i have the same problem
and when i do things to myself.
i cant feel it :(
Your not alone
and when i do things to myself.
i cant feel it :(
Your not alone
i'm 16 i can't cum and i love my bf very much he pleases me VERY much but i just can't cum....i wanna know what its like too....=[ but idk i heard it was really hard for some girls to cum and maybe i'm just too young but don't let it worry you
a spoon? that sounds... painful.
Oh, but I also can't cum. I'm 19, I've had a few sexual partners, boys and girls alike (guys actually hurt me, so don't suggest that)... but that's not the problem
I fell in love with this straight girl recently. She's actually quite smitten with me, as well. We have sex very often, but I just can't make her cum... and i think I'm doing everything alright (well, more than alright, but I'm probably wrong), but I just can't...
Well, I told her "when you f**k me, I get really turned on. I feel my orgasm building, stronger and stronger, but... I just can't let go. I'm afraid to let go and I don't know why."
And I really expected her to respond similarly, but instead she said "Oh, nothing builds inside of me. It feels good, but... Not that good"
My spirit was crushed! It's not like I've never given a girl an orgasm before, it's just her!
So a) any suggestions on how to give her an orgasm, when I've done everything that I'm "supposed" to do?
And b) why can't I just let go of my orgasm? Does nobody else have this problem?
Oh, but I also can't cum. I'm 19, I've had a few sexual partners, boys and girls alike (guys actually hurt me, so don't suggest that)... but that's not the problem
I fell in love with this straight girl recently. She's actually quite smitten with me, as well. We have sex very often, but I just can't make her cum... and i think I'm doing everything alright (well, more than alright, but I'm probably wrong), but I just can't...
Well, I told her "when you f**k me, I get really turned on. I feel my orgasm building, stronger and stronger, but... I just can't let go. I'm afraid to let go and I don't know why."
And I really expected her to respond similarly, but instead she said "Oh, nothing builds inside of me. It feels good, but... Not that good"
My spirit was crushed! It's not like I've never given a girl an orgasm before, it's just her!
So a) any suggestions on how to give her an orgasm, when I've done everything that I'm "supposed" to do?
And b) why can't I just let go of my orgasm? Does nobody else have this problem?
Ok first off. I am 18 as well!!!!! and lmfao at that dudes post, even though he was half right..welp! ive been with the same man for two years, he's been my first and current. I die have sex with my bestfriend when we took a break for a month. not because I am a n need of the attention, just because I wanted to feel someone else. to see how much different it is, with someone I trust. well my boyfriend and I got back together and have sex often. two months from now he'll be 25, hes had many partners. ok well our sex is amazing!! he cums fast but will get right back up and please me. at first i wanted it rough and fast, now its like start off playing around, getting each other ready and turned on, then start off slow. he knows how to please me, weve sat and talked about what we both liked so its easier for us now to please one another. when he pushes his body against mine ( him ontop ), i f*** him, moving my lower body so its sliding in and out, when it does it puts pressure on my clit each time. then he takes control and pushes his body up and down to give me more pressure, then goes alittle faster and harder.. i get to the point to where i build up, my legs tingle, and i feel ready to pop; but i cant let go. idk if im scared because i know, i get this feeling that im going to urinate; and maybe i will instead of cum..idk...
i really need your email adress whoever you are because that was a very powerful and tru statement you made. i am also 18 years old but im wayy too mature for my age, i've had my share of partners and now im dealing with a guy who is much older than i am. he's number 2 on my list of best f**ks but the only thing is i dont squirt for some reason. even during oral sex i dont know its weird. a doctor once told me that it could be possbile that i am cumming but i just dont squirt but i wanna squirt!!!!!!!!!!!
Hunni, you think thats bad ? I can get to tha point where im about to cum,and then i have to pull away. Tha feeling is just way too much. It's seriously beginning to piss me and my bf off. I just dont know what to do, short of tying and strapping myself down so much that I can't move ! But if that works am I seriously going to have to do that every single time that I want to cum ? I've virtually given up. What's tha point of me experiencing tha pleasures of sex if I'm still raring to go when me bf's already came ? I'm so lost with this. I love sex, I'd just love to be able to NOT PULL AWAY !!! And I've tried everything, nothing works. Does anyone know why I have to pull away, and why I cant reach my climax ?
