Abortion Experiences, Please Share

I am 23 and engaged to a wonderful man - we both do not want children at this point in our life and felt that financially, emotionally, and personally that an abortion was our best choice.

I had a medical abortion and went to a women's clinic. The staff were sensitive, polite, and understanding. I was very, very happy with the entire process. I was sent home after a couple shots, and just two nights ago took the pills to expel the pregnancy. They sent me home with a scrip for tylenol with codeine and I didn't fill it right away - I scoffed at the thought that someone would need codeine to get through some cramping.

When I woke up at 2 AM with pain ripping through my abdomen, I realized how right on the warning of "severe cramping" really was. It was absolutely the worst pain of my life. I was thrashing around on the bed, becoming sick to my stomach at the pain, and moaning. My fiance looked on helplessly, crying because he wasn't able to help me. He ran out to a 24 hour pharmacy and got the scip filled. I took some regular Tylenol just before he left and was beginning to drift off again when he got back. The tylenol with codeine knocked me out and kept the cramps at bay all night. I took another set of pills the next night, and this time took the Tylenol w/ codeine an hour after inserting the pills - no pain, no problem this time!

So be sure to take the pain killers once you start to feel the cramps coming on!!

So far everything is going well - I'm looking forward to being fully healed, and thankfully I don't have regrets about all this. Just be sure of what you want...and best of luck to all.

That sounds almost EXACTLY like my experience! The nurses and counselor were very nice, but the doctor was extremely rude. It was in a clinic and there was pretty much an assembly line of girls. The doctor said hello and then went right to work. I was scared to death and about a minute into the procedure (experiencing a lot of pain) I asked if that was as bad as the pain would get. He didn't answer my question, was really irritated and said- "you do your job and I'll do mine". I looked up at the counselor in disbelief and it it seemed like she felt bad for me. It's really unfair that he can't experience the procedure that he does to girls every day. Maybe he would have a little more compassion...



As far as the pain, I wonder how long it takes for the cervical numbing to take effect? As soon as the doctor took the needle out he was doing the procedure (and I literally mean within seconds after the injection). I don't think it even had time to take effect! I felt lots of metal clenching and sharp, scraping pain. It was the worst pain I ever experienced in my life and indescribably bad. Right after the procedure was over I had severe cramps. Within only a few minutes they went from the severe to moderate and then to very mild. THAT was a huge relief and thank goodness it was over. I'm definitely still scarred by the experience though.

I can't find an edit option, so I'll add this to my post above. In addition to the surgical abortion I had a few months ago, I had a medical abortion in 2003. It was truly awful. The cramping was so bad that I was doubled over hugging a hot water bottle to my abdomen. I went to the bathroom and almost passed out on the floor. I crawled across the floor and dragged myself onto the bed to bed to wake my boyfriend up to help me. I was so weak that I couldn't wake him up. A few seconds later I was happy that he didn't wake up because I had uncontrollable diarrhea, vomiting and bleeding at the same time. So I went through the whole process by myself and it's an experience that I will never forget.

I KNOW that for me, having an abortion was the right thing to do. The only thing I would change is having sedation or general anesthesia.

