hi,
im 21 years old and im pregnant i have a three year old daughter that i am takin care now in my own, i scared to get an abortion but i dnt wanna b stuck with another baby rasing it on my own. i never had an abortion this will b my first one and promise my last. without my mom help i wouldnt know what to do. my mother dnt want me to have an abortion and i really dnt. but im still tryna finish nursing school and its going hold me back even more.im just so emotional, confused right now dnt know what to do :-(
im 21 years old and im pregnant i have a three year old daughter that i am takin care now in my own, i scared to get an abortion but i dnt wanna b stuck with another baby rasing it on my own. i never had an abortion this will b my first one and promise my last. without my mom help i wouldnt know what to do. my mother dnt want me to have an abortion and i really dnt. but im still tryna finish nursing school and its going hold me back even more.im just so emotional, confused right now dnt know what to do :-(
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Hi Guest,
You sound like you don't really want to have an abortion. Please don't. The child you carry is another human being and deserves to live. There are many options out there. A mother of a close friend of mine
works in the adoption industry and there are so many families that cannot have children that are just waiting for a child. The option to give your child up is always there if you feel you don't have the resources to raise another baby right now. I know it must seem like having another baby will ruin all the plans you've made for yourself. But that doesn't have to be
true. If you choose to carry this baby to term there are many agency's
that have resources and that can support you during your pregnancy as
well as point you to organizations that will be of help to you. One agency is The Aid to Women Center. I'm not sure if you live in Toronto, but if you do this is the address and number.
416-921-6016
300 Gerrard Street East
Toronto, ON
M5A 2G7
They can help you with this decision.
I am so sorry for the pain and emotional upheaval you must be going through right now. I am days away from turning 21 myself and I can only imagine what this struggle must mean for you. But please know that there is hope. If you choose to have this baby there are options like open adoptions where you can still have the child in your life but you don't have to provide for him or her. These kinds of choices will leave you with no regrets. Abortion is a final decision and one that you will never be able to take back. Don't allow anyone to take the life of your child. I read in your post about your 3 year old daughter and I think you made a beautiful decision in allowing her to live and to contribute to this world. Trust your instinct. Allow your unborn baby to live. If you need any help finding resources to get through school or organization to help I have many contacts and I can try and help you. Lastly, it sounds like your mom would be supportive if you decide to have your baby, lean on her and trust her to help you get through this emotionally and physically. It sounds like she really loves you.
God bless.
You sound like you don't really want to have an abortion. Please don't. The child you carry is another human being and deserves to live. There are many options out there. A mother of a close friend of mine
works in the adoption industry and there are so many families that cannot have children that are just waiting for a child. The option to give your child up is always there if you feel you don't have the resources to raise another baby right now. I know it must seem like having another baby will ruin all the plans you've made for yourself. But that doesn't have to be
true. If you choose to carry this baby to term there are many agency's
that have resources and that can support you during your pregnancy as
well as point you to organizations that will be of help to you. One agency is The Aid to Women Center. I'm not sure if you live in Toronto, but if you do this is the address and number.
416-921-6016
300 Gerrard Street East
Toronto, ON
M5A 2G7
They can help you with this decision.
I am so sorry for the pain and emotional upheaval you must be going through right now. I am days away from turning 21 myself and I can only imagine what this struggle must mean for you. But please know that there is hope. If you choose to have this baby there are options like open adoptions where you can still have the child in your life but you don't have to provide for him or her. These kinds of choices will leave you with no regrets. Abortion is a final decision and one that you will never be able to take back. Don't allow anyone to take the life of your child. I read in your post about your 3 year old daughter and I think you made a beautiful decision in allowing her to live and to contribute to this world. Trust your instinct. Allow your unborn baby to live. If you need any help finding resources to get through school or organization to help I have many contacts and I can try and help you. Lastly, it sounds like your mom would be supportive if you decide to have your baby, lean on her and trust her to help you get through this emotionally and physically. It sounds like she really loves you.
God bless.
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Let me live mom, please! Going to hell is terrible, it is terrible to be the baby, homebirth is safer and cost less. The baby will grow and become a good help. look for Prolife organisations. The risk of getting all kinds of health problems is worse than childbirth, and adoption is possible. Let Your daughter know I already love her baby, and so does God.