Lmao. Same here. I hate itttttt ! I don't pull away because of the fact iim like "ok, I'm going to do it!!!" But then womp womp. Well, he's black so after I'm done, I do see white stuff all over his penis. At this point he has already came but, he doesn't have that much cum. I've seen it during oral. So maybe I do alittle bit?? Lol hell idk. Let's ask a porn star. They're great at it. To the point it looks horrid.
Hi there, it sounds to me like maybe you are, but do bear in mind that not all womena ctually do ejaculate during sex. It is not a very common thing so it sounds to me like you're pretty normal if you ask me. What do you think? Is that what you mean?
Barrat.. .. a spoon?.. are you mad?.. what are you trying to do to the girl?.. shes already got a complex cos she carn't cum and now your telling her to use a spoon?!!!???.. eeeeek?
Bless her she need to explore herself, use some lube, relax, youve so got to relax, and concentrate completely on your own pleasure, think about how it feels, put some sexy music on, get yourself in the mood. I agree the clits the most important part of cuming for most women, and she should try a vibrator. the rabbits bever let me down! Bear in mind tho sometimes even tho you really want to make yourself cum, give yourself a orgasm, if your not arroused enough you wont!.
Try getting aroused with some sexy play, have a shower/bath together, make sure the rooms warm, comfortable and please yourself, Its a skill, something you learn, it will happen, I was married for 15years and I never had an orgasm, but when we split up, and i did it for myself, my god the feelling when you cum, ! you carnt beat it!.. the pleasure from orgasm is undescribable and theres so many types of orgasm too. Bless you darlin, keep trying youll do it eventually, ! I promis.. dont use a flippin spoon tho PLEASE!
Bless her she need to explore herself, use some lube, relax, youve so got to relax, and concentrate completely on your own pleasure, think about how it feels, put some sexy music on, get yourself in the mood. I agree the clits the most important part of cuming for most women, and she should try a vibrator. the rabbits bever let me down! Bear in mind tho sometimes even tho you really want to make yourself cum, give yourself a orgasm, if your not arroused enough you wont!.
Try getting aroused with some sexy play, have a shower/bath together, make sure the rooms warm, comfortable and please yourself, Its a skill, something you learn, it will happen, I was married for 15years and I never had an orgasm, but when we split up, and i did it for myself, my god the feelling when you cum, ! you carnt beat it!.. the pleasure from orgasm is undescribable and theres so many types of orgasm too. Bless you darlin, keep trying youll do it eventually, ! I promis.. dont use a flippin spoon tho PLEASE!
Hi I am 27 and I came once when I was younger, but never again after that untill when I was 26, I Mostly just have orgasms because I tense up and am vocal but I dont squirt or anything just get really wet, I wonder if this is still actually cumming? ?
OMG. I used to have to pull away too, because its to intense but if you play with yourself alot you actualy build up a threshold and that why I can finnally cum now. Watch some porn and play with yourself all the time, I do this with a vibrator
Wtf? lol
hello
sum women cant cum easy and now you can cum with ur boyfriend ONLY BECAUSE he knows how to make me cum and how to treat , so you gotta be sure if u want to have sex with that person first and then u gotta be comfortable with ur body and completly relaxed with ur partner and keep that in ur mind U WANT TO CUM so keep thinkin about it while u guys practicing and u also can use ur fingers while u guys doin it, and dont forget kissin and rubbin and touchin would help A LOT! that will makes u wet then u can have sex
just dont be shy to show ur body and ur reaction! sum girls do and thats why they dont cum!!
But seriously why mens not shy? why they cum anyways? let do it girls and nothin is hard believe me just FEEL it and u gotta move ur body on him! dont just lay like a toy! move and work on gettin ur orgasim and u will get it believe me as long as ur not shy with that person
thanks i hope it was helpful
yeah have fun explaining that one to the ER doctor..lol.. i can't cum but i get to a climax. just make sure your using lube if you need to, dry sex hurts after lol.
