......Is there any solution? Is extra-marital relationship is the only answer to calm down & be atleast happy for little while?
You know what I would do? Be obvious, get naked and lay down on the bed and play with yourself with him watching - you don't think that wouldn't turn any guy on? If he is not turned on, talk to him ask what it is? If he is not turned on do you think he might be cheating and getting sex from somewhere else? You are doing what you can and still loving him even though you are discouraged - you are loyal and love him lots, if he can't see that then he is a very dumb man and he doesn't deserve you.
Remember - you are beautiful and you are loved. Repeat that to yourself every day and in front of the mirror believe it and he will see what the world sees too.
Hey Thanks for your tips lizardqueen. ....I'll definately give it a try again.