when I was 8 years old I got rape by my brother's friend he had did it for a few time as i remember. then when i grew up i know that i have lost my virgin. when i turned to 18 I have a boy friend and we didnt have a real sex but he have put his finger to my .... so many times anyway we brok up cuz I wasn't ready for a realsex with him.
now i am in a relationship with a guy and i really love him but just the same problem for the fisrt year i wasnt ready to have sex and he understood and waiting for me until now we have been together for 3 years and i really want to make him happy cuz completely in love with this guy bytheway he thought that i am a virgin girl cuz i never told about my past
i dont know what gonna happen if i tell him the truth or should i keep it to be a secret forever
and what about my virgin ??
he is a ueropean guy but i am a asian girl
my culture always teach us that we have to keep our vitgin until we get maried,
for me it's really a big deal but i dont know what about him ??
and he is older than me for 13 years
i really need some advice or someone tell me what should i do for now ????
well, u actually can't lose your virginity if you hadn't period. even the fact, with 8, its too early. so, tell him u got raped, he's gonna understand you. just be honest with him. european guys are so nice, and like u said.. he's older then u, he's gonna be nice and if he loves u, he won't leave. just, trust me.. tell him what happend, how, why... u were just 8, u didn't knew.. it wasn't your foult really. don't worry. its european guy, they'll know and they always understand things and u have to face with the truth.. even i think u didn't actually lose it. just don't worry. (: talk to him.
I am Asian and I also have a European boyfriend, I told him everything and he understood everything about my past and helped me be stronger and respect myself more. If this guy leaves you after knowing the truth about you then you should not care because it just means he doesn't respect you enough. If he is in love with you, he will not only forgive you but also make you love yourself more and protect you.
your a fool! get lost!
Wow...this poor person...you just gave so much wrong information..