Okay firstly, ROFLMAO spoons?!
Ahem. Well I've always done a lot of reading on the internet and talking to people about sexual advice, purely because I am interested, so I will share what I know with you. There are a few things that will definitely help you to reach an orgasm:
- Relax! Us girls seem to find it nearly impossible, but you can do it.
- Occupy your mind. If you can't simply switch your brain off, then occupy it with a fantasy or something that will turn you on. You'll still be perfectly aware of the pleasure you're feeling, and it prevents your mind from worrying whether you'll finish and going "hmm i think i'm close, am i close? now its going away..." Because thoughts like that will NOT do you any good!!
- Stop the negativity. Just because you haven't orgasmed before doesn't mean you never will, so stop expecting it to never happen. I have never heard of a case where a woman goes through an entire life without ever having an orgasm. It will happen!!
- See the positives. Think about all the pleasure you have. An orgasm may be great but it's more like an added bonus. Would you be happy if you always orgasmed immediately without all the pleasure before it?? Enjoy every single bit of pleasure you have, whether you orgasm or not.
I noticed that at least one person said you need to be able to give yourself an orgasm before you can get one with a partner. Well, it's likely correct. The only way a partner will know what your body enjoys is by you telling/showing them, as you're the only person who can really figure it out. Spend some time alone. Just try with your fingers if necessary, especially anywhere near the clit. Try different speeds, pressures, motions, and don't forget you can go slightly to one side of the clit (that's the only way i can do it!) Just enjoy it and if nothing seems to happen after a while, don't think "Dammit i didn't orgasm!!" just think "i'll try again sometime" And if something feels good (doesn't have to me mega amazing) then keep it in mind, even if you just do the exact same movement for half an hour.
Remember that girls take a LOT longer to orgasm than guys! A lot lot lot lot longer usually. We're lucky though...we can go for as long as we want ;-) If you can reach a stage where you can feel loads of pleasure, you won't blimming care if there's no orgasm! And then you'll be randomly surprised and have one unexpectedly :-D
Ahem. Well I've always done a lot of reading on the internet and talking to people about sexual advice, purely because I am interested, so I will share what I know with you. There are a few things that will definitely help you to reach an orgasm:
- Relax! Us girls seem to find it nearly impossible, but you can do it.
- Occupy your mind. If you can't simply switch your brain off, then occupy it with a fantasy or something that will turn you on. You'll still be perfectly aware of the pleasure you're feeling, and it prevents your mind from worrying whether you'll finish and going "hmm i think i'm close, am i close? now its going away..." Because thoughts like that will NOT do you any good!!
- Stop the negativity. Just because you haven't orgasmed before doesn't mean you never will, so stop expecting it to never happen. I have never heard of a case where a woman goes through an entire life without ever having an orgasm. It will happen!!
- See the positives. Think about all the pleasure you have. An orgasm may be great but it's more like an added bonus. Would you be happy if you always orgasmed immediately without all the pleasure before it?? Enjoy every single bit of pleasure you have, whether you orgasm or not.
I noticed that at least one person said you need to be able to give yourself an orgasm before you can get one with a partner. Well, it's likely correct. The only way a partner will know what your body enjoys is by you telling/showing them, as you're the only person who can really figure it out. Spend some time alone. Just try with your fingers if necessary, especially anywhere near the clit. Try different speeds, pressures, motions, and don't forget you can go slightly to one side of the clit (that's the only way i can do it!) Just enjoy it and if nothing seems to happen after a while, don't think "Dammit i didn't orgasm!!" just think "i'll try again sometime" And if something feels good (doesn't have to me mega amazing) then keep it in mind, even if you just do the exact same movement for half an hour.
Remember that girls take a LOT longer to orgasm than guys! A lot lot lot lot longer usually. We're lucky though...we can go for as long as we want ;-) If you can reach a stage where you can feel loads of pleasure, you won't blimming care if there's no orgasm! And then you'll be randomly surprised and have one unexpectedly :-D