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im sorry to say this - but to all the people who say abortion is "the brutal murder of a child" is highly unfair. Especially if you have not been in that situition yourself. It's not right to judge people for doing it. Also, if the world was full of unwanted children imagine how messed up their future would be.
not to mention allowing your body to have a period is nature's way of abortion, but just because you lose the potential child [the egg; a haploid cell, the "potential child" once fertilisation occurs, becomes diploid and forms a zygote (the first stage of embryology), but the genetic information is there to basically call it a "half-child," your "half-child" ] every month during menstration does that mean your going to keep getting pregnant to avoid killing an egg/potential child??
that would be unrealistic and unfair to subject anyone to that. People shouldn't make such daring statements so bluntly unless you want to alienate your audience. Don't be so harsh. Think of all you options. I'm not saying yay or nay to either. If it was me, id get the abortion, my friends sister got pregnant at 17, and it's her son's second birthday today actually, but, she's sacrificed so much for him. And after you give birth to a child, people tend to forget that your responsible for it for the rest of your life. The father walked out "because he could" and she's raising him at home with her family, who are very supportive now. Looking back, they love him, and think he's a blessing to them; however if it was me i couldnt go through with it for a a phobia of pregnancy. also i could never make the sacrifices, or take the responsibility that comes with a child. She never had the chance to go to college, or she can't be with her frieds every night there out. Something like this couldn't have happened to a nicer girl. But it did, to a family ill-experienced with infants, but its a learning curve they crossed and are glad to have done so.
hope i could have been some help :D
not to mention allowing your body to have a period is nature's way of abortion, but just because you lose the potential child [the egg; a haploid cell, the "potential child" once fertilisation occurs, becomes diploid and forms a zygote (the first stage of embryology), but the genetic information is there to basically call it a "half-child," your "half-child" ] every month during menstration does that mean your going to keep getting pregnant to avoid killing an egg/potential child??
that would be unrealistic and unfair to subject anyone to that. People shouldn't make such daring statements so bluntly unless you want to alienate your audience. Don't be so harsh. Think of all you options. I'm not saying yay or nay to either. If it was me, id get the abortion, my friends sister got pregnant at 17, and it's her son's second birthday today actually, but, she's sacrificed so much for him. And after you give birth to a child, people tend to forget that your responsible for it for the rest of your life. The father walked out "because he could" and she's raising him at home with her family, who are very supportive now. Looking back, they love him, and think he's a blessing to them; however if it was me i couldnt go through with it for a a phobia of pregnancy. also i could never make the sacrifices, or take the responsibility that comes with a child. She never had the chance to go to college, or she can't be with her frieds every night there out. Something like this couldn't have happened to a nicer girl. But it did, to a family ill-experienced with infants, but its a learning curve they crossed and are glad to have done so.
hope i could have been some help :D
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Yeah but even if you look at it in that perspective it is still an abomination in the eyes of God and the sooner people realize this the world might be a decent place to live instead of being a brutal place of murder
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All women should be free to make the choice that best suits their lives and priorities. If that is having a child, good for you. If that is having an abortion, good for you.
Just be sure that you are doing what YOU feel is right, not your partner, your parents, your friends, a random group of people on the internet who think one or the other choice is superior. The whole point of freedom of choice is to take that freedom, think on it for a few moments, deliberate the consequences of the decision (are you ready to sacrifice your time in having a baby? Will you ever come clean with your conscience if you have an abortion?).
I was told, in the same position: "You'll come out this much stronger than you were before." And that's the truth. Whichever decision you make will be tough. Try to align your head with your heart on the matter.
Good luck!
Just be sure that you are doing what YOU feel is right, not your partner, your parents, your friends, a random group of people on the internet who think one or the other choice is superior. The whole point of freedom of choice is to take that freedom, think on it for a few moments, deliberate the consequences of the decision (are you ready to sacrifice your time in having a baby? Will you ever come clean with your conscience if you have an abortion?).
I was told, in the same position: "You'll come out this much stronger than you were before." And that's the truth. Whichever decision you make will be tough. Try to align your head with your heart on the matter.
Good luck!
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I honestly say if the man isnt around, and assuming your not finished with highschool. You should not have the baby
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Hi sweetie don't worry I'm 18 and pregnant as well if you don't feel ready don't have the baby especially if your still in school but if you are ready and willing go for it god will bless you and goodluck
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hi, i do not believe in abortion, and i absolutely believe that there are other options. you can give it up for adoption, you can give it to a trusted family member, but in my mind abortion is NOT the way to go. I know that you posted this over a year ago, i just really hope you didnt abort that baby.
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