I am 24 married and have two kids, and I have also had an abortion 6 weeks ago.
I have to say it was a very difficult decision for my husband and I buy we thought
That it would be the best decision for our family due to my husband being active duty
Military, and we were not ready financially. Honestly I was scared out of my mind
About having the abortion , I was even scared to call the abortion clinic.
So I turned to the internet to get information on what goes on in the procedure and
If it would painful. Some of the things on the internet that tell about the procedure and
What you will go through are LIES. I am going to be completely HONEST. I called the
Abortion clinic to make an appointment and the lady was very nice and just asked
For my name and date and time that would be right for me. When I got to the clinic
On the day of my appointment I walked in and the nurse at the desk was very nice
But there is a lot of paper work to fill out and before anything else they give you a
Pregnancy test to make sure your pregnant. After the nurse comes for you to take
An ultrasound to see how far along after you visit with a counselor and she explains
What is going to happen during the procedure and she makes sure of your decision
She also tells you that she will be by your side the whole time during the procedure
After the 15 20 min counseling session you will have to try and urinate before the procedure
Then the counselor came into the waiting room for me and took me to this small room
I had to get undressed from my waist down then the doctor came in to talk to me and
To make sure of my decision. Another nurse came in to give me medication one was
To clwm my nerves which was great because I was scared and the other was for
Pain. I got on the examining table they turned on some music that was very calming
And the counselor was right by my side talking to me and holding my hand and in no
Time I was finished I was like are you serious we're done they said yes all done 3
Minutes is all it took. I got dressed and the nurse took me to the recovery room where
Gave me crackers and a drink they also give you a heating pad for cramping but I didn't
Need one twenty minutes in the recovery room and you can leave. My husband was in
Right in the waiting room where I left him waiting for me he thought I would need help
Walking I was like I am fine it was better than a pap smear. I had light bleeding for about
5 days. And no cramping. Girls don't be scared its your body and your choice don't be
Scared it doesn't hurt I promise. And everyone is super nice to you in the clinic
Oh I forgot to mention I had the surgery abortion. Best luck to you everything will be fine.

I was also forced into having an abortion 2 months ago. I regret it so bad. I regreted it the second it happend. Everything went wrong I took the pills and they made me sick to soon so I had to try them again and finally have the suction one because it was to late to go back after the first pill. I still am very sad about it and sometimes cry. I think about how far along I would be now and how I was actually becoming excited about it before the abortion. I did it for my partner who acted in the worst possible way about it. Sometimes I wish I just did what I wanted to no matter who agreed with it. I didnt though and I know I'll move on from it it's just been hard for me. I'm not trying to talk anyone out of doing what they feel is right. I'm just sharing my story and know alot of the feelings I have comes from not wanting to do it in the first place.

Unfortunately I have a bit of experience on this topic, but I want to start off by saying I do NOT regret the decisions I have made. I wish that I was responsible enough not to get pregnant in the first place, but I made mistakes and handled them in the way I felt was right.

I've had 3 abortions: 1st surgical w/o sedation, 2nd surgical w/sedation, and 3rd medication. Here is my experience:

1st: the procedure itself did not hurt with the local numbing. I felt pressure, similiar to that of a routine gyno-exam when they use the speculum. The conselor/nurse with me was very supportive and talked to me throughout the procedure, telling me exactly what was happening. She held my hand the whole time & was very comforting, which was nice bc I had no family with me (never told them).

2nd: I don't remember ANYTHING except being chatty with the nurse while I was getting dressed afterwards. IV sedation would be a good option if you don't want to remember the procedure.

*after both surgical abortions, while leaving the clinic, I had horrible waves of nausea for about 30 mins & ended up vomitting on the side of the street walking back to the car. Anti-nausea meds would have been nice! but it didn't last long. I had period-like crams for a few days following the procedures, but never anything more.

3rd: I took the first pill (ends the preg) at the clinic and the second pill (expells the contents of uterus) at home before going to sleep. I was prescribed tylenol3/codine to make me sleep through the process, and anti-nausea meds which were a godsend (i'm very sensitive to hormonal changes). I slept through everything and for the following days had cramps that were not as bad as my normal period cramps. The only negative side-effect from the pills was mild diarhea for a couple days.

Two points I want to make: there is a misconception that having an abortion will affect your fertility. Back in the days when women had to resort to illegal abortions (with wire coathangers or whatever else!) getting an infection would make them unable to have children afterward. If you take your antibiotics, I don't see how anything involved with abortion could effect fertily. I myself am recently married and carrying my fourth pregnancy.

