On June 28th my boyfriend came over bringing some Epsom Salt to soak in. In the past he saw my smaller boils that would come up every now and then externally. Well for the first time since being with this guy, I experienced an internal boil. My boyfriend saw it and freaked out. he left my home saying that he would call me later to see if i wanted to eat and told me to go ahead and soak in the epsom salt, but he never called and he never returned my call, even to this day...i saw him a couple of days after going to the emergency room to have the boil treated(this is not the first time I've had to deal with this, but it IS the first time with this guy) anyway, my boyfriend came to the door, said, I'm sorry" then gave me a hug for about 15 seconds and basically walked away. basically walked right out of my life... and I have not spoken with him since...he literally devasted me, crushed me, just put me through many emotional changes because of it....needless to say, he is now an EX BOYFRIEND....I thought he cared. but obviously that was a lie..we had been together for a little over a year...What am I suppose to think?
I don't know if this will help (a year later), but even if it doesn't help you MsWonder, it may help someone else reading your post.
I hate to say it, but if he's not willing to sit down with you and discuss his concerns, whatever they are, then either he doesn't really care about you for who you are, or he's not mature enough to maintain a life-long committed and fruitful relationship.
It can be scary seeing someone you are intimate with afflicted with some sort of illness, especially a potentially severe one (like an internal boil, a bad infection, etc.), but that's why marriage vows contain the "...in sickness or health..." part.
If he's not ready to live up to that, he's not ready to "be your man," and it's probably a good thing that he's now an "ex." I hope you find a better one next time, one who can last you for life.
I hate to say it, but if he's not willing to sit down with you and discuss his concerns, whatever they are, then either he doesn't really care about you for who you are, or he's not mature enough to maintain a life-long committed and fruitful relationship.
It can be scary seeing someone you are intimate with afflicted with some sort of illness, especially a potentially severe one (like an internal boil, a bad infection, etc.), but that's why marriage vows contain the "...in sickness or health..." part.
If he's not ready to live up to that, he's not ready to "be your man," and it's probably a good thing that he's now an "ex." I hope you find a better one next time, one who can last you for life.