I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and I saved myself for him up until late May, so this wasn't too long ago. The first time was intense and very passionate. I loved it. However, it slowly died down to having sex only once a week and even when we do have sex I have to initiate it every time. I've tried very many seduction techniques, I've tried being spontaneous, I've tried doing it in other places besides the bedroom, and I've tried everything in my power to keep it interesting. I have considered that possibly he's having an affair, but I can rule that out because I have talked to him. I know communication is important, and he's finally told me what's going on. He told me that he's had so much sex when he was younger that he's lost interest in it. When I gave him my virginity, it had been 3 years since his last sexual encounter, so that's why he was aching for it. I do not want to have to wait three years to have sex like that again only to have it die down once again and to continue on this painful cycle. I've thought that maybe he sees me too often, but that can't be it because I see him once a week on his day off.
So my question is: Is it possible that a man has had so much sex that he loses interest in the act? How do you fix that problem?
Let's forget about the affairs and that he's cheating, that I've gained weight, blah blah. I'm the same person, the same size. I know other men want me because I get hit on a lot, so I know I'm not ugly.
So my question is: Is it possible that a man has had so much sex that he loses interest in the act? How do you fix that problem?
I'd first suggest that he have a complete physical, including hormone levels done. Maybe something is wrong, physically.
Otherwise, yes it is possible that you just have different sexual needs.
I agree, it seems odd. Remember though, for you this is all new and exciting. Maybe he is bored with the same old routine.
Can you get him to talk to a sex therapist? Maybe find out what it is that is causing him to "lose interest?"
Start with the physical. Guys don't like to talk about "performance" usually.
He might be carrying an STD trying to let it clear up then share with u when was the last time u got a check up trying to throw it off or he could be seeing somebody else by the way if it was me I will be asking him questions muthafucka what u got and why u asking me I didn't have nothing before I met your ass.What the f**k going on that I need to know?Tell it. Better yet fire his ass on to the next cause it's somebody out there that want me believe that.