Also, and most importantly, I think each woman has to decide for herself. If you allow yourself to be forced to have an abortion, you WILL regret it. On the contrary, if you allow yourself to be forced into having a child before you are ready, you will likely regret that too. We are each capable of making our own decisions and has the law stands now, no one can force us to do anything one way or the other. Do what is best for you!

i am not accurate about it right now because i really tried to forget.. but somehow the feelings is still there..


i made an abortion when i was 19 or 20 years old..i was delayed for a week and i knew something is wrong because i got my period when i expected.. i am sexually active that time and not having sex safe sex that much..


i didn't made a pregnancy test and i was so decided to have an abortion because i was not really ready..my boyfriend went somewhere to buy an abortion pill

when i first done it i don't feel anything..later taht morning there is a little bleeding then it stop...my boyfriend went back where he bought a pill and ask about it and the vendor said i should take another one..


the 2nd one was very horrible.. i take it orally and put something on my vagina.. at midnight.. i felt like that i was going to die.. i am in so much pain.. i was crying so much..and i wish that i am dead...i tried to sleep even in pain and when i woke up a lot of blood is on my bed..

when i stand up.. something just burst down and i hurriedly went to the bathroom.. and there it was.. a fist shape thing covered with blood.. i was afraid and silently ask for forgiveness..i flushed it on the toilet and pretend nothing happened..

it was a horrible experience and i really want to forget it.. my boyfriend and i broke after 4 years of relationship..now i am 23 and married..i was very open to my husband about my past and at first he couldnt accept it..he was worried if we can still can have a child after what i did.. it is really frustrating because we are now 9 months married but still i am not pregnant.. i am afraid to lose him.. i know all his worries will be vanish if i can give him a child..


i am so mad at myself because i was really foolish doing a big mistke.. my past now it affects my present and my future..



:-(

I had an abortion over 3 years ago. No regrets! I do regret getting pregnant, however, but not my decision to abort. My husband and I don't want kids, never want kids. I don't think I could have handled pregnancy either. The few weeks I endured had me sick all the time, moody, depressed, crying randomly.. Not to mention my breasts were killing me, I couldn't even touch them.
I had the pill abortion. It was not a pleasant experience, but probably much easier than a surgical abortion.
I've known for years that if I were to get pregnant I would have an abortion, so when it happened, I didn't even have to think about it...

To anyone seeking an abortion, I do suggest you do some serious research into what it really means, physically and emotionally.
I hate hearing stories of regret.
Everyone makes mistakes, but please make decisions responsibly!

I had an abortion 3 days ago and am astonished at how easy the process was, how little physical pain was involved, and how quickly I'm recovering. My only concern is that I haven't bled any since leaving the clinic, not that I mind just wondering if this is a sign of other problems to come. The PP clinic gave me sedative and an Ibuprofin 800 and I don't remember much of the procedure itself. I went in very scared, never having been in this situation before, but I left feeling great relief since I have no desire to have children.

In November I got off of birth control pills for the last time because the hormones conflict with my cigarette smoking (risk of blood clots, etc.). Became pregnant at the end of December, wouldn't you know it? I had taken the morning after pill in December and again in January before knowing I was pregnant, so obviously that method didn't prove reliable.

Upon hearing the news of being pregnant, I was very upset and depressed. There simply is no way I can care for another human being at this time, not financially or emotionally, and my partner's health problems would most certainly further complicate the situation. For weeks were sad and I felt angry that all birth control decisions and subsequent failures fell on my shoulders, leaving me to live with the consequences whereas men can just get on with their lives with maybe a touch of sadness. And yet so many men criticize women faced with making these hard decisions -- decisions they themselves will never encounter on such a personal and intimate level.

I am supremely grateful for having access to a safe environment to have this abortion. And also I am extremely grateful for the support of my closest friends. Without them I would've been lost. No one berated my decision, though I haven't told but a few people I trust.

I recently had an abortion using the aspiration method. I had made a firm decision before I went into the clinic. I was 7 weeks along. The nurse was very informative and helpful. She didnt make me feel one way or the other about my decision. When it was time to go back, I got into the room and laid on the table. The doctor seemed pre-occupied because he was on call and had to rush to the hospital after to deliver a baby. He gave me a few shots for numbing which was very painful. Then he dilated my cervix which was also very painful. I have a pretty high pain tolerance, so I was surprised that this was hurting me so bad. I yelped out in pain and the nurse grabbed my hand and told me not to scream and scare the other patients. Then they turned on the vacuum which took a few minutes which was even more painful! The doctor was very rough, I felt like he was trying to vacuum out his couch, not a human being. They told me before it would feel like cramping. It does not. It feels like someone is shooting your cervix with 4 needles, scraping inside of you and then vacuuming it out. It was horrible and abrupt and I felt a little violated after. I had bad cramping and pain for about 5 hours after and slight cramping a few days after that. I dont regret doing it, I knew it was the right choice for me, I just wish they would have prepared me better for how painful it would be. I hope this helps!

hello there. can i ask where is the clinic that ur stating above? i think i need that badly. super bad. pls help.thank u

I had my 3rd child and first baby girl last october but my boyfriend left me 3 times through out the pregnancy and finally at 7 months along. I was alone for the birth of my daughter and now still alone raising 3 children at 23 yrs old. I made a mistake through my vulnerability after the break up and looked for someone to take away the pain I was feeling after the end of that long relationship from the man I had loved so much, but obviously wasnt loved back. I found some one almost 2 months later who helped me forget about my ex while we were together and made me feel so happy and good again. It always made me think it was too good to be true... which it was. After only being with him for a short time I became pregnant on valentines day 2012. I didnt do anything to avoid becoming pregnant becuase I felt so good not worrying about my ex that I figured if I became pregnant by this new guy things would last. Big mistake. I wish I had more people to talk  to, more friends or family to spend time with me and my children so I wouldnt have made the mistake that I did thinking replacing my ex with a man would make everything better. At first I was happy and then a couple weeks later the truth about this new guy came out. He wasn't so great after all. He was an abusive, lying womanizer who had a woman he lived with, another woman who was an ex he was patching things up with and after 3 months of us being together another girl gave birth to his child.. who is now 4months old and he is still denying even though he looks dead on him. Oh and a week before my abortion I caught him with a woman who claimed to had been pregnant by him but got an abortion. A light came on and I realized what a mistake I had made and that this poor child I was carrying would have to go through so much pain and problems if I had kept him or her. I made the appointment for the 4th time (i had made four appointments over 7weeks since I found out I was pregnant becuase I was having uncertainty but the last situation made me go through with it.) April 19th at 11weeks along, I went to the clinic. I was waiting for about 6hrs during which I wanted to get up and leave a few times but I made my self stay. I kept telling myself how this was the right thing to do. Once I finally got onto the table it was too late. As the abortionist began the procedure all I wanted to do was kick her and tell her to stop !! I kept thinking dear god please make her stop PLEASE . And within seconds, it was over. As she stood up and was walking out I wondered how could a woman be able to do that for a living? I cried for 3 days straight didnt do anything else. and for 3 months I have been regretting my decision. I wish I would have talked to someone. I wish I would have chose adoption at the least. I would be 23 weeks pregnant today and now I wont be able to hold or kiss my little baby. I wont be able to hear his or her first breath or cry. Instead all I can do is wonder who he or she would have been. I keep my ultrasound pictures from my 8week appt at my obgyn and I think about my baby all the time. Whats really hard is that my friend I was living with is 4 weeks ahead of me and its so heart breaking to see her or to talk about her pregnancy and her little boy she will be welcoming into the world in a couple of months. I was due November 6th and I still continue to count down every tuesday until my EDD. I dont know when or if I will ever heal completely. I am afraid of becoming pregnant again until I am married because I will NEVER get another abortion and after this I dont think I could ever give my baby up for adoption. I always told myself I would never get an abortion and I wish I stuck to that decision. I did learn though that I shouldnt look for happiness in a man and to value life a lot more than I was. I feel sometimes that I did make the best choice for me at the time because I cant imagine having another child in a couple months and doing it alone, AGAIN, and this still sometimes feels like a dream. But then I feel guilty for thinking this. All I have to remember my baby is the emotional pain, my ultrasound pictures and a tattoo of a small bud to represent my little angel in heaven that I had added to three flowers for my other 3kids

