No i need help,
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All of you people are super f#cked up telling her not to get an abortion. Assuming she's selfish is inherently anti-black anti-antiethnic racist in general ablist and presumtuous. Why? GO LOOK IT UP. Y'all also assume this little lady is in good mental health, good physical health, great economic status, and has a multitude of different resources. Did you know that where I live YOU CANT EVEN GET A FREE ABORTION UNTIL 2.5 MONTHS? So I guess I'm a double murderer just because of poverty and geography. What if she already has a child and is struggling financially? Hey, who cares, right? Let's just make the other kid malnourished and neglected and pulled away from her by CPS! Awwwesome, right? And if its not just a woman's choice because a man was involved--how many "men" leave their pregnant ladies, become deadbeat dads, abusive fathers to these innocent children who are so obviously going to grow up to become the next Einstein! What if she's freakin' 15 and couldn't get her mom's signature so she had to track down her dad who just got out of prison or something and now she has it? It is wrong to assume she's selfish, she's rational, she's got support, she's well off, she's white (YES OF COURSE THIS MAKES A DIFFERENCE!), she's able-bodied, she's healthy, she's not mentally ill, so on and so forth! Bottom line is YOU DONT KNOW!
I'll give you a little anecdote myself for all of you little special snowflakes who think you can save the world one horrible murdering mom at a time. FIrst of all, I got pregnant from a rape. My rapist got me arrested (won't say how but I was in NO way culpable and it was an ingenuous and socioathic tactic to say the freakin' least). I am poor so I could not bail out. I am not White, so during booking, the CO's took one look at me and my last name and marked 'transient' even though I had a pretty nice apartment for myself. My entire life was ruined. I had to post pone college for 5 years. My dog was put in the pound and murdered. My family disowned me. My partner (NOT MY RAPIST) doesn't want kids. I don't either, however I would've had to have the child in prison SHACKLED AND HANDCUFFED throughout labor and delivery with no drugs and no say in how I delivered with no loved ones there, not able to bond or nurse my own child before he or she was snatched away from me and given up randomly to a family who may smoke crack and blow it in my child's face, let them drown in their backyard pool out of negligence, over them up for prostitution--who knows! They had the nerve to tell me that during an abortion or birth, the baby's father could be there--MY RAPIST. They didn't process my rape kit because in our county, our departments are poor, the officers misogynistic, and well, the main reason--it COSTS TOO MUCH! So my rapist sat in jail not even overnight before his wealthy white daddy posted bond. And believe you me, his bond was less than a fourth of mine for a part 1 offense versus a low level misdemeanor (public intoxication falls into this category, for example). First off, I begged the judge and my public defender to let me into a facility that wasn't jail (a rehab for depression, for example), or back home wearing an ankle braclet, so that I may have the chance to think about whether or not I want to have this child. They adamantly refused, despite the fact that there was zero concrete evidence I had committed wrongdoing, and had no prior record. Thinking back, less would've happened to me had I killed the bastard in the commission of my rape! Hilarious, right? Not really. Then when I made up my mind and it was still very early, I was told there was a BACKLOG OF HEALTH PROBLEMS THEY NEEDED TO ATTEND TO AND SCHEDULE and NOT TO BE SO SELFISH. So am I selfish for wanting to put what eventually ended up to be a developed fetus through no pain (before pain receptors develop)? Nope. So I waited. It seems they forgot every day. It was nearly 6 months before my abortion was scheduled, and even then, I was told i wouldn't know when, where, or what time it was going to occur because THAT WASN"T MY RIGHT. But this is before conviction, where I'm supposed to be not punished and assumed innocent, right? NOT. Not one freakin' bit, not in our country--another myth that is anti-black, anti-ethnic, anti-immigrant and anti-woman. So I wasn't allowed to even pray or practice my religion and the preparation that goes along with it before my procedure. I was also told by roughly 15 people that I was a baby murderer, so on and so forth. Before the procedure I was molested by a CO. After I got out I attempted suicide even though I was a healthy and proud woman before that. I felt like there was a parasite inside me because of the rape and I was given no counseling or help to let me see otherwise (or to see if seeing otherwise was a possibility).
So when you say to a woman "It's not your body" think about my story. My rapist also said, even if it wasn't outloud "It's not your body". But it is. And it wasn't my choice, even if I froze, even if I didn't fight back one bit. No access to the morning after pill in prison! Being taught that my body wasn't in fact my body and I didn't deserve a choice also taught me
I didn't deserve to be loved
I didn't deserve to make others pay for my existence
to burden them with my presence
to be loved by my God
or to stay alive.
I ended up in a coma for several months. Today I have brain damage. I'm slowly rebuilding my iife I'm going back to school--one of the top ten schools in the world--to be a human rights attorney.
So before you assume, please think of me, and all the women I represent.