I recently underwent a medical abortion. The pregnancy was completely unexpected and I came to find out that I was pregnant whilst in A&E. I had been taken in with abdominal pains (I suffer with Inflammatory Bowl Disease so I have intense bowel Spasms). Whilst waiting to see a doctor my urine was taken and Tahdah I was pregnant. This was 4 days before my 21st and although I live with my partner and he is a few years older we both agreed this wasn't the right time and that we should wait a few years. I was given blood tests and scans to ensure the pregnancy wasn't ectopic and it came to light that I was 4 weeks gone. I contacted my GP within 7 days and was provided with a private clinics details that would complete the procedure -BPAS in Cardiff. Although I wasnt happy to continue with the pregnancy I still found making to decision to have an abortion very difficult and both my partner I agreed that if I could not have a medical abortion and I was referred for surgical we would keep it. There was a bit of a wait I received the initial consultation within 10 days of contacting them which was basically just to discuss my options and why I felt that I need to abort the baby. The second appointment then consisted of a scan at this point I was then 7 weeks 5 days. After checking everything was ok I was given the Hormone pill (Monday 10th Dec 2012). Once I had taken it I instant regretted my decision and I wished that I had longer to think about it. I wont lie me and my partner did argue as I found the whole situation difficult to deal with but it was too late. There was no bleeding or pain although I did feel bloated and nauseous but thats expected as was explained. I returned the next afternoon to insert the 4 pills in to the Vagina to induce the miscarriage. I was told I should expect to have pain from two hours forward. Which was important as I live nearly an hour away and I didn't want it to kick off without being home first.  I didnt have that luxury  Within 20 mins of leaving the clinic the cramping began. Within 15 mins it went from tolerate to excruciating  I have a very high pain tolerance (the best way to describe it is if im crying in pain my partner rings an ambulance as I am not a crier). I cried my entire journey home I have never had any pain like what I experienced. I was given codeine as well as Ibuprofen and Paracetamol and even at the highest dosage I was shaking in pain. This lasted 3 hours as the pain was expected I didnt go to the hospital.  I passed a few large clots and the pain dulled down to mild period cramps Id say 5 out of 10. This stayed through Tuesday night and Wednesday Night so I thought it was over and done with. At 1.30am this morning I was woken up in an unreal amount of pain, I couldn't sit down or lie down I couldn't wear anything on my bottom half as I was cramping so much. I cried for pretty much 2 hours solid (my partner was away working and I had to call him for him to come home) I took as much as I could medication wise and it didn't do anything at all. After being hysterical for near enough 2.5 hours we went to A&E. I was placed on other pain killers as well as morphine and I was still in agony. Eventually I was seen my a Gynecologist and was inspected. Part of the baby had become lodged in my cervix and where this was trying to shrink back to size my womb was going into spasm causing my pain. I had to sit with no further sedation or medication and have a doctor cut out and remove pieces of tissue that was left in the middle of A&E. This so far has been the most horrific ordeal that I have been through and I was not prewarned about things like this. I would like to make sure that other people considering abortion know the facts and that this could happen. I will never have another abortion unless I medically require one for my own well being again. I have been told by doctors that the level of pain that I have gone through in the last 18 hours is considered to be worse than Childbirth. I would not wish this on anybody and I am still dealing with the pain with hourly shots of Morphine thank god. 

I also had an abortion 2 weeks ago...if thats a decision one makes...that decision should be respected. I feel obviously guilt but also relief knowing that i done the right thing...not just for me...not for my partner...but also for the baby. I live below the breadline...i could not afford to bring the child up. Im at college...plan on making a good life for myself...that way any children i do have i will be able to afford to look after a child properly. Women who have had abortions are always judged by people who are narrow minded...but just what would the people who judge do if they found themselves in a situation where they are in poverty and are pregnant...fathers ran for the hills...half way through college...hmm i wonder. No woman should ever be labled a "baby killer" for aborting...Theres obviously a good reason why she did it...but some people are to stupid to understand. Have an abortion - baby killer Put kid up for adoption - shes so selfish...how could she do that? Keep the baby- oh my god shes so young...she will never cope. We live in a world where you will always be judged...but keep in mind...you made a hard decision all by yourself and for the right reasons...never ever feel ashamed